Men And Women (Venus And Mars): Planet Reality vs Planet Unrealistic
Astrology in Real Life
“Tacoma? Yeah, I’ve been there,” I said.
“Me too. In the truck,” he added.
“Yeah, I went there to see a friend. Supposed friend. It was a man. He was supposed to be a friend but then you get there and they try to stick their dick somewhere.”
He laughed. “Well of course.”
“What do you mean, of course? You think I’m stupid?”
“P, a man is always going to try to get his dick stuck somewhere.”
“I know but this stuff is supposedly settled in advance. It’s already been made clear I’m not interested. I travel because the person supposedly wants to spend time with me. I went to Sacramento, Tahoe, Reno, up in there the same way one time. You know. I knew someone and we were talking on the phone. I’m bored, I said. Well why don’t you come up here for the weekend?”
He smiled.
“And I say by God I think I will! And then I do. But there is never a question. I mean, I say it right up front – I am not sleeping with you. You know that right? As always I am not interested in any romance and they say they know that.”
He laughed.
“So then you get up there and they spend the whole time trying to get near you. You know. They move their chair next to mine… try to get closer. They try to romance the thing up when there is no romance.”
“Well, P, I would never do that but you should not be surprised. I mean, what planet are you on?”
“What are you saying? That you’re on Planet Reality, I suppose.”
He nodded.
“Well I am on the planet where you tell a man you aren’t interested in screwing him and he can comprehend it. He can understand those words, they are pretty damned simple and it’s not like I mince them. If I didn’t state it plainly then I would be playing games but fact is I did state it plainly – I DON’T WANT TO SCREW YOU! I know that, Elsa, come on up!”
So what do you think? Do I live on Planet Unrealistic?
34 Responses to “Men And Women (Venus And Mars): Planet Reality vs Planet Unrealistic”
Matthew – thank you. Jeez, I don’t know what to say. People left a lot of compliments on the last video but I have a Pluto moon transit going and feeeeeeeeeel repulsive. Damn.
Ah, but (if you have to choose) which is better: YOU thinking you’re hot… or OTHERS thinking you’re hot?
C’mon. You’re a Libra. At heart, you know the answer. 
Matthew – Def. I find with Venus Neptune whenever I think I look great, I am wrong and whenever I think I look bad, I am wrong. I am hoping to rate a real reality next like, we’ll see. 
Hah! It just occurred to me the last vid up here is a rerun. The two before were new so maybe you are talking about the good looking me who has since shifted.
::shakes head::
LOL Elsa! Honestly, I always wonder how you manage to ALWAYS look so good on your videos. I haven’t seen you look bad. You never look puffy or red or even tired. I just see that great smile and those curls. You’re hot and I don’t think there’s anything you can do about it.
And I think I look haggard as all hell. I have a skewed perception, I just don’t know what else to say. Twice, I have found myself standing on a scale – 50 pounds overweight and I didn’t know that either.
Plus the soldier hates my curls. I used to have straight hair (really) and he mourns the fact I got electrocuted on nearly a daily basis. Who knows what to make of it. I am telling you I have no way to discern things most the time and when I can discern something it is fleeting. I just live this way – that’s all. Reality is like the weather. Don’t like it? Don’t worry about it. Be changing any minute now.
No, you don’t live on planet unrealistic. However I, too, have Venus/Neptune and have had similar experiences. I remember the first time I sat a man down and stated clearly without any confusion: I like you as a person but I’m no longer interested in a sexual relationship with any kind.
His response? “You don’t know what you want.”
Huh? I just told you I don’t want to have sex with you! Cripes.
People hear what they want to hear I guess. It’s actually kind of disturbing to me.
well in my case these men were living in the land of delusion and wishful thinking themselves rather than trying to confuse me but yeah – 2 sides of the same coin, kashmiri
“I suspect you live on The Planet Of The Horny Apes”
Tooo Funny!
“C’mon. You’re a Libra.”
Even better! I got “cussed” for calling her that! LOL
While I agree with you Elsa about when you say you aren’t interested, that should be enough. I have to agree with the soldier and Matthew.
I’m not really sure how to answer, except that, if I need to tell a guy I don’t want to screw him, it’s because I acknowledge that on some level I actually do and have made a choice.
There might be a lot of circumstances that would prompt that decision, but if we get to the point of discussing it, we are way beyond indifference. And the guy knows it, and is just trying to find a teensy little crack he get his finger into to open it up.
Ha!Paints quite a picture, doesn’t it?
Well in both cases, I knew the men because they were my customers as a bartender. Everyone wants to fuck the bartender… male bartenders, same thing. You are on display back there and people fantasize. But over years (in both cases) it is made abundantly clear you are not available and this seems to be accepted. It is accepted actually, it is totally understood. And come on. I chat with how many men a day in that era? A hundred? So with some of them you have a bit more fun… maybe you get off work and have a drink with one of them but does this hardly means you want a relationship. I guess it comes down to whether a man and a woman can have a platonic relationship which is a question that has been posed on this blog before, here:
http://www.elsaelsa.com/archives/2007/05/16/why-cant-we-be-friends-when-platonic-friendships-fail/
and here:
At that last blog – 72% of people said men and women COULD be friends… I disagree. However this is not what I was saying in this blog.
I KNOW the man wants to fuck, I just thought this issue had been put to rest and that a man could understand the simple fact.. “not gonna happen”. But they can’t. They’ve still got to try.
Elsa- I do not think that you live on planet unrealistic. Pixie Dust- as always your comment was great.
Personally, I am very glad that I get enough that I do not have to wander around like a depraved stray dog sniffing every other dog in the neighbourhood.
I think you live on several planets. my personal favorite is Planet of the Berserker Helmet-Swingers. 
Because in all likliehood, I would. My leash is not too short, just very secure.
ah, Planet of the Would-Be Butt-Sniffers.
hello from The Planet of Tragically Decreased Arterial Flow.
Satori- hahahahah. Yeah and I think it is retrograde at the moment.
and apparently experiencing a saturn transit. good good.
Satori- can you provide us with insight on what it is like to live on plsnet TDAF?
what? who? well, as I was saying the other day, Joe Biden sure… OH LOOK, A PUPPY!
yes, most unfortunately I can: “if you can’t be a shining example be a horrible warning.”
wow and it thought my humour was obtuse! Wags tail, chases stick….
yeah, sure, obtuse, good… not nuts. obtuse, I like that.
Main Entry: ob·tuse
Pronunciation: \äb-ˈtüs, əb-, -ˈtyüs\
Function: adjective
Inflected Form(s): ob·tus·er; ob·tus·est
Etymology: Middle English, from Latin obtusus blunt, dull, from past participle of obtundere to beat against, blunt, from ob- against + tundere to beat — more at ob-, contusion
Date: 15th century
1 a: not pointed or acute : blunt b (1)of an angle : exceeding 90 degrees but less than 180 degrees (2): having an obtuse angle — see triangle illustration cof a leaf : rounded at the free end
2 a: lacking sharpness or quickness of sensibility or intellect : insensitive, stupid b: difficult to comprehend : not clear or precise in thought or expression
well, I’m definitely going for the whole angle angle.
This is better than Olympic tennis.
What’s the score?
I don’t know but the last point went to spinner. I served up a hanging lob which spinner smashed cross-court down to the alley line. ::politeapplausefromthegallery::
Sorry Satori, my master took me for a ride……
in the car!
“if you can’t be a shining example be a horrible warning.”
Good one satori– I believe from now on I will categorize people and their behavior exactly this way!
that Sh*t happens to me all the time. no matter how clear i am. don’t think it’s unrealistic to expect someone to take you at your word. particularly a friend.
but. good heavens. there’s reasons why i’m so cautious nowadays. and why there’s perks to being obviously not single. they’re less likely to get their hopes up. but only a degree less likely.
still, every little bit helps 
venus neptune says, “if i don’t like the vibes now, it doesn’t matter what you do, i still won’t like the vibes. so go think about something else, pleeeease?”
I don’t have venus neptune, but I do have venus and neptune inteh 12th and I often have to tell guys I’m not interested in f*cking them and am confused about what’s really going on most of the time. So, no reality I guess.
That’s how it usually goes for me. No matter what I say, guys ALWAYS assume I am interested right back. This is the #1 trait I hate in men, that they can’t/won’t take no for an answer. It also explains why my male friends are of the gay/married/taken variety. Single male friends generally pull this at some point.
“I want to stick my dick in the nearest female, no matter what” gets SO old. Anyone remember the cheerleaders on SNL? The girl one always is telling the guy that she doesn’t want to boink him. I hate having to tell them OVER AND OVER AND OVER again that the answer is no! It’s not worth it to me to hang around you if all you want is to fuck me and disregard how I feel about it.
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Actually… I suspect you live on The Planet Of The Horny Apes, just like I do.
I’m a male, but the majority of my friends are female. This sort of thing, um, *comes up* all the time. Fortunately, most men have a little more control over it than, say, most dogs.
In my experience, what often happens is (when I’ve been a good boy long enough) that the female friend in question will eventually ask why I *haven’t* tried to make a move on them.
The answer is almost always “well, yeah, I’ve THOUGHT about it…”
The flipside of all this: wouldn’t you eventually get suspicious if the issue NEVER arose? Just a little?
We’re all animals. Some are just better domesticated than others.
And by the way, Elsa: you look faaaaantastic.