No, just laugh out loud.

I would, but I’m too busy plucking the hairs from underneath my chin.

LMFAO!!!
We shouldn’t shave our pits while we’re at it.

. Sorry. I like the kind that are all boy. Dudes who want to dust and have a couple’s mani-pedi date need more help than I can give them.

I just got in from raking, and was laughing the whole time thinking about this: I once dated a hockey player who used to ask for my help shaving his back. True story!!

a feminized man? no thank you! On the outside I look very feminine but on the inside… I usu. get along better with men. I’ve had enough of the feminized, sensitive types .

By now, someone must’ve brought this up…but there’s also a flip side to this. There are men who actually want to be feminized. I’m not saying every guy out there wants to put on panty hose and lip stick – but a surprising number of men (who are still very much men) do because they seek the sensuality that belongs to a woman. Men love women. They love that evanescent, ethereal charm a woman possesses. They love soft textures, skin, hair, fur, silk; they love the sweet flowery smells of our perfumes and soaps, our warmth and our softness (among our other individual virtues that attract a particular man to a specific woman). Feminization can be a way in which a man is trying to get closer to the object of his desire. It is not so different from a man trying to make love to what he loves most, to feel as sexy as the sexiest thing he can think of – a woman. So I’m saying that some women who feminize men are likely responding to the desire in the man to be feminized; which ultimately comes down to wanting to feel sexy and sensual and beautiful, too.

Moreover, when you live with a man it’s very different from dating him and living separately. Men and women both have masculine and feminine traits in varying proportions. A man and a woman are particularly apt to stay within prescribed gender roles during the courtship. When you’re living with a man, you see that he worries about his appearance, prims and preens and beautifies and even starts looking at your body scrub after a while, wondering if it will make him feel as nice as you feel, too. It doesn’t make him a chick and it doesn’t make the woman he lives with a man-hating bitch. Maybe the guy just likes bubble baths, and if there’s no naked woman around to take one with him, should he be denied the simple pleasure?

Of course, things can get kinkier…Some people play with forced-feminization, to help a man uproot the feeling that he has to be a certain way, to be strong and faultless always, always in control. It is really something to think about, the extent to which men are allowed to feel and engage in the feminine without being labeled perverts or pansies for it. There are many other things to say about this topic but this isn’t a board about female domination…
…or is it?

what are they thinking? I have known many women who want to change their man in some way. I guess it makes sense if the woman can finally get the kind of love they have always wanted. Changing the man is much like changing the way things have always work out for the woman in her life. Trouble is one cant change how things worked out in early relationships with parents in this way. Change other contracts is steering away from individual responsibility to change ones own patterning in life.

kingsley

Well also, men do the same thing to some extent. I was talking to a guy the other day and he said men are simple, all they want is beer, a sandwich and a blowjob and he only likes women who understand that.

Also I think that evolutionary developments need to be explored. A woman initially wants a man who can “protect” her; she wants someone virile and obviously with good, strong, manly sperm. But then once she gets him to stick around it’s better for her to domesticate him. A feminine man is less likely to cheat, more likely to help out with the offspring. But maybe that’s all crock.

Interesting topic! Keep it coming.

I still haven’t figured out what this ‘feminization of men’ means . My man talks about his emotions, he shaves (everywhere), he uses facial cream and he can cook, but does that mean he is ‘feminized’? I sure as hell don’t think so. And I didn’t ‘DO’ that to him either. He also goes to the pub (a lot), is a workaholic, tends to be singleminded, has a lot of testosterone.
I do know, for example, that if we have a family I will expect him to look after the kids too. Is that feminization (I would say it’s common sense)? I don’t know – if it is I am a feminizor .

Maybe these posts are about something else completely. Not sure.

yeah, i’m still wondering about what the feminization is supposed to be in one-on-one exchanges myself and have been following this discussion because of it. I saw the societal trend (think drum circles/bradshaw) several years ago where men were supposed to be more “sensitive” and talk about feelings and stuff. i considered the metrosexual trend partly from that, partly from larger acceptance of gay culture as the kids today sometimes switch sides back and forth (gay/straight relaitionships), which you never saw when i was young.

my man (whom i consider well-stocked with testosterone)- do i mother him? i dunno. i wait on his ass, though, but it’s because i want to. i get joy out of doing things for him. if i felt obligated, i’d resent it to high heaven. but as it is, i find myself laughing at my own 50′s housewife routine. it’s ironic.

but is is feminizing? i don’t want or expect him to have soft skin and smell of jasmine and vanillia, for sure! i don’t critisize his “guy interests” nor do i look for him to want or be interested in the same things i am. he’s not me. and that’s good. one of me is quite enough.

regardless of whom you hook up with, though, i learned many years ago it’s bad policy to date potential, let alone fall in love with it.

I don’t know on this but here comes Taurus…just thinking…you know, it really is soooooooo nice to be the one on top once in a while (if not ever time hehehehe)./

The soldier heard of WOMEN getting brazilian waxes and was horrified. He literally called me up requesting an explanation and the one I gave him did not satisfy.

uhm, i like rough edges, thanyouverymuch