Astrology, Psychology, Facebook And Various Impressions And Perceptions
Astrology in real life
qasseia asks on The Age Of The Sound Bite, regarding Facebook:
“Hmmm… you don’t strike me as a “dark heavy object” over there but maybe that means most of my friends are even darker and heavier. I’d be really curious to hear more about why you feel that way in relation to the Facebook-o-sphere if you ever have insight you want to share — it’s turning into an academic interest of mine on top of my personal addiction.”
qassseia, with a 8th house like mine, there is love of research so I am happy to discuss this for your purposes!
The feelings I have interacting on facebook are not due the application. They are the same feelings I have in any group, large or small. I always feel very dense and dark and deep (and apologetic for it) at astrology conferences for example. I am just not that light on my feet but the group can be very small and intimate and the same thing will constellate.
I have a life long friend, Leon and while we don’t see each other very often since I moved state, we ran together intensely for more than 10 years. We spent most the weekends of our lives together, it was a very close friendship and during that time he had 2 wives and I had 1 boyfriend and 1 husband.
We were a foursome and we’d travel a lot. We would also play cards and invariably, Leon and I would wind up squared off against each other and you could just tell our partners were made of a lighter material. Leon and I were the base human beings no matter what we did and our partners operated and existed some octaves higher on the scale.
This didn’t bother anyone, it just was. But Leon is a Libra (balance!) with Moon, Mercury, Venus, Saturn and the Black Moon Lilith in Scorpio. I have Libra too so what happened is we’d always play cards with me facing Leon to balance him, see?
Point is, I was a dark one in this group as well but facebook does add an serious wrinkle to the equation in that is sends out these things you post. I realize there are controls to that but I’ve not been around long enough to see them in action.
It feels different to me than writing on this blog because while participation here is purely voluntary, participation there is less so. In other words if I restrict myself and my writing to this blog, people can come and go as they please. If they are not in the mood for my kind of energy they can avoid this place for a day or two or a month or two or in some cases a year or two.
Facebook, not so. You look at your page and there are my words, like an invader. I say that not due my (hologram) low self esteem but because I can’t help but notice my updates are “sharp-edged” in comparison to other people’s.
I can try to modify this but it’s seems to be to no avail. I wind up writing about shark-infested waters, psychology and the like. I talk in code and I know from the legions of people telling me over the years, my words come across as attacking/assaultive.
With Mars conjunct Mercury they would, so what happens from my perception is I wind up, a ninja in this social environment and regretful about it. I just don’t think I am the kind of person / my kind of energy should be force fed to anyone. It’s just too jangling and abrasive, ONLINE.
In person I don’t think this is the case at all. When my whole self can be accessed, people are inordinately happy and calmed around me. I think this is because it’s very obvious by my physical presence that I am not fighting them, but on their side.
Are you markedly different online than off?
Yep, that’s Vid in the picture. He found instructions on the internet how to make that ninja get up and so he did. This is a Mars Mercury family, what more can be said?
30 Responses to “Astrology, Psychology, Facebook And Various Impressions And Perceptions”
I have no interest in Facebook, MySpace, all of that – it is a generational thing, for sure, but I have never been one who is thrilled to share information about myself, so it’s not for me.
I work with a young lady, and she was explaining to me how many times a day she updates her Facebook page, apparently she does it from her cell-phone (oh God, whatever, lol), stuff like: I am at the movies now, this movie sucks – I am stuck in traffic, this blows, etc. All I could think of is who gives a shit, aside from yourself, what the hell you are doing all day long(?) Good grief, I just don’t get it, lol.
Dorothy, I think it allows people to feel connected. There is also the voyeur angle and it’s also sort of interesting the VARIETY of things people are doing. It’s sort of a snap shot… it is reality TV, I suppose but online. And you get to pick your own characters??
Oh yeah, I get that aspect of it – I just barely have enough time in a normal day to sit down and do this, which I enjoy. I couldn’t imagine having to network like crazy with god knows how many people. And you can ask my teenage son, his parents are technology idiots – I am always asking him for help with stuff like that, and of course he does it for me, but with alot of sighing and eye-rolling going on. I even need his help to upload pictures, which is why I hardly ever do it. And this does seem to be the “look at me” generation, that is for sure.
I like receiving your daily astro weather updates on Facebook! People have the choice to have you as a friend on there or not. I don’t think you should limit your expression because someone signs you up as a friend and then starts telling you how you should behave.. kinda goes against everything you say on this blog doesn’t it!
“…this does seem to be the “look at me” generation, that is for sure.”
Dorothy, I agree but I think the underlying motivation for this is varied. In other words, the “look at me” is a fad but the deeper drives of a person remain as interesting as they ever were.
Sonia, thanks and I agree with you in principle. I still have these feelings though. I am not sure that coping with them will be worthwhile long term, we’ll see. For me it’s an experiment, I guess. All those planets in Aquarius in my first house.
“Leon and I were the base human beings no matter what we did and our partners operated and existed some octaves higher on the scale.”
Music needs bass notes Elsa. 
I don’t know anything about facebook etc. Just from what everyone has written here, I think I would be interested if my childhood friends would do it. I would like to have more interaction in their lives but they don’t time to do it.
I love seeing you on Facebook too and don’t find you too jarring, but I can be pretty dark at times so I’m not easily jarred.
There is a very easy way to opt out that I just discovered. If you hover your mouse over a person’s status update/comment/bulletin whatever you will see a little “option” button to the upper right of that snippet from that person. You can then select “less about” or “more about” in order to control what you see from that person.
Nifty, huh?
Lupa, yeah I saw that but like I said, I am too new to assimilate this really. I guess it’s another thing like xanga… you lose subs / you lose friends / you have feelings about it whether you want to or not and they have to be transcended.
In other words there is a demand (for someone like me) and I just have not discovered whether it’s worthwhile to try to meet it. I mean right now it’s sort of new and interesting but I am not sure the benefits where I am very sure of the benefits of writing this blog.
Yeah I understand there is a cost/benefit ratio. I like having you there so as long as you’re having fun with it I’ll be over there too.
Also, I would like to make some new videos, Amber, I know they are important but topics escape me and I am in such a dense phase of hard work, I just don’t get to them.
What I need is a week off but won’t see anything like that until the soldier gets a week off – at which point we are supposed to get married which will not be a week off either.
Really, I see intense demands personally (astrologically) for a long time to come. Not boring though so whatever..
it has a filter setting where you collect groups of friends, and you can choose to see what they’re up to… i tend to do that because otherwise it’s just so overwhelming.
still haven’t decided whether i want to officially join my alumni list…
I know what you mean Elsa, I have to censor myself all the time on there, I save my other stuff for where it is understood. I don’t find you too dark and heavy at all, in fact its really nice to have someone of substance over there.
I am different online. In my 3-dimensional world (heh) I’m more aware of the physical cues you can give/receive in conversation to convey a point. Online I (usually) think very thoroughly about what I’m writing because writing is important to me. I’m less casual online. It took me a very long time to feel like a human when I even started reading this blog and commenting.
I have Mercury in my 5th opposing Uranus, and I’ve heard Uranus rules technology.
So while in my life I’ve felt comfortable, say, having random conversations with strangers in the street about x,y,z being online and ‘talking’ feels different. For a long time it made me feel kind of anxious and super weird, until a lovely friend (Pisces with moon in Aquarius) pointed out it’s just a new way of going through the world…and communicating. And I do love communicating.
But I am feeling more comfortable these last few months and I no longer cringe in horror when I see old comments I’ve posted come up in your archival posts, ha ha ha.
“I no longer cringe in horror when I see old comments I’ve posted come up in your archival posts, ha ha ha.”
I know exactly what you mean Kashmiri! Sometimes I don’t even recognize myself.
Love that picture! Well done Vid!
“I don’t find you too dark and heavy at all, in fact its really nice to have someone of substance over there.”
I appreciate that, G, but keep in mind I am trying my hardest with my fingers and toes crossed and such.
We can come and go on this blog as we please, why would that be different with facebook? Just a little confused there.
The answer to the question you asked is yes which is probably linked to Mars in Gemini in the 3rd house.
What a cute baby ninja!!!!
Vid looks so adorable in his ninja suit. I am sure he wouldn’t appreciate that comment though,lol. I am a gemini sun with gem asc and merc, so all this facebook stuff is great for me, now I can be in contact with people without all the commitment,lol. Ya know what I mean? There are times when I do erase what I write cause I think it might offend,lol. I personally didn’t notice you being dark and heavy on there 
.
Facebook really is a great social-connecting tool. I have been connecting with some friends from the long gone past and it’s very surreal.
Loonsounds – Unlike a blog, on Facebook everything you post gets posted on all your Friends’ pages. Every conversation you have with other people also gets posted on your Friends’ pages. I am still figuring out the settings… some people I don’t want to know about as much as I do.
On Facebook, I think knowing that other people are “force-fed” what I post, I have to be more careful about what I post… this is a good discipline for me, I think. (A lot of my facebook contacts are professional contacts + potential clients… people I don’t know very well)
Same reason why I like Twitter… one has a limited number of characters/words to use so I am forced to keep things short and sweet and to the point.
Actually, L.C., that just is not the case at all re: facebook. If that happens to you and you don’t like it, you might want to fiddle with your settings or something.
The only thing anyone says that gets posted on my wall is if they go out of their way to post someting on my wall!!!
I have been a FAcebook person for a good while now, with over 550 friends. If everything anyone of them wrote got posted on my page, I’d go bleepin bonkers!
I am not ‘force fed’ shit on facebook!
If I want to go read somebodies writings on facebook, I have to go out of my way to do it with the intention to do it.
Nope, I’m pretty much the same online as I am offline. The reason though, I’m sure, is my comfort level on the internet, and also, the amount of time I spend communicating with the people who I care about.
For the last 10 years (ever since I’ve been out of high school) most of the friends I’ve made, I first met on the internet. I even met my husband online (though we only talked online for about a week before we went out on our first date.)
I’ve always been myself online and I’ve been lucky that I’ve never met any crazy people. Everyone I’ve ever met has been as genuine as I am, so that adds to the comfort level of using the internet as a “hangout”
Anyway though, Elsa, I do not find you abrasive, and I enjoy reading your status updates, especially when they are written in code! Why? because they are REAL. Like other people have said, you are not being force fed to anyone! People decide whether they want to add you as a friend or not!
Loonsounds – Really??? There is a way to turn off other people’s updates from showing up on my page? I knew you could reduce certain things but I didn’t know you could turn off updates. Must go investigate settings …
(I have over 200 “friends” and yes, I do go bonkers!!! )
L.C. you can set up friends groups and then only look at the friend updates from a specific group. It takes a bit of time in the beginning but then it really streamlines things.
Elsa, my perception of you has never been as a “dark heavy object”. I see your reasoning, and obviously, you know yourself better than any of us However, I’ve never seen you this way…you’ve always seemed “light, but with a razor’s edge” to me. And even though you’ve always seemed “light” to me, I’ve always felt you’re exceptionally “deep” (which I do not interpret as “dark”)…
What’s funny is that *I* always feel like the “dark heavy object” in the “room” (whether it be in person, or online), and yet I’m sure most of my friends would disagree. Hmmmm…Curious…
As for Facebook, I’ve been on there awhile. Everyone uses it differently, which I think is the beauty of it.
Thanks, Lupa!
Yeah I need to do this.
FB…I’m on that but not with my real name (because of a stalker in real life). I’m only on it to keep up with some very close friends and siblings. I have 14 friends
Elsa, you can completely restrict who sees anything you post. Mine is so restricted that people cannot even invite me to things or themselves. I have to invite them to be my friend. So it’s good that way.
I never do the status updates because it’s too stupid. I’m on it for the Mindjolt games and Mousehunt mostly.
this, it’s too funny ))
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Your videos are really good because of that. You get the language and the body language, and the grin which makes a big difference. Your writing can be ‘attacking’, but that’s language out of context.