I can relate, not necessarily in relationships but in my life in general. There’s a struggle between stability, normalcy, etc and then getting too bored and doing something stupid to stir things up (usually I do this unconsciously, only to end up slapping myself across the forehead later.)

I can TOTALLY relate!! I have the same problem! I want to be close, but I want to be free, I love so deeply but it makes me want to run. Love and fear and fear of love and just don’t know what the H is wrong with me!

YES! I can relate. (Also that last line)

Wow! That one really struck home with me. My husband and I have been “together” for 28 years. The first part of our marriage was all the traditional.. having babies, working, each had our “roles” we played, but it just stopped working for us. I was the one that wanted out….feeling stagnant and lifeless…..thought I could find “it” outside ……guess what, it opened up a whole new level of understanding and relating to me. I feel so lucky today that my husband is right here with me now. We lead completely different lives now…..we don’t even live in the same house. We have separate homes a couple miles from each other and we see each other on weekends and during the week. Perhaps it will change again, but it is very nice now and it works for us. This is not about other people…..desiring another or anything like that. This has to do primarily with each of us as individuals….we just do better with a little space and room to move around without feeling squeezed in. There is a comfort level that we have attained that I know for myself….I used to feel just as described….I wanted to RUN for the hills…..run out of town….go away on weekends by myself….just to feel free….I don’t feel that way anymore….I really look forward to our time together and I am sure he does too….I can be intense and I need alone time to dissapate and I feel safe to say he feels the same. Our family vacations in the last couple of years have been really wonderful…like family honeymoons…weird, but true.

yes.

I have this problem career-wise. I am currently solving it with two careers and a major hobby. ( I think I need more sleep though.)

About the relationship end of it. I don’t totally relate although I have a real push-pull of wanting to be close close close and then needing time for me and serious alone time. I don’t want or need another relationship I just need to be away.

That is being handled quite well because he travels for work – a lot. Two weeks out of every month January through June. It varies and sometimes is a bit more or less but that is the average and those times when he is gone we still talk on the phone or email and message but it gives me mental and emotional space for my own thang.

I don’t know if that helps you at all but from my point of view I used to feel smothered in my relationships and wonder if I wasn’t in love with him anymore or if I needed a more exciting relationship or if I needed to be single. When I finally figured out it had to do with “me” time things really clicked into place.

Yes, I can definitely relate…