All of the above (yours). We have the same Mars. Thanks for making my comment easier – Libra gets lazy

Oh and I am Aquarius w Mars in Pisces.

The passive agressive thing you are talking about it totally infuriating. I call it the wimp-wanker syndrome.

Fighting gets really tiring; ah frikit I’d rather be a mammas boy or even a pacifist in relationships. When it comes to being myself in relationships its not about pleasing my partner however understanding her needs. I remember one partner requesting that I talk really dirty during sex. I did give it a go but I eneded up laughing during the act.

oh well

Kingsley

Oh yeah and I’m not into men who lose interest in having sex with me after 3 months. Soooooo over that!!!

do want: man who thinks I’m totally special.

do not want: man who wants to totally tie me down or just as bad man who projects on me thinking I want to tie him down.

leo rising.

Kingsley, that made me laugh (the talking dirty part). I once dated a man who totally wanted me to dominate him in the bedroom (verbally and every other which way) ALL the time. I gave it a try…but yeech. It just wasn’t me!

The real main problem with my 16 year marriage is what you are talking about Maureen. He wouldn’t talk to me other than just the very mundane details. It was just too lonely. Then I hear stories that some guys even ask you a question like “what makes you tick.” My ex really didn’t want to be asked what was on his mind, even. I still love him though.

I want the same things I give: honesty, integrity, kindness and love.

xoxo

Pygmalions and entitlement freaks.

I’m not broken, I don’t need fixing, and I don’t need to live up to what you (generic man here) think a woman should be. If you want me, great! If you want me so that you can “make me better” and change me into someone completely different to suit what you think I should be…you’re better off finding someone else. I’m stubborn. I like me. And I don’t feel like being chipped away at by someone who can’t accept me for me. (Now I want to say…it’s all about me! Only really, it isn’t! LOL)

Entitlement freaks…the world (including all people in it, including me) doesn’t owe you for being alive. Each of us has the opportunity to have a full life, but it takes effort. Sitting around complaining that life isn’t fair isn’t going to give you a better life. Getting up and doing something about it might.

Gads, no more post-midnight typing for me. All my issues are getting pissy.

Of course the ‘don’t’ list is long but is it too much to ask for someone who isn’t intimated by me? That’s my biggest problem and it’s a bitch.

and by liars i include people who lie to themselves.
reality distortion (eg saturn neptune) is okay, as long a you have your feet on the ground. so you can always figure which way is down

reality’s distorted anyway.

and people who are too stuck in their 7th house- have a projection of what a woman is and what love is and bugger the actuality of who i am and what the relationship is.

Lol Satori! It’s great when a guy can appreciate that, and rare too. I like the reverse too.

Kashmiri – same here. I love men who are quiet and gentle, but with an unmistakable presence and strength. It translates to me as someone who is self-possessed and has self-control, discipline. He may not fight much, but it’s not because he can’t. He has the capacity, but chooses not to use it unless it’s really necessary. I find that kind of self-control very attractive!

insecure, clingy men drive me up the wall. we all have our moments, sure, and that is human, but when it’s a way of life, forget it! on the flip side, i’ve had men who acted like they were doing me a favor by hanging out with me. ugh. notice the past tense there.

i also have no patience for dishonesty and meanness for the sake of meanness. control freaks also are a big turnoff. respect me, i respect you, we’ll get along fine.