I don’t think people send greeting cards via snail mail the way they used to. I know some people don’t like e-cards due fear of computer viruses and the like so…

Do you appreciate getting Christmas cards or birthday cards via snail mail? Do you send them yourself? How about e-cards? Is this generational?

Email / texting has pretty much replaced letter writing but how come e-cards have not done the same with paper cards?

This is a Saturn in Libra question.  What do “good manners” dictate in 2010?

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17 Responses to “Good Manners In 2010: Greeting Cards – Birthday, Christmas, etc – Do You Send And Enjoy Getting Them?”

1.
Devin
Devin

I am 25, having received cards all my life I think myself and my family (which is big) all feel that texting or email is no substitute for a card.

 
2.
Vajra
Vajra

Well I am probably not the best one to ask as to what good manners are as I have my own unique opinions about such things, but for what they are worth…

I never open e-cards because of computer viruses, trojans, adware etc and wish people would not send them as then I feel bad for not opening them to see what they had to say.

As for snail mail, I don’t get a lot of christmas cards, because I don’t send any. On the rare occasions that I do send one, it is either handmade or particularly lovely, sent with a letter too. I would LOVE to receive one like this – I love the concept of snail mail art and am now thinking I should get out there and do more of it this year.

Receiving cards is a mixed bag. I appreciate that anyone thinks of me at all, but getting a non-descript card with just a signature in it seems to me a waste of money and paper and postage and fuel to get it to me, and it ends up in the trash (then I feel bad for throwing it out immediately) unless it is lovely to look at or has a personal sentiment that makes me display it for pleasure for a few weeks. I always think to myself, why bother with this ritual unless you can make it meaningful?

 
3.
Moni
Moni

I hate ecards! I am very sentimental and I love to save all my cards. I have cards from my grandmas and parents from when I was a child. They cheer me when I’m down and remind me of them and the good times. I believe sending an ecard shows a lack of caring. It is very easy to click a button and send multiple ecards. I usually spend a lot of time picking out just the right card for my friends and family, and then handwriting an apopropriate message. Soon nobody will even remember how to write a letter. The texting, email is convenient, but does not replace snail mail.

 
4.
donederin
donederin

Before I started my summer travels, I was on a shredding purge… Shredding all those damn cards I’ve been saving for donkey’s years.

Aquarius hates the idea of obliged sentiments… It seems the only time I’m happy sending my wishes are when they are genuinely spontaneous – it seems more real and valid to me. I love receiving thoughtful expressions of genuine expression.

It really broke my heart to go through all my old mail and read it again – maybe I was just young, but I didn’t absorb a lot of very nice things that people took the time to write and mail me.

But maybe that’s why they stuck around in my life until now – so I could really appreciate and then let go.

I have Libra – where the hell is all this Libra coming from, cause it’s sure not showing in my chart! Just a seventh house Uranus tranist. *sigh*

 
5.
shell
shell

I still send out Christmas cards. I actually look forward to Christmas because of that reason. I love looking for the perfect box set of cards…buying a book of stamps…wallet sizing a dozen pictures of my kids in front of the Christmas tree…and hand-addressing each envelope. I still send my grandma, my in-laws, and my best friend who moved to Chicago actual birthday cards and gifts. This is one of the many reasons I loathe technology!! But I can’t complain about it completely, because without tehnology how else would I have elsaelsa???

 
6.
Neith
Neith

I send both e-cards and regular greeting cards. Used to send out over 100 cards at Christmas but fewer and fewer people return the favor. Since we have a limited budget these days, we are exchanging cards only with those who send us one. I also write a newsy letter & make copies to send in the cards. The older people on our mailing list really appreciate those.

For an astrologer who almost never forgets a person’s sun sign, I’m very bad at remembering to acknowledge birthdays . . . go figure! :)

 
7.
wyrdling
wyrdling

i love getting them! i put them up on the mantle andthey help me remember that there’s people out there who care about me. it can be kind of lonely so far from my family.
every couple years i send out christmas cards. sometimes in january :( i hate how crammed the holidays can be…
someday i hope to be together enough to send cards out for every birthday like my grandmas do, but right now i’ll make do with remembering to call, at least.

 
8.
mudlikesubstance
mudlikesubstance

I love the “newsletter” with pictures that my mom sends to everyone. I am not a fan of ecards nor a fan of generic cards with a signature at the bottom. Get me something that is art or something you made or just pick up the phone for that matter. Otherwise it’s just a waste.

I’ve never sent christmas cards nor do I celebrate any type of ‘non-denominational winter-time annual buy all sorts of stuff’ type of celebration. I’d rather celebrate thanksgiving as it’s full of food – sez the taurus.

 
9.
Jennifer
Jennifer

I am not big on cards, period. I don’t care much about sending them, and the only time anyone gets one from me is if I just happen to be in a stationary store a couple of days before the holiday. (I refuse to send Christmas cards, period.) As for when they are given to me, I look at a card, go “Huh”, and that’s it. But cards are a SUPER HUUUUUUUUUUUUUGE BIG EFFING DEAL for my mother and she throws shit fits if (a) she doesn’t get them, and (b) if I ever, ever throw out a single card. So I have avalanches of cards I don’t much care about. At least the e-cards tend to be funny and don’t waste the paper or give me stuff I “can’t” get rid of.

I agree with vajra: who cares about a poem someone else wrote with a signature within it, on paper? It’s not personal, it’s not interesting.

 
10.
Ambidee
Ambidee

I’m not very good at sending cards, but I like receiving them! I’d say wedding cards, birth cards, and christmas cards are still considered good manners; birthday cards and holiday cards optional. E-cards: NO. But what I like most of all is the possibility of sending (and sometimes receiving) gifts purchased via internet. Even better when there’s no special occasion!

 
11.
Bretagne
Bretagne

I don’t like E-cards and I am not into snail mail cards. I like snail mail letters,Postcards and D.I.Y cards only. I don’t give out store bought cards anymore but make my own. I think people need to be more arts-n-crafty and actually put more energy in gifts and cards etc.

 
12.
GW
GW

I tend to like the thoughtfulness behind the cards rather than the cards themselves.

It’s horrible to be forgotten.

 
13.
alphaxys
alphaxys

Err, I tend to dislike cards myself. Totally indifferent to these kinda things, though I know it’s important to many around me. I can make a great homemade card and those are the kind that I like receiving but for the most part a phone call or even not is fine for me. In my case they come across as empty gestures built on outdated rules about societal conduct. Meh! My Aqua moon would rather get a text message. (If I have a phone, which isn’t often!)

 
14.
goddess
goddess

I enjoy getting paper cards as well as e-cards, although not lots of people send them to me. Sometimes, I send out Xmas cards and sometimes I don’t. Not very regimented that way. If it doesn’t fit into my schedule or is a burden in some way, I won’t send them. Don’t want to send stress in the mail! If I want to and can do it with joy, I do.

With any kind of card I send, I always include a note or letter. One of my favorite things to do is just to tell the person I’m sending to what I appreciate or admire about them. This has always been well received and it feels like the message itself is a gift.

 
15.
isthmus
isthmus

I don’t care for generic mass produced holiday cards and find e-cards very tacky.

However, I love beautiful stationary and cards, and my friends and I send them (usually with letters or artwork and clippings) frequently even though we also often txt, twitter, facebook, etc. each other. No one my age uses email to communicate with friends – it’s for sending files, acquaintances, and work. Maybe that’s why no one uses ecards, at least in my generation.

Oh, the one standard card I ALWAYS send is a snail mail thank you note. For the host of parties, job interviews, one’s supervisor, gifts received, whatever.

My Mercury’s in 12th in Capricorn.

 
16.
Lunalie
Lunalie

Cards/personal handwritten notes always bring a smile to my face. Unfortunately because I’m so ADD, I usually forget to send them. I do send handwritten notes on a whim :) When I am at my boyfriend’s and he has to leave earlier than I, I would leave a handwritten note on top of his pillow so that it puts a smile on his face as soon as he gets home :)

 
17.
Skye
Skye

AWWw Lunalie that is super sweet.

I dont mind how Im wished Happy Birthday but I do like to get a few small messages whether it through a text, phone call, email, facebook or card. Our family always give a card on birthdays with a present, its kinda of a tradition but with friends it depends. I always give a card and small gift if Im meeting someone for their birthday and I like writing a small message of my own about them and our friendship. I did send and receive e-cards years ago as a way of communicating with overseas friends because it was instant and we attach songs we loved to the cards but haven’t sent many e-cards since facebook took off.

At the end of the day I think it’s the sentiment that counts not really how its received.

 


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