Open Question: Why Does Gemini Lie So Much?

gemini christmas dogsDiana asks:

Why do Gemini’s feel the need to lie so much and so often and for no reason?

Diana, I don’t think feeling has anything to do with it. It;s to keep things interesting, stave off boredom.

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Open Question: Why Does Gemini Lie So Much? — 63 Comments

  1. I have a Gemini acquaintance (demoted from her friend status due to the lies ) whose life is completely compartmentalized. She has areas of her life that are completely separate from the other. For instance, she calls me, confides in me, and finds me to be completely interesting. But she lies to her husband about talking to me because he thinks astrology is evil . ;)

    I asked her about the lying before when I friend dumped her and her response was just that basically she found all these people in her life to be of value, but none of them mixed (in her mind). So she lies to each person about the other, fearing some sort of judgement for her flippant ways.

    She’s like Stevie Nicks. . .”Well, they are just little lies. . .they don’t hurt anyone. . .”

    Another Gem gal I know lies all the time, about the most seemingly inconsequential stuff. I think for her it is to keep things interesting, but I would also attribute some of this to being a little mental.

  2. I lie because I’m a people pleaser :(

    I can’t help it. I can’t stand people being upset with me and if that means sacrificing the truth, so be it. I actually hate being this way though. I feel really fake most of the time.

    BUT lying to keep things interesting…What’s up with that, Geminis? lol

  3. This reminds me of a comment a while back – never let the truth get in the way of a good story!

    I’m actually really conscious of this gemini-lying thing (thanks Elsa) and honestly? I think we’re wired differently or something. Sometimes the stuff other people would consider an out and out lie wouldn’t even occur to me as such, and I wonder about that. I don’t have an answer or anything, it’s just something I notice and wonder about.

  4. LOL. I have Gemini rising and I tend to compartmentalize my life. Apparently, I appear to have a different persona in each compartment! To one person I am X, to another I am Y, and to another I am Z. When they get together and talk about me, it sounds like 3 different people. But it’s more like an optical illusion: everyone sees something different, and sometimes it appears confusing or like contradictions/lies. I’m still the same person, only the surroundings have changed. I just adapt to fit the environment. But having said that I do enjoy keeping things interesting, and I’m not averse to the typical Gemini amusements. Gemini is always up to something…and that keeps things fun :)

    It’s funny, I figured a lot of people were like this, it made sense to me. I just never thought it could appear any other way to others. But now I do – thanks for that.

  5. yes, Shannon. I tend to not see something as a lie if the person genuinely believed it at the time. A lie to me has to be a known falsehood that’s transmitted as truth. It’s all relative.

    Liar, liar…pants on fire :P

  6. One of my very best friends (I’ve known her since kindergarten) is a Gemini and she is scrupulously honest, sometimes to her detriment. It’s one of the things that bind us.
    Both of our moms are Geminis as well. My mom is not so much dishonest as convinced of her own truth and slightly conniving. My friend’s mom will twist the truth to cause drama but is basically honest if fireworks aren’t involved.

    However, I’ve never seen a bigger liar than my mom’s boyfriend – a Sadge! :D

  7. Liar Liar is one of the funniest movies I have ever seen. I wonder if the person who wrote it is a Gemini. Or, maybe Jim Carey…I think he is very Mercurial/Gemini like.

  8. Actually, Jim Carrey is mercurial: turns out he has a Gemini moon. Sun in Capricorn,, Mercury in Aquarius, Venus in Capricorn and Mars in Capricorn. Gosh, that would explain the mild crush I’ve had on him every since :P

  9. Ah! You looked him up! I would never have made the guess on all that Capricorn. They do have a great dry wit, but I don’t associate them with, what I might call ‘speed humor.’ Gemini moon, in my experience, seem to be brilliant. I just remembered that I do have an ex who had a gemini moon. Yes he was a liar, but not the worst one I ever experienced.

    Another one who seems very mercurial to me is Robin Williams. And that guy from Saturday nite live, Chevy Chase.

  10. I once knew a Geminian who used to compulsively lie through her back teeth but interestingly enough had a talent for being able to tell immediately when someone was telling falsehoods to her. You can’t kid a kidder!!

  11. i’ve got gemini moon, but don’t think i lie a lot. in fact, i have very little patience for it in my peronal life. lying pisses me off! i feel like my time and energy are being wasted when i’m being lied to. why should i be listening and caring about what you say when it’s not even real?

    i may not tell you everything i’m thinking, however.

  12. I used to lie compulsively, now I just cover things up, or dare somebody to ask me with a mean mug. In truth all of your life shouldn’t be everyone’s business or concern. If I lie it’s to keep other’s out of my personal business and not a regular thing. Since, I am a pro when it comes to lies, yes I can smell a fake person from a mile away and they’ll get fed with a silver spoon. I have found myself lying, then coming right out to say you know I just lied to you right? No one seems to be surprised. You only have one life why not experiment? don’t lol!!

  13. I have a Gemini Mercury…and I exaggerate almost with every story I tell. People who know me understand this. The poor souls who don’t look at me with awe at these amazing stories.

    I’ll also relate full conversations to them and they have to ask if I really said that. “No,” I say, “But I was so thinking it.”

    However, when asked for the truth, i’ll always tell it with no exaggeration or fun, sparkley effects.
    And I compartmentalize like a demon.

  14. You know what? I love gemiliars.
    I find I am always enormously entertained and so I always have a gemini friend (or a few) and while I wouldn’t necessarily blend them . . A week without some gemini is like a week without sun.

    They have so many different perspectives (which I love because I have massive internal six-sides-to-every-issue debates myself), and new ideas and I just dig’em lies and all.

    As to why they lie? Well there are probably as many different answers to that as you can imagine.

  15. Sorry to disappoint you all but I’ve got Sun, Moon and Venus in gemini… and I have never in my life felt the urge to lie or found it useful whatever the situation.
    Sorry guys, but you know that’s not as simple as gemini = lies

  16. lexie says – I’ll also relate full conversations to them and they have to ask if I really said that. “No,” I say, “But I was so thinking it.”

    ——that i can definitely relate to! when i’m telling stories, i add the subtext of what i felt like saying all the time. but i think it’s reasonably clear that it’s for comedic effect. what we’re thinking is almost always funnier than what we actually say, except for those times when what we’re thinking escapes our mouth. :)

  17. Lexie, that post was totally funny.

    They do that in movies. It turns out the event didn’t really happen, but the person was dreaming it. And in books, it turns out that the event didn’t really happen, but the person was imagining it.

  18. i hate this question. it’s baiting a particular reaction assuming ALL geminis are liars, which is absolutely false.

    i really, really do not like to be stereotyped as a blanket liar just because of my month of birth when most people lie to themselves, with their amazing virtue and apparent desire for truth, every day. maybe i’m nuts, but i don’t think many people actually try to figure things out, and tend to take what they hear at face value even when they’re perfectly capable of figuring out otherwise, so they’re easily subject to ridiculous gossip and the kind of assholes who do lie to achieve things and gain advantage over people. ask questions and be cynical, kids. don’t let people think for you!

    and don’t get me started on how geminis are ADD-ridden, unemotional, superficial, overly talkative, technology addicted sluts. it is no mystery why astrology hasn’t seemed to get off the ground as a profession, having this kind of stereotypical nonsense floating around in the public, feeding fear and dissonance instead of tolerance and understanding of other people.

  19. I can think of better ways to stave off boredom.

    But why the fuck would anybody who knows I’m a Gemini believe me?

  20. june, I agree with you. I might not be conscious of my lying, but I don’t think I lie that much. I’m gullible and sensitive, so I don’t like profuse liars who lie to me just for the sake of it, I get bored rather quickly. I am also curious about the truth, I like to be told the truth. A Libra friend of mine (are Libras liars?) spins lies just for the hell of it and because I’m gullible, also because he doesn’t like to talk about his personal life, but things outside of it, which annoys the hell out of me and makes me uncomfortable. I usually tell my parents the whole truth, everything, just because it spills out, but since sophomore year I’d been lying to them and it came easily, but I would do it in an obvious way where they could kind of tell I’m lying. Maybe if I slipped into it, I could lie a blue streak, but that’s called telling a story, especially when you do it well.

  21. My Mars is prominent in Gem conjunct the Midheaven. I think most of my hassles are because I don’t lie. I find it gross and extremely negative. I have told people, be careful what you ask because you will get the truth, and sometimes you don’t have to ask >:P

  22. june, thank you.

    I knew I couldn’t possibly be the only person here who considers an accusation of “Liar!” to be very serious, very personal, and very nasty.

    This is also a button issue because I had some people accuse me of lying last year and use it to try and assassinate my character. When I’m a person who sweats blood in the effort to be honest. Not that anybody here SHOULD know that, because (oo, look, a Gemini is saying this) nobody here knows me.

    But I’m not perfectly zen and detached, so bs that people spout online still hurts sometimes.

  23. this has been a lesson in life for me…I am a scorpio so i want the truth, i don’t care how much it hurts. BUt who is the truth anyways… whos truth.

  24. I do not see that particular post saying that Gemini’s lie disproportionately in comparison with the other 11.

    I saw it as wondering why those Geminis who lie actually do so. That could be applied to any sign:

    maybe when lying Gemini’s lie it’s to keep things interesting and stave off boredom.

    maybe when lying libras lie it’s to keep the social harmony and peace

    maybe when lying Leos lie it’s to build themselves up & have a bigger audiance

    maybe when lying Virgos lie it’s because they feel like fucking with your head, maybe even for a good reason

    maybe when lying Pisces lie it’s because they like to be vague and illusive and muddy up the waters

    maybe when lying cancers lie, it is because they are in the mood to lie, and because they like to do things sideways

    maybe when lying capricorns lie it is in the interest of greater upward mobility, like a politician might do

    maybe when lying sagitarius lie it’s by omission because they don’t feel like telling you where they are going

    maybe when lying Aries lie it is so they can become more bossy or to say anything to be first

    maybe when lying scorpios lie its to tell you they love you so that they can have sex with you

    maybe when lying Taurus lie it’s to tell you that all the cookies are gone, when really they know where there is a a secret stash

    maybe when lying Aquarius lie it is for some kind of very good or unique cause

  25. Loonsounds, I liked your break-down. :)

    When this Sun-and-Merc Leo lies it is almost always to make myself grander (like when telling a story and “embellishing,” as others have mentioned). Or when someone asks an intrusive personal question and I make up something so patently untrue it makes them look ridiculous (Pluto in 4th trine Aquarian moon, don’t ask about personal things).

  26. Thanks SaDiablo, The only one I really had trouble with was Virgo. I had to make something up, because, truth be told, I don’t know any Virgos who lie. This morning I remembered a Virgo who lied sometimes, but he had a Gemini Moon.

    So I have changed Virgo to:

    Virgos never lie but oftentimes you wish they would.

  27. Gemini Ralph Waldo Emerson is remembered most widely for his remark: Consistency is the hobgoblin of small minds. His friend the Gemini poet Walt Whitman wrote: Do I contradict myself? Very well then, I contradict myself. Is it that Geminis may be aware that truth is something we seek and travel towards, continually shedding old interpretations, experiments and mistakes behind us? Or maybe they’re just whimsical. The true/false dichotomy is not least of the dualisms that the Twins invoke.

    Gemini, the twins, mirrored, mimics, mimicry, imitation, the lie is the imitation of the truth, so a gemini may enjoy the lie, the fiction, for its own sake. It can be compulsive, it can be useful, it can be amusing . . . For attorneys, writers, boxers, it’s punch, counterpunch. The statement’s immediate effectiveness is not related to its truth. And Geminis have a fundamental love of language and communication — sometimes, they remind us the act of communication is more important than the content. As the 18th century Gemini letter writer Lady Mary Wortley Montague put it, “When one loves, one always has something to say.” Inconsequential chatter, gossip, (“garrulous to the last,” Walt Whitman), who cares if it’s true or false? Gemini’s planet, Mercury, is the god of thieves and liars.

    Geminis are the great networkers, always pairing off, putting people together. (Timothy Berners-Lee, inventor of the www was born June 8.)
    They are often productive with siblings, importantly partnered or paired. It’s interesting to observe them pairing with each other. Two writers, Mary McCarthy and Lillian Hellman,had a famous feud. McCarthy gratuitously accused Hellman of being a liar on the Dick Cavett Show, and Hellman sued her. A 1990 book, “Telling Lies” contains chapters on both women.

    According to interior decorator Billy Baldwin, Cole Porter called Elsa Maxwell “Miss Liar” to her face. All three were Geminis.

    I’ve been posting Geminiana on my blog, astrodreamer.squarespace.com

    Loonsounds, I love your list. May I share it with my two readers?

  28. I’m a gemini, and yes, I lie a lot… 70% of things out of my mouth are lies/tweaked truth. I lied because it’s fun, to see people react in different ways, or walk down a path you just set up split second ago.

    I’m the type of liar who can lie so bad that with hard evidence in your hand, I’ll make it seem like it’s natural for it to not have anything against me. immediately creating a story, which would cover up events in the past 3 months, to cover up any leads. Very proud of my ability.

    Not all lie have fun ending though… One that I’ll never forget

    A pisces tried to lie to me, I see through it, I counter the lie, stating that her friend informed me of that “lie” she set up for me. Worst mistake ever, she was so pissed off at her “friend” that she was in a bad mood for weeks(even though I did not tell her who the friend is, she is never theless angry to know that there’s a “rat” is in her group)

    I guess you can’t kid around with Pisces’s insecurity of betrayal. Although, she forgave me instantly after I told her the truth.. she even gave me a thumb-up for my great counter… but, that’s the last time I’ll ever lie to her about her friends.

    I adore her for her for her nature though… although she’ll never be as laid back as I am, I am proud that she have priority, maybe it’s the short live of Gemini Pisces relation. Clearly, we can never be^^ She’s too serious.

    Despite how much I adore her, I know that being with her would hurt her a lot more than it’ll ever hurt me. I took the road and walk away, only wish that she’ll find security in others, kinda regret for never starting anything with her, but I know, it is best for her.

    Me? Still living as a liar, trying to find my next victim. Don’t worry, this story I left is not fake. Hopefully it’ll help some of you to see how a gemini thinks.

    • I was very sad to read your story. I can’t believe that one can knowingly feel proud to lie to people and looking forward to “the next victim”! This is just cruel! If you only would take a minute and think how hurtful you are to the people around you. Would YOU like to be treated like this? I don’t think so! RMS

      • I agree, Marion. O_O that’s just so stressful not having to trust someone in close confidence. however, i can see how a lie can save a life. For example, in world war 2, people were questioned harshly and tortured to find out the truth of other people’s whereabouts. these people who were tortured lied, and of course when they found out that the person lied they would die. It’s a very brave thing, but that’s in extreme circumstance.

        or in the real life story of Oskar Schindler who has a dominant Gemini in his chart. He was a taurus sun, Aries moon & Saturn, but a packed 3rd house (with Gemini mars/Venus/Pluto gemini) Very brave, and quite the trickster to use it for good.

  29. Liar, you’re a cute, insightful Gemini, especially about Pisces. My mom was pisces, dad gemini, subsequently I had 4 intense relationships with sun gemini moon pisces people. What a trip . .

  30. I am a gemini with my sun in the 12th house, mercury in gemini, and rising sign in gemini. I make an effort to be a responsible reliable person, not like the typical “flaky” gemini(one of my pet peeves). I pride myself in being truthfull and sometimes a little blunt. I am pretty good at reading people and sometimes getting things to swing my way.lol

  31. “when someone asks an intrusive personal question and I make up something so patently untrue it makes them look ridiculous”

    SaDiablo – lol :) I do the same thing! Pluto in the 4th as well, but Capricorn moon. Ask me something too personal and it becomes…comic relief. Gemini rising trine Pluto in the 4th.

  32. I think we’re more like the type that like to keep our second face hidden from others. I don’t think we ever live with our real face, because in fact, I don’t think we understand our real face.

    If you ask me who I am? I can only tell you, “It’s depend on the situation.”

    I believe us Gemini may not only be confusing to others, but confusing to ourself too.

  33. Liar: check out astro.com
    I love Geminis. I’m lucky enough to have a few uber Gems. in my life: one Sun&Moon; the other Sun/Moon/Ascendant.
    My SO is Gemini ASC
    My favorite sister is Gemini Moon
    and I have countless Gemini friends.

    I think the attraction lies in my Gemini Jupiter.

    Ha. I like my own pun!

  34. I’m glad I reread this thread. I can’t wait until the election is over and Loonsounds comes back online.

    I didn’t realize people took the lying accusation so seriously. I’m a Taurus and I am not a fat, greedy, lazy, material obsessed pig, but I don’t care if that gets bandied about or not.

    One of the reasons I took my astrological studies further was because I felt so disconnected to my Sun sign. I learned about the rest and now I see more of my Sun sign in a positive light. ::Shrugs::

  35. I kinda feel bad for being a Gemini… my urge to lie is strong, and i am very inconsistent. Good thing I got my brain to depend on to get myself out of trouble.

    Not very proud of myself, I hope I’m more stable and know what I want.

    But… I don’t think it’ll be fun that way… confusing T.T

  36. Me too Kashmiri, I love Geminis :) They lift me up and make me happy, always have something interesting to say. I like having them in my life, Gemiliars or not, they’re just so much fun!

  37. Okay EVERYONE lies. the difference with some geminis is that they can look you straight in the eye and omit the truth. They aren’t trying to be hurtful, they just don’t seem to feel guilty about not being real, and they live by their own rules. I’m an aquarius with a gemini man and we both have lied to each other but I always feel guilty and eventually spit out the truth. Every lie he’s ever told me, I had to dig up on my own, and when I’ve confronted him about them, he just lies more. He is also EXTREMELY good at knowing when I’m telling the truth or not because he knows bullshit like the back of his hand. Sometimes I think he’s psychic, or maybe I’ve just got guilty eyes. gotta love him though! he is so playful, fun, optimistic, and energetic! As an aquarius I forgive but never forget. I could never stay with him forever. He will get bored/curious and wander, no matter how much he loves me.

  38. The fact that there are some Gemini’s that lie, there are others that are brutally honest. There are Capricorns,Leo’s,Scorpio’s, etc… that lie and there are those that don’t.
    People of all races,zodiacs,countries lie, it has nothing to do with being a Gemini but more to do with insecurities and fear of not being accepted as you authentically are so you create stories. Geminis get accused of being 2faced,back stabbers,liars,fickle,moody and a countless number of other things which are unfair assumptions. I have 2 Gemini sisters and can tell you that they are very funny, happy, faithful honest women. My point is that you can find a liar in every Zodiac Sign but you can also find an honest person as well. There for I think It’s unfair to categorize all Gemini’s as being Liars.

  39. I was just sent to this page, because I am a Gemini and am being accused of lying. I don’t lie to people. I know how it feels to be lied to, so in return why would i do it to other people? I am faithful, and brutally honest. Apparently all Geminis are all the same? Uh no we’re not. There are liars in every sign, because they arent all the same

  40. Aquarius here who just recently left things alone with my Gemini ex. We both have lied to each other, but I’m always the one who comes clean because I can’t handle the guilt and I never wanted to hurt him…but that’s also why I lied from the beginning, so I wouldn’t hurt him. With him though, he’s the type of manipulative psychopath who’ll lie even when he’s caught, until something FORCES him to tell the truth, or he things I already know. If only I could show all the shit we’ve been through during the almost 3 years that we’ve known each other, you’d think I was the crazy one for ever looking his way, My ex Gem has such a way with words and tweeking things to go his way that he LITERALLY uses EVERYONE in his life for one thing or another. I called him out on it not too long ago, told him he’ll never have anything worth having for long if at all due to his means of gaining it (usually through playing someone else), and the superficial empire he’s working so hard to build will crumble before his eyes only because everyone will eventually turn their backs on him unless he changes his ways. I have learned from him how a simple white lie can totally destroy people in the end, so now I’m brutally honest, fuck your feelings, at least I was real! He was the icing on the shit cake of Geminis for me. EVERY one I have ever gotten to know was a hoe and a liar. Hot in the pants and cant sit they sick asses down. His parents had the nerve to spoil him too?? AND he’s young and immature…evil!

  41. I’m a Gemini who’s been accused more than once, of being truthful “to a fault”..? I’d never say anything hurtful, intentionally, so I don’t know what’s meant by that, except that at least one of the people who’ve said it, has the habit of leaving facts out, to manipulate the truth..and doesn’t want the missing info to be provided..somehow making even the truth she tells, (Pisces) open to misinterpretation. Seems that’s a form of lie, in itself, by omission. My mother (Taurus) was queen of the “little white lie” that “wouldn’t hurt anybody”; and passed that permission on to my dtrs, who use it, as a given. I, on the otherhand, was raised early on, by church-going grandparents, who abhorred a lie, as did my dad(Scorpio) & my son & I(both Gemini). I think, lack of morals, in most any part of society, is the cause of people not taking boundaries seriously and over-extending their space, into others, taking greater liberties with achieving whatever they want, as in “the end justifying the means”. The general breakdown in society, has been accelerated, exponentially, with the liberties taken; chipping away & breaking down trust, at every level. Coverups, begin usually, as that so-called “innocuous” little white lie.

  42. I guess my interactions with Geminis are rare or brief so I don’t have much to add. I did work with a Gem who admitted he occasionally started rumors (nothing evil) just to see how the story would change by the time it got back to him. Also to see people’s reactions. The Aqua in me laughed and thought it was weirdly funny, but all my Virgo thought about how I could never do that, just throw rumors out there.

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