Also talk to him about his security needs/worry. If he wants a family then it’s going to cost money and he’s going to have to save and reduce his spending to support the family in many ways. I think some reality of what it will cost to raise a family is in order AND if you two can meet it then he’s over-worrying and it may be time for you to lead. If you don’t have the money just yet then I’d say give it still some time.
Talk to him about setting a financial goal to start the family. In an ideal world we’d all be rich but in the same world by the time we have the means to have it all we are too old to get it up.

Alternative view point coming up here from Loonsounds. Sounds pretty much like excuses to me, and I know with Virgo it can definitely be about the money for real.

How old is he? Has he been married before? Does he want you to sign a pre-nup? Is he wealthy? Does he have any major transit coming up to his 7th cusp?

Here’s the most important question: In your deepest heart of hearts, at a gut level of intuition, do you feel like he really loves you that way?

I have a some experience with the Virgo dynamic. I referred to it earlier, where I pressured a Virgo (I don’t think it is always wrong to put a little pressure on some dude if you really want it and feel it’s right; maybe do ok with a little boot and no one regrets it…).

In my case, however, I think that [on some level] I knew his love for me was real, but probably not the right kind of love for marriage. He was not enchanted with me, he was deeply critical, pick, pick, pick (ahhh Virgo)

Some day I might find out he did love me that way (in death we find out everything, or such is my dream), but as long as I live I don’t expect I will ever really know what he was thinking as he stood at the end of that aisle.

Anyway, if he really did love me like ideally one might love a wife, it really never showed up in our multiple years of marriage either. To this day, I don’t believe he really did, not that way.

But, there is yet more to the story. Same Virgo man, now he has been living with a woman for at least 7 years, and I know that she desperately wanted to marry him from day one and he just won’t do it, or certainly hasn’t yet.

He and I really don’t talk much anymore, so I don’t know what kind of deal they’ve worked, but he will not give her his name. I am sure he gives her a free place to live. What else is questionable because … it was difficult when he was the sole bread winner.

I realize his unwillingness to marry again is not a flattering statement about me, his ex-wife, (and I accept my part in his seeming aversion…he was never pro-marriage to begin with) but, trust me when I say, his refusal to marry her is about way more than a messed up first marriage.

Here it is: For that particular Virgo, it is FULLY about the money.

I don’t know, maybe you could work out something to make it look like it is economically advantageous for him to marry you, and you might ‘snag’ him or whatever.

But be forewarned; whatever the relationship is now, it would stay that way if you get married, nothing will get any better. Harsh opinion, I know, sorry! I’ve been wrong before!