I find people pretty easy to understand. Kids are an exception because they are just not fully formed and developed but I have a remarkable easy time uncovering the essence of an adult.
Part of this is due astrology, part of it due a lifetime of intense study but a lot of comes via the gift of a broad mind. Basically, if you have too many rules then everyone you meet gets pigeon-holed. All men, blah blah. All women are like my ex-wife. If he didn’t call it means blah, blah, whatever your negative belief about yourself is. There are other traps and a lot of them.
In whatever case, I think I can fathom people because I am super open to fathom them which I would be with Jupiter trines to the 8th house. But there are the exceptions or more succinctly, the anomaly exists and the soldier and I were talking about a gal like this last night.
Now really I can’t think of another (adult) person I can’t get a fix on but this gal cannot be understood be me at all. I am simply unable to resolve her behavior over the course of her lifetime. I can see pieces repeating and various themes but they just don’t gel and I don’t think they ever will.
This is strange because I really can’t think of another person where this is the case. Not one! I mean, I can understand a psychopath. I can understand what is driving this or this or that or this other. I can understand and accept the perimeters of insanity but this gal just baffles me completely. It’s like holding all the cards – I can see them plain as day but I just can’t make a hand of them which to someone like me… well it just makes my eyes bug out is all.
Is there someone in or around your life you just can’t fathom at all? Tell us.
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Yeah! That’s the type I am talking about. It’s like they’ve got their own private tape playing upside down and backwards. It’s not that they are trying to be intriguing, or even that they are in intriguing. It’s something else but I am at a loss as what the something else is.
I once knew a man who survived polio. He was profoundly crippled yet defied everyone with his ability to walk. No one could believe he could do but he could do – he had this particular gait and way to balance his weight (his left side all the way down was just about worthless) so that he could live without a wheelchair and while it was really shocking to doctors throughout his life, it could still be fathomed.
I mean it was not unfathomable because you could see how he had his balance / counterbalanced, etc. This other thing is on the outer edge of something like that.
I have to think about this before answering — but in the meantime, what a fascinating topic!
Dorothy, that guy sounds like a type I know. They’re anxious to be in a relationship, but they’re so scared that they’ll get rejected they set themselves up to be rejected by being difficult. (They can also be very restless sorts.)Finally when the other person just can’t stand it anymore and leaves or demands change, the person has this attitude; “see! people always leave me!” Rejection is familiar and somehow better than being in a relationship.
It doesn’t make much sense and the people who do it aren’t very self-aware at all, but it’s not completely inexplicable. (Your guy’s case may be different, though.)
Or it could be a “prove you love me” sort of thing.
“they just don’t gel”
One of my siblings is like this. She is essentially living in a convent while refusing to be a nun and it is confounding.
I feel like this inexplicable person, and probably people around me are as confounded as I am. A few days ago I found something on another astro blog, Skywriter by Donna Cunningham, that made some sense for me. “They just don’t gel” might be the case where, for me, the gel-work keeps being built on a foundation that really needs to be jackjammered away. Very old and out-dated beliefs, inherited beliefs included are held onto long after they are of any good (lots of stead-fast/stubborn aspects). Perhaps the gellying will never happen, maybe the right jackhammer shows up very late in life. It is boggling, and yet I am learning to like jackhammers.
Here’s the link to that post that connects to Donna Cunningham’s writing and comments, for any interested.
http://vardofortwo.blogspot.com/2009/12/energetic-jackhammering-some-times.html
Very interesting Mokihana – thanks for the link!
Jupiter trines my Scorp Pluto. I get what you’re saying; I’m impossible to faze. I don’t know about the inexplicables though.
Well I outlined my thoughts on this gal very succinctly last night to absolutely no avail. This was after offering examples of several people we know in common and outlining their character very clearly. They are just no going out of bounds of their bounds. Even if their bounds are way out there they are there and can easily be seen. But this gal makes no sense.
I mean even if you are crazy, you still make sense – you’re crazy and you are crazy in ways that can be defined. Maybe a person is super stupid – well that is a definition, same as people who are super smart – too smart.
And people do evolve, this is also predictable. They get older, they mature, things catch up with them for good or ill. They figure things out, let’s say and you can see this over time, a person develops. But this particular gal, not one thing falls in to place.
And you can say that something happened to her (as the soldier did) but I say something happens to everyone so that’s not it. It’s damned weird.
I’d look into this but I am not interested in the woman if you can believe that. I am interested that she exists though.
Here’s the story I promised about the strange SIL. I’ve met other people who are close to their mothers, but this doesn’t even come close to healthy.
The woman is jealous of anyone who takes her mother’s, my MIL’s, time away from her or her kids. Yep, that includes the other grandkids, her three siblings, and her FATHER.
When she was in her teens and early 20s, she would go out in her car and look for my ILs if they didn’t come back from wherever they were when they said they would.
Fourth of July weekend 2007: We went away to Atlantic City with the ILs. We weren’t even there a half hour when the witch called MIL, screaming and crying (I could hear her) about a missed playdate. The kid wasn’t upset about it at all, but the mother was at the point of a nervous collapse. FIL said, “Can’t we have even one day of peace?”
The woman gets upset and resentful whenever the ILs take a weekend trip to Atlantic City. She hates when the ILs want time to themselves, because it means they’re not around to watch her kids OR MIL is not around to go shopping with her. (She’d throw fits if either of the two daughter-in-laws ever went on a shopping trip with MIL.)
The woman throws fits when MIL volunteers to watch the other grandchildren, but she dumps her kids on MIL regularly, justifying it with “I’m the daughter; these other kids only belong to daughter-in-laws.”
There’s a lot of behavior out there that disgusts me, that I write about regularly here, but this woman baffles me.
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