diceI wrote about the opposition in my son’s chart here: Strife Between The Parents.  That this aspect causes my son a good deal of grief is undeniable however it is in his chart. This means that constellates around him wherever he goes and I have a case in point that is stunning and simultaneously usual. It demonstrates to me that if you have something like this in your chart, you can’t run and you can’t hide.

My son and I went to therapy for awhile and while I think the therapist looks bad in this anecdote, I do not think he was incompetent in any way, shape of form. He has 30 years of counseling experience which I felt he put to very good use when working with us and knowing this only helps to make my point.  I don’t care who you are. If my son is in the room, people are prone to end up diametrically opposed with a conflict very hard (perhaps impossible) to resolve.

We were in the session working on just this issue. I told the therapist that Vid’s father and I disagreed on virtually everything 2 people can possibly disagree on. I said I thought this caused Vid a lot of problems but I had no idea how to resolve the situation.

“Give me an example of something your parents disagree on,” he asked Vid. This was back in January.

“Politics!” Vid said.

I kept a straight face.

The therapist grinned and then asked something that surprised me.  ‘Which parent thiks what..?”

“Well my dad thinks —– and my mom says ——–”

The therapist laughed.  ‘”Oh, well your dad is right!  Yep, your mother has this one all wrong… she’s just wrong is all. She’s wrong about this completely…”

I was stunned. I waited a minute to make sure what I was doing and then confronted the therapist setting up the same conflict I had just described but here’s the thing:

Vid has Libra!  So when the therapist sided with his dad, that made 2 against 1. They were men, no less, so Vid immediately slid to my side.  And there you go.

This stuff is not really resolvable unless you agree to disagree and even when you do that, it still leaves Vid holding the bag.

Do you scrutinize the people around you to feel better, or do you scrutinize yourself?  Two completely different philosophies there and I won’t be giving mine up anytime soon. This is shown in Vid’s chart by the way.

He has Jupiter and Mercury in Aries aspecting his Moon. That his mother will fight for her beliefs is vividly described in his chart (and hers) so what are we supposed to do about this, hmm?

Could it be that dice land how they land and as they were meant to land?

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5 Responses to “Children With Oppositions In Their Natal Chart… Further Outlining The Phenomenon”

1.
Lupa
Lupa

As a mother with an I often disagree with dramatically, I think you have to just accept that this is how the dice fell for our kids. Anyway I vote for passion over peace for the sake of everyone just getting along. These kids are going to have to sort out what they believe eventually. I’ve seen mine swing back and forth a bit but they continually surprise me with what they know and how sophisticated they are in dealing with this.

 
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Elsa
Elsa

Well the opposition is in Vid’s chart and constellates around HIM.

For example, he goes over the Quirky Aquarian’s house and they (routinely) get into deep conflict. The conflict?

QA thinks he is justified in hitting his sisters. Vid disagrees.

Think Vid is going to move off that? Don’t hold your breath.

 
3.
Lupa
Lupa

*nod* I understand. He’s a lucky kid to have such a wise and passionate mom to help him understand this from a young age.

 
4.
Drea
Drea

I love how you use astrology to parent your child. I’m thinking I’m going to contact you for a consultation soon for an astrobaby/astroparent reading. Meanwhile I am going back and reading all your children/astro related posts.

Looks like the therapist might have been practicing structural family therapy. Strategic (and temporarily) siding with one person is a technique used to see how fluid the family dynamic is and if tipping the balance can shake out a better interactional pattern.

 
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Elsa
Elsa

Interesting, Drea. That never occurred to me. At the time the polarization of the country was extreme and I was terrifically outnumbered in my environment. Not voting for Obama was… well, you were either someone who should be strung up, or seen as hopelessly stupid. This was back when the President himself was sending a message to the kids in the schools that there was something desperately wrong with anyone who didn’t agree with him. You might not have noticed this if you were on his side but if you were on my side, well it was one of the most painful and mind-boggling things I have ever gone through as a parent. My kids teachers and other authority figures were telling him his mother was a stupid asshole, basically. By the time this therapist joined the chorus, both my son and I were pretty much filled to the brim.

It’s not right to tell a kid his parent is lousy… especially when they are not but of course people justified this at the time, simply because there was more of them then there was of me.

 


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