Keeping Promises, Following Through On Threats, Lack Of Consistency And Happiness
Astrology in real life
I had this on my mind in April, 2007 – Keeping Promises. I was bothered at the time at how few people do what they say they are going to do.
Fast forward 2.5 years and I have my sister, Annalisa talking in terms of “blood” as of today. I talk about what’s in the blood, or what is in our blood all the time but today she made reference of her own which I appreciated.
To tie these two things together I called, Annalisa last week to check our family quality. I’d realized that I always follow through. Promise or a threat, it makes no difference. If I tell you I am going to do it, I am going to do it and I wanted to know if she thought this ran in the family.
I can’t remember everything, see? I know I have this quality, my kids have this quality but I don’t know where I got it. I mean I suspected it was rooted but where?
I was hoping to have her come back with, “Henry used to preach this all the time…” Or, “This happened and you swore this…”
She didn’t have anything like that but she did feel this is family trait which was important for the puzzle I’m trying solve. And having this come up again, I still marvel at how rare it is people do what they say they are going to do except this time it’s from another angle.
Recently I made a threat which I followed through on and the person was just stunned to the core. I realized the gal was stunned to the core because her words don’t mean anything. Because her words don’t mean anything she assumes others are a inept? I think this is the case.
Later, in processing I was talking to satori…
“I have been on my blog to say if someone breaks into my house I will empty the entire gun into their body and I am not kidding. I am not saying this to see how it sounds coming out my mouth. I said it because it’s exactly what I am going to do…”
In whatever case, I still think this is a a very rare quality. A woman tells a man she is going to leave him but she stays. Very common. Examples like that abound.
I guess the message here is this: Some of us mean what we say but there is another angle.
Remember when I touched on the soldier’s theory of consistency? He doesn’t think you can be happy if you lack consistency and I expect he’s right.
This is all Saturn stuff of course. If you can’t keep a foot on the ground… well you’re just going to have trouble is all.
17 Responses to “Keeping Promises, Following Through On Threats, Lack Of Consistency And Happiness”
I just re-read that older post and was surprised to see I wrote “I have a sordid history of unfulfilled promises”
I don’t even have one teensy clue what the fuck I was talking about…did I mean other people are inconsistent with me? Am I inconsistent??????????:::draws a blank::::
I do have Uranus opposing my Sun and my Mercury…I can change my mind on a dime and so in lots of life-circumstances I ask other people for a ‘get out of jail free card’
If they say, no motherfucker, you’re doing this for me, I need you! yep, I’ll do it. Saturn aspects every planet in my chart. So I need my flake-break sometimes:)
Oops, almost forgot as far as this being a saturn thing, could it be “cracks” in the foundation in someones character or their “blindspot”?
Thanks Elsa!!! Saturn is my ruling planet, but then sometimes Mars thinks he is in charge, and then Venus and Neptune disagree. I am as consistent as cement, except when I am stirred up, which happens from time to time. Maybe I am a work in progress, but most of the time I do what I say I am going to do. Thanks Saturn, you old bastard.
oh I do it! and it took me a long time (30years) to realize that other people don’t mean what they say. if I’m wrong I’ll say I’m wrong, but I will do just exactly what I say.
When I was a very little girl I got in trouble at school for biting an aide who wanted to see a picture of me, and I said if you don’t let go I am going to bite you. She got bit and I went to the principals office completely unrepentant.
I pretty much always follow through with what I say I am going to do – I take promises from others seriously as well, and if someone breaks them over and over, I walk away.
I know people can’t always come through, but if there is a pattern of that, I just can’t keep expending energy on the relationship. This applies to anyone – even family.
i don’t even think i go around saying I’ll do anything to/for people much. i just do whatever i need to do when the time comes.
the people close to me know that i’ll do anything for them, pick their kids up from school or whatever. and if i’m not sure if i can do something i’ll just say so.
the more i write about it, the less i think this circumstance occurs in my life much, at all.
If I can’t do it, I won’t promise it. If I can, I’ll just do it.
If I tell everyone what I’m gonna do, the excitement surrounding my goal goes bye-bye. I love being full of surprises. BAM.
I always do what I say I am going to do, and am always surprised when those around me don’t (though I shouldn’t be by now).
I try never to make promises unless I’m sure I can keep them, so I always hedge. But I’m amazed at how often people think you said you were going to do something (not for them but in general) when you said you were kind of vaguely toying with the idea of doing said thing.
I guess it’s all about communications there. I have Mercury in detriment so perhaps my style is a little floaty on occasion.
Was that wishywashy enough?
i wish everyone would give the astrology when they comment, i know it is an open blog but it is so much more interesting when the astrology is indicated… i am not trying to be rude. just a comment… my 3rd house is picies and i tend to speak in a dreamy somtimes confusing way, mercury in scorp- do not like to divulge too much, saturn is my chat ruler,cap rising and saturn is on the dsc (the handel of a bucket aspecting everything else). i don’t always follow through, most of the time i do- but not always-sometimes it is just not possible.. but regarding constency and happiness… i interperted this differently, i agree that consistency is fundamental to be happy (the only earth in my chart is the asc) but for me being consistent is who i am- i don’t change for others, my core has always been the same, rock solid, the same me for everyone and anyone from all walks of life. that is why two people who have nothing appareantly in common at my party (aqua moon) can both laugh when they are roasting me- because whether at the white house or at the local dive bar- i am me, consistenly me (spelling errors and all). you can take the girl out of peoria, but you can’t take the peoria out of the girl. same goes for saturn.
I keep my promises, but have learned not to over promise. I thought about this some more and realized that with Jupiter way up on top of my chart, I tend to believe that I can do great things, and sometimes I can, but if there is someone I tend to over promise, to it’s myself.
“i don’t even think i go around saying I’ll do anything to/for people much. i just do whatever i need to do when the time comes.”
110% concurrence! I don’t promise, I just do. And if I do actually promise something, I will deliver. Maybe not always on time, but I will deliver.
One of the things that my parents always said about this when I was a child stuck with me: “Don’t threaten what you can’t carry out.” So, applying that to non-threatening things, I learned to only say what you were willing to back up, period. It’s like honesty, it makes your life simpler if you and the people around you know you’re good for your word.
Is it any surprise I have Mercury conjunct Saturn? *laughs* Responisble communication: I has it. 
I can’t tell you how much this touched me. Maybe because I’m an Earth sign? Or maybe because I have Mercury Opposite Saturn? Or maybe because I would SO enjoy others being who they say they are and doing what they say they’re going to do.
Thanks Elsa for the insightful post. I read this just before going to bed last night and then couldnt sleep cuz my brain was on fire with thoughts regarding all this.
I agree: yes–it is rare to come across people who actually do what they say and say what they mean. The soldier is right in saying that lacking consistency makes real happiness (self-fulfillment, goals and dreams, etc.) more elusive. A recent situation regarding this principle helped me make an important change in my life…
I had told myself that if my at-the-time partner did not fulfill a simple (but crucial) need of mine within the relationship by summer’s end, that I would leave him. Simple as that. Basically I had made that contract with myself in order to stand up for my rights and respect. So as September rolled around, nothing had changed or even improved…but I found myself still in the relationship, unhappy and as confused as ever. There was a deep moment of realization when I saw my folly. Finally, I came up with the strength I needed to walk away when I realized that I was going back on the promises I had made to MYSELF.
I find it easier to keep the promises I make to others than the ones I make to myself. Deep down, I think that this signals a sort of inner disrespect that can be quite damaging to your core.
Now, to apply this principle to the other aspects of my life…not just to the romantic but professional, creative, familial. The whole nine. This has something to do with responsibility and it makes sense that it has a hell of a lot to do with Saturn.
oh yes, aml. Just read your comment:
I am Libra sun, Aries moon, Cap rising.
thanks for putting the astro in !! 
this post hit me as well, thanks elsa p.
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Good point, if you lack consistency do you lack character, commitment, honor? Who is truly happy if you do not possess those traits. A man is only as good as his word.