Full Moon In Leo – Massive Drama ‘Round Here aka “I AM NOT DORIS DAY!”
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Last night I picked the soldier up at his truck. Driving home, I nodded up at the full Moon. “Told you,” I said. “Told you that Moon was going to cause you some emotional problems,” I said.
“Yeah, I didn’t know it would be you,” he said. I didn’t answer because matter of fact it was me… or us rather.
The full Moon was conjunct Mars, opposing the Sun and Venus. I told you there would be male/female conflict. It was very personal to us as the whole business squared the soldier’s Moon Neptune in Scorpio while setting off my natal Venus Neptune square and it was not a pretty sight!
With Mars aggravating my Venus in Ego, I mean Leo I became very indignant and reasons that were confused (Neptune). Attacking a green beret, even a retired one should be considered foolish but that has never stopped, P, so I started screaming and once fired upon, my husband started up with own shit and let me tell you he’s got some. We are both loaded for bear… and tiger and moose and kangaroo and whatever else you send our way and once we get our adrenaline to kick in, look out!
We were fighting (on the phone) into the night about some nebulous (Neptune) thing I can’t even remember when he said something cutting. I can’t remember what it was but I am sure it was Scorpionic and it hit my Venus and I said, “Now you’re getting insulting, I am going to hang up.” *Click.
I had this horrible feeling in my gut even though my intellect knew we were fighting over nothing but I was exhausted so I went to sleep right away, even though I felt sick. Now has this ever happened to you? I woke up 7 hours later in the exact same emotional state I went to sleep in. Isn’t that strange?
It’s happened before but not very often. Typically you wake up with a hangover after a long night of emotional discharge but this was one of those mornings and I work up right where I left off the night before. It was like there was no break or sleep at all.
We avoided talking for the early part of the day but he was headed home so eventually we did call each other and of course, took right up where we left off.
I realize this may be incomprehensible to some but there comes a point with both us where we start to act and react like animals. I don’t know any other way to say it, this is what it is and this and once we are in survival mode then we’re in survival mode. He is a rhino charging. Once he’s coming he’s got little chance to stop and I am akin to a bullfighter, making him madder, madder, madder and madder while I am pretty damned mad myself. Neither of us have much of a brake but anyway, after much howling about how I AM NOT DORIS DAY, we relaxed last night and it’s both a relief and a phenomena. We have noticed we do tend to fight right as we are getting together as outlined here: Mess with Dogs – Get Bitten
We have no actual problem with each other that I know of. I think it’s just in the blood (and the synastry of course). What is especially queer is once we stop fighting, there is no injury on either side. We just stop at some point and go back to our regular way of relating which is enormously enjoyable.
It is the EXACT pattern we played out when I tried to kill him when we were teenagers – Love, Ritual, Anger…
Do you have a pattern with your partner that you play out over and over again?
20 Responses to “Full Moon In Leo – Massive Drama ‘Round Here aka “I AM NOT DORIS DAY!””
Dawn, that is right. It’s a discharge.
The fact is he is too intense for *everyone* and so am I. In fact he considers me to be FAR further out than he is and I think he may be right about that. In whatever case, we never actually hurt each other, we have no damage whatsoever once we’re spent and it doesn’t even feel like this (spent). We simply quit fighting and do something else instead.
Other times we take breaks from our fight, go to eat, even go out and eat and then come home and start right back up.
One thing though, never, ever get between us. If you do Zzzzzt! BUG ZAPPER
Seriously though, we know what we are doing and we need no help to do it, it is instinctual.
With my current partner it’s mostly me not speaking up about very concrete things that are bugging me, tension mounting and then exploding. He is a quadruple Aries, and usually deals with any kind of frustration he might be feeling directly. I’m a typical Libra in that I do find it quite difficult to speak up if I fear I’m offending someone. The Saturn in Libra and Pluto squaring my Sun and his Moon seems to be working, though: I think I’ve become much more assertive in the past month or so.
elsa- i have a question… i’ve never seen the chat module on the sidebar, and i’m on here pretty often. im using google chrome… is it only compatible with certain browsers, or.. am i just always on when you’re not?
Just to answer one of the questions: YES, i have definitely woken up in the morning in the SAME state of mind/mood that I had when I went to sleep. And it sucks. I always hope I’ll sleep it off — sometimes it happens, sometimes not–
Well, that is a good thing indeed that you can do this without damage. Otherwise, it would be very deterimental to both of you, but obviously you two have something that needs to discharge as you say, like a volcano, and it’s nothing personal, just has to release itself. Wish I had a partner that could do that with no scars left. I think it can build strength between two people who understand why and what they are doing and then feel they can just go on. It’s like a tie that binds so to speak. In a good way.
As much as I hate to say it, this is the same with Mr. Gemini and I. We get heated and then we calm down and things are fine. But, man – we both get our panties in a twist and it’s all out war.
In a lot of ways, I envy Elsa. I absolutely cannot do that kind of “sparring” with my lover…chalk it up to a moon in Libra (I get physically sick to my stomach when I have confrontations).
With that said, I can relate to going to sleep and waking with the same emotional mind set..
It can be exhausting for some of us
Welcome, AriesSun. I get sick from it too… my Libra, however once it gets going it gets going. We don’t fight like this very often. Every couple months.
Yes, that exact feeling – and it is a bizarre one – of waking up in precisely as furious/volcanic/out-for-blood a mood as I was when I fell asleep. I’ve had that. Never had experienced it before I got married but my husband and I have some not very pretty Ascendant-Venus-Mars issues in the Fixed Sign department. All four of them! Lots of Aquarian and Leo from me and a triple threat of Leo-Scorp-Taurus from him. Hmm- ugly! And we both loathe letting things drop, but of course. But after ten years, teh frequency has dropped way, way off. So I guess that’s progress – ??? (Not 100% sure about that, LOL!)
Okay…wait a minute….this is too funny!! My husband and I have this ritual that we do every so often and neither one of us can figure it out. The last couple of days have been monumental with the shouting and blah, blah, blah…..over nothing. I keep asking, when I can catch my breath, “what the hell is this about again?,” and he literally just has to say one word….doesn’t matter what word, and I go off again and then he does the same and we are trying to outshout each other. The whole time, my dog, Molly is laying in her bed (across from me) and so OH UHMMMM, about the whole thing. The funny part is the last part that Elsa mentioned, being the coming together that triggers it. My husband and I don’t live together, but see each other pretty regularly and talk everyday, but we are about to take a trip for 2 whole weeks starting tomorrow and we do this routine everytime……that is freaky funny to me…..
But, I can say that we will both have the best time while away from everything and everybody…..I can’t wait….
I definitely wake up sometimes after a fight, feeling as drained as I was the night before. It’s a deep hole in my chest, an abyss of sadness that longs for happier days.
To answer Petra, I totally understand the issue with fighting or disagreeing..sadness lingers for days.
yep once every few months my husband and i really get into it. usually i blowup over some seemingly insignificant thing, which then leads to a big fight and me eventually spewing for an hour or so until i get to the root of what was really bugging me. he gets defensive, yells at me. i get angrier and say more cutting things. then we get exhausted. stop. and eventually commiserate on how tired we feel and how we’re glad we got that out. sometimes we make up more dramatically 
this makes me feel less weird
every couple months we have a big blowup…
(lots of fixed signs… synastric cross & conjunctions in taurus, leo, and aquarius… and i have scorpio in aspect, too)
and usually end up getting around to figuring out ways we’re being stupid and projecting on to each other… so eventually it can be productive. because then we can fix things. but it’s so painful…
and we’re pretty much never actually arguing about the topic at hand… it’s some underlying confusion.
I’m beginning to think having the confrontations is better since it clears the air about issues (Bottling things up eats away at you psyche).
On the other hand, wyrdling has it right, usually your “buttons are pushed” and you are reacting to something totally unrelated to the topic you’re arguing about…
Yes, underlying issues. Thus for some it’s a power struggle, for others just relieving stress and for others a good way to get to make up more dramatically as Venusflytrap said. It is draining! But sometimes it’s like a good cry. It just has to GET OUT!
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OMG Elsa! When my husband and I used to fight (soon to be my ex-husband)we would have the most intense power struggles over nothing, like where to put certain things. They would spiral into three or four hour deadlocks. I would be so pissed and when I woke up the next day, same thing. Felt just like where we left off. I have read that that is the cortisol build up from all the stress. Anyways, he on the other had would be just drained. I felt fine and ready to go!…lol I guess my Scorpio Mars is much stronger than his sensitive Cancer Mars and Pisces moon. Which drove me crazy sometimes. Because sometimes, you just have to get it OUT!!