Nope. I’m the one they TRY to take back two or three years later. Venus in the fishes swimmin’ back n’ forth.

It’s absurd isn’t it? Has happened to me too. I take people back only once. I agree with Wyrdling - a rat is a rat.

HA. I have had that done to me more times than i care to remember.

My exe’s will say years down the line …. ‘you were the one i should have married’ and i say ‘you’re full of bullshit’

Venus in Scorpio

Venus in Cap, Mars in Scorp.
Happens to me all the time as well with past lovers. They viciously amputate me and then contact me randomly months or years later regretting what they did and telling me how they haven’t found someone as committed or caring and yadda yadda…or they opt for the oh-so-classy booty text! I’d like to think it’s my Plutonian magnetism that keeps them coming back, haha. Yeah right.

But as far as the rat is a rat mentality…I don’t know. Because the best is when they contact you wishing you well because they truly have realized how they were in the wrong…I don’t know, it always makes me smile, because regardless, we’re all human and we all have a chance to undo our ways and genuinely attempt to make amends. I’m not saying you should let them back in your life, or that I ever do, but at least let them have the same opportunity to grow. If they’re scum, they’re scum, fine, don’t bother, but allow them their own transformation…god, that sounds hokey, but I hope I’m making sense! I’d rather not buy into the doom and gloom idea that we’re never free to change ourselves. We can’t do anything to change the past, but we can do everything to change our futures.

Venus in Virgo in case you didn’t realize that…LOL

I had a scorpio give me a booty call.
It was shortly after a break up. Neither one of us were dating other people. After the action was done. I handed him his clothes and said here its time for you to go. He looked really shocked ? he said “I don’t get to spend the night ?” my reply “No you don’t we are broke up and honestly the sex really wasn’t that good so you have not even earned the right to stay the night you need to go.” “It is definetly over”

He said “I will take you too breakfast”
I said “no here our your clothes, I am tired and you need to go”

I tried it, it felt weird and it wasn’t a good fit for me.

I’ve never felt bad about people I’ve broken up with, nor wanted them back.
If my most recent ex wanted to give it another shot, I’d give it a try as long as he apologized and acknowledged his mistakes. I don’t feel like I treated him bad or shoved him away, but I may have. If so, I’ve already apologized for whatever he felt I did wrong (which he still hasn’t told me about, and probably won’t unless I force it).

Mars-Venus-Pluto conjunct in Libra, trine Moon, sextile Neptune.

San Diablo its hard to fix something if the other person is keeping it a big secret..?

Conny - I agree.

Argh! A man with Venus, Mars, Jupiter and Moon in Scorpio treated me like that - and as far as I can tell, he’s still pining. I’ve Venus in Cancer, Moon in Cap and moving on…

Oh. 3rd Venus in Taurus.

I was with someone we split then 10yrs later we tried again and then I got out. I figured out he was the one who is always pinning for the one he is not with, if he was with me he was pining for his soon to be ex-wife and when he was with her he was pining for me. weird. He is a cap with tons of scorp in his first house. I have cap in 7th and 8th house. It was very frustrating. When I got with my husband the ex made one finaly attempt, it didn’t work thank god.

This is a fantastic question. Venus in Libra. Venus sextile Mars; conjunct Saturn; sextile Neptune; conjunct Pluto. (New to astrology - maybe you can find more meaning in these aspects than I can.) LIbra sun, I have tons of libra in my chart. I love love, and am also very afraid of it. Trusting another is very difficult. Feels like giving up freedom (tons of sag in the chart too, moon in sag). When someone gets too close - which isn’t too difficult - either I run away or, if they persist, I let them know. Not surprisingly, intimacy issues abound. I attribute it to childhood junk, but perhaps it is also present in the conjunction with Pluto?

I really wish I knew why I did it. I’m working very hard on NOT doing it - psychologically destroying a human being in order to make them go away. It’s ruined a lot of relationships with great human beings. It isn’t something I feel I have control over - feels like a form of possession. But I feel strongly that I DO have control over circumstances that lead to that weakness of being easily controlled by the flood of negative emotions, of wanting to make someone leave the scene entirely, of not knowing what else to do and so giving up entirely on a situation with someone and saying and doing anything to make them go away. (Then, of course, regretting it greatly, wishing that I could do something, that they could help me get to the root of this very thing that tortures them, and me, too.)

There is also the sense that you want to show someone (share? that’s a sick way of putting it) the ugliness that is inside of you, so that a potential partner will “know what they are getting themselves into”. Early on in a relationship, I’ll make it a point to allow this seething ugliness to come to the fore, just so that the person can make an informed decision for themselves as to whether or not they’re still interested in coming along for the ride, of climbing up the tall tall mountain together. I’ve got demons, they’ve got demons. We date not only the person but their demons, too. The way I figure, we lay it out on the table and if we’re both still game for the messed up four-way of him, me, and our respective ugly entourage, (and presuming other things are also compatible), then we’re game.

But usually I find some reason to reject a suitor, even if he has seen this and accepted it and (gasp!) loved it. That’s more than I’ve been able to do… Maybe one answer to your question is, some people just aren’t ready to be loved.

I don’t treat people like crap but I occassionally get treated like crap and still remain friends with the crappers. I would even take them back if they asked nicely.

Venus in Aquarius.

Conny has it absolutely right. My ex has Venus in Scorpio. I took him back once on a promise of change. He did. He treated me even worse. Second time I made sure he stayed away.