Unavailability. The unreachable, the hard to get, the fantasy, the illusion, the independent, the one everyone wants but can’t get, basically the one I can’t have myself.

i thought attraction/luring was Venus’ forte…

I agree with Conny on this one — Venus, Libra & the 7th.

But I’ve noticed that Neptune has something to do with this, too.

Neptune seems to provide a canvas for whatever part of the chart it falls in, onto which the individual can project whatever it is he or she wants. Neptune in aspect to other planets produces similar results.
It requires a high level of self-awareness — it doesn’t operate as easily as Venus does in a chart — but it does seem to produce more personally significant results.

^ I agree, venus and neptune too are responsible for what lures us in or attracts us. How many people are lured in or repulsed by (the illusion(s)? And you love what you love . .

Is it stronger than what drives us? I’m not so sure. I think it might vary by person/chart depending on what is emphasised.

It could just be my mars square pluto but there have been a number of times where my need to do something over rode my desire to be pleasant or attractive and I would definitely say that when I am driven it is more powerful than when I am attracted.

I’d say love or attraction is a more prevelant/constant force in my life, but my inner drive wins everytime. I need OUT of this relationship. I NEED OUT of this rut. I Need to GO XYZ. Hunt. Track. Explore. No matter how happy attracted or satisfied I am when I need to go I am propelled. Sometimes its like being shot from a cannon.

Bootling in your case Elsa, right? The soldier’s mud hole is great and all, but his acknowledgement of your (drive) need to bootle is one of this things that makes the relationship work . .