Neptune Rules Avoidance… Libra Can’t Decide: Wedding? Or Coal Mine?
Astrology in real life
Today the soldier and I talked about our wedding and it did not go well. All the sudden all these people are going to be there, see.
“Sounds horrible. Sounds like a party you should have that I do not want to go to. I will go to it but I will be miserable in the situation for sure. It’s just too much attention is all. I don’t like to be the center of attention.”
“Well it’s hard not to be the center of attention when you’re the bride!” he said.
“I know that, this is why to avoid them. I avoid getting married for this reason. I avoid having a wedding that is mine because it is pretty much the worst thing I can think of… outside of going in a coal mine which I also would not like.”
Do you like being the center of attention?
34 Responses to “Neptune Rules Avoidance… Libra Can’t Decide: Wedding? Or Coal Mine?”
No. I’m the family “tonic” so to speak so that set me up for a lifetime of leave-me-the-fuck-alone…(5th House Sun square 8th House Saturn in Leo).
Yes. And No. 7th house Gemini sun = might as well be a Libra. 
“Hey everybody LOOK at ME!!!”
“Go away. Why do you all keep STARING at me.”
It’s ridiculous really. 
I’m in agreement with the “yes and no”. It’s nice to be the “it” girl, but it’s not nice to feel like everyone’s examining you.
As someone with Double Leo in her chart, that’s kinda odd, huh?
No way, Jose. My Leo sister is having the biggest wedding extravaganza ever and loving ever minute of it. And my boyfriend has been asking me … to get married … and I’m all, well, if it’s a quiet affair, maybe. I even told him I didn’t want any fancy big diamond … just a simple gold band. The new car I’m getting is a station wagon! I just want to draw the attention awaaaayyy……
Well, I don’t mind attention but I really think that only two people should be at a wedding – the bride and groom.
Then again, I don’t have family so I don’t have to worry about offending anyone.
It’s a very solemn vow and I didn’t want any distractions. I wanted to be in the moment and that’s a fete if you have an audience.
I’d run down to the courthouse get hitched and then do some spectacle for the peanut gallery.
I feel akin to MzScarlett and the soldier is ready to fight!
“You and I – we’ve earned some respect and by God people can give to us or I’ll bust ‘em in the fuckin’ jaw! It’s our day, we’ll do it the way we want… P, we’re elders, we can have whatever we want or someone is going to get their ass kicked… by me!”
Man what a day. Hearing him say this actually lightened it and I hope it does the same for you.
I have no idea how anyone enjoys their wedding although I know some do!
We eloped. We were coming out of ‘the Chapel of Love’ in Las Vegas and we weren’t married 10 minutes when he says: “I don’t feeeeeeeeeeeeeeel married’ (like a little girl). I want a church wedding like my sisters had.
I said, okay. If you want one, you have to organize it all yourself. And damn if he didn’t. I had some family alive then – it was 1984. And damn if there wasn’t almost a fistfight at the rehearsal dinner. (He and his groomsman spent the day at Disneyland drinking). We had a fight ourselves during the dinner and the minister’s wife wound up driving me home. Should I go on? LOL. That was my first marriage but we had two weddings.
Vows are not a spectator sport.
“Go away. Why do you all keep STARING at me.” aw!!! my sister has said this again and again..she has 8th house Sun and moon as well as Pluto conjunct her ascendant. however she is mind boggling beautiful. which is hard when you want to hide from the world.
“Hearing him say this actually lightened it” YAY! gooooooo LOVERS!
ATTENTION! GIVE ME!
… but I always felt I am not deserving… -_-
I walk onto the stage backwards, and leave the same way. Gemini sun 8th house, scorpio moon.
I want to be onstage, but I also don’t want it. Leo sun wants it and Aquarius rising wants to impress … but Pisces moon can’t really deal with it.
I hate being the center of attention. I interact best in very small groups (and I prefer interacting with one person at a time). At parties I am the antisocial one who feels like an alien because she doesn’t know how to act but… I was absolutely happy at my wedding. It was great sharing our vows in front of all these people. (I had a destination wedding which everyone had to travel to attend so that made sure we weeded out the people we didnt want there. I’m not the kind to invite just to be nice lol, it was our day, damn it all if we had been forced to have invited people we didn’t want to. I think that’s what made it that much better. That everyone that was there was genuinely full of love for us.)
I hope the two of you get what you both want. Since you both want to be together, I am sure you will work it out. I am happy for you both.
i like attention,can handel it fine, it is easier if i am making people laugh (that way you can bring other people in- and it is not just you under the light)… no leo, but i am surrounded by them- so maybe venus in sag…or mars in aries-
I like attention for my smarts, not for my looks. Then again, if the spotlight is on me I can’t observe others from the background the way I prefer.
that’s funny,…i was getting nervous about a big presentation i have to make and my bf said ‘just enjoy it, it’s not everyday you get to be the center of attention’. i said, that doesn’t work for me! i don’t like being the center of attention per se,…i do like the energy of talking to people about my work though. (dunno what that might be astrologically)
I like attention when I can actually show off some skill or talent, but I found it very embarassing both times to be the bride. Maybe it’s too demure? ‘Cause I actually like getting dressed up for a night on the town and don’t mind being the belle of the ball. But see, that’s a free available woman and a bride really is not.
A bride’s no Virgo, that’s for sure. (My ASC). Perhaps there is the disconnect.
I remember being totally taken by surprise the first time I got married – why is everybody looking at me??? Oh, yeah, I’m the one in the bride costume!! YUCK!! And, of course, so much of that was about meeting the expectations of our families. That marriage only laste five years. The last time I got married was in my living room – no family, just a couple of friends, no wedding dress. Fortunately, my husband agreed with me that a wedding is a private thing. To me, it’s so big, and an internal change, and so it’s just something between the two getting married. Did I have a good time? It doesn’t feel like that’s really relevant. It felt good, it felt hard, beautiful, and right for us. But the wedding itself wasn’t a party. Celebrating afterward is a different thing . . .
my leo rising can deal with attention – and i guess you can tell because i have weird colored hair, so i’m not exactly incongito – but i don’t always seek it out, either.
got married by a justice of the peace. we had two witnesses – the first two people we could find who didn’t have to be at work that day. i would have enjoyed it more if the judge wasn’t making jokes of the “shotgun wedding” variety. i thought that was kinda rude, and probably referencing the fact i was majorly pregnant. but the ceremony certainly didn’t impact the quality of the marriage…
I had the same issue with mine. I never let go of the idea of eloping. Which worked out when the family became a bunch of jerks. I finally told him either we’re eloping or we’re not getting married because I didn’t want to deal with anyone any more. At that point, finally, he agreed to elope. It was wonderful and short. My parents threw us an after party a month or two later. Much less stress.
not when it is staged. would rather be sought out and found to be the center of attention. but your wedding will be a beautiful, wonderful thing. you share your love with people on the blog. the wedding will be just like that – sharing the love and the marriage that has been a long time coming between you two with your friends and loved ones. it’s not so much a stage with a performer on it as a ceremony, where everyone showers blessings on you. you’re going to be like a candle’s flame on that day. it will be beautiful!
“where everyone showers blessings on you. you’re going to be like a candle’s flame on that day…”
c, this is an ideal… an illusion and it is very remote from facts and reality.
This is the whole problem. I cannot produce the illusion in reality. It is the reason I did not marry the soldier the first time. I just can’t come up with the hologram created in other people’s imagination… nor can I stop them from projecting one so I am just fucked.
nor can I stop them from projecting one so I am just fucked.:-) Right like everything else in life
That’s why I like the idea of getting married on your own and having the ‘faux’ ceremony for their benefit afterward.
No one at my church wedding knew we had actually gotten married before. My x got his big girly wedding with family – I got my private viva las vegas thing…
Now would you call that Neptunian (the illusion) or would you just call it ridiculous? I was trying to make everyone happy.
PS, They don’t get to be called “bridezilla” for no reason. It is stressful.
Ok Elsa, aside from illusion– what would YOU like? What would make your heart sing? I’ll bet you could handle that. Who cares if it’s what other people expect.
I hate being the centre of attention with a passion. Double Scorpio, five planets in 12th house. I much prefer to be in the shadows observing everyone else. On my sister’s wedding day, I didn’t sleep a wink the night before and was so, so nervous, yet I was only the bridesmaid!
With Sun/Mars conjunct in Leo and Aries rising, it’s inevitable that I get attention. I only like it when I’m getting it from friends and family. When I’m under the microscope and I don’t like who’s doing it, it gives me the skeeves. I have a lot of Virgo planets, and they don’t like unwanted attention.
This one sister-in-law that I can’t stand is also a Leo, with Sun conjunct Venus, both tightly opposite Saturn. This woman is constantly seeking attention, both good and bad, but mostly bad, because of the antics she pulls.
I know very little about her childhood, but the one piece of lore I know is very telling. Her mother would give in to her all the time because she was screaming her head off, i. e. looking for attention. I’ve never met anyone so hungry for attention in my entire life. She’s happy being a mean-spirited gossip hound, the center of whatever silly party she’s hosting, all filled with women who are just like her.
Just typing that made me exhausted. I don’t like parties or being surrounded by people or having to make small talk. Yuck…
no. but i teach. hah!
Start as you mean to go on, eh? Why make a huge fuss if you’re not-for-public-consumption types anyway?
When I think about getting married to my partner the irritation of having to invite a lot of people who are going to add energy I don’t want (my family, certain SO’s of friends who “must” be invited)– well, then I think “fuck it, I’m not getting married if I have to put up with that bullshit.”
I’d rather grab our closest friends– say, 10 people– no family, except maybe my sister– jet off to Utah or Colorado, and do a tiny little destination wedding. Why would I want to share my most intimate feelings about my commitment to my partner with people I dislike– or just aren’t close with– just for the sake of tradition?
Venus in Scorp in the 4th house, btw.
I am a Gemini so I get kind of antsy when no one is listening to me speak or marvels at my antics (Aquarius Rising). It’s said that the Leo wants to act in the picture, but a Gemini wants to write, direct, and star in it. It’s kind of that way for me.
I don’t want fame or to always be the person holding everyone’s attention though(6th house).
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I think my Leo stuff wants attention for sure (sun, venus, uranus), and my Scorpio stuff wants to hide and observe everyone else (rising, neptune, moon). But I think the Scorpio stuff is stronger because I like my privacy a whole lot.