Dear Elsa,

Basically, I am wondering what one is supposed to do when several important things in one’s chart just don’t agree. I mean, I know the short answer is “live with it”, but I thought you could find a slightly more enlightening way of putting it. I have several times been asked if I had multiple personalities. I don’t, but much of what I say and do does mystify me. I sometimes feel I should pick a part of me (a planet?), run with it, and too bad for the rest of me. My life is challenging in every area, so I feel I can’t “have it all” and must choose which part of life to be happy in. WWYD?

Taurus
United States

Dear Taurus,

What a great question and I agree you’ve got a challenge. And I can understand your wanting to divorce yourself, it’s in your chart. But this will never work and I can think of two approaches.

First you do this the Capricorn way, one step at a time. Start with the Sun and Moon. As I say, live your Sun, satisfy your Moon. In your case perhaps you would want to partner with someone energetic and loving while living in an eccentric home with some Neptune flair. Point being if you nail these two down you can move to incorporate other aspects of yourself and if this seems odd, it is really as simple as finding your style. Compare it to knowing you look good in red and the finding you like to put purple with it and there. That’s you. A week later you may add a barrette… you get the idea. You will eventually pull in all your parts.

The other approach would be exactly the opposite. You might get in a mirror and look at all the parts of yourself and I’m not kidding. Look at allllllllll the parts of yourself, check your own ass as I would say and decide you are going to own every single shred of who you are. I read this next bit somewhere, I like it a lot. I did this 10 years ago and it sure worked for me.

The instruction is the look at yourself in the mirror and say these words: “I will not forsake you.”

Do it once, do it again, do it until the promise is internalized and the problem will begin to solve itself. Because these people who are telling you things like you have multiple personalities… well maybe you do. And maybe that will be your signature from now on. And with a little luck this happens as you age anyway. You find yourself… all of yourself and just present it.

For example I have no problem calling myself a skittish woman. I am also a do-gooder, horny as hell, flamboyant, shy, loving and probably dangerous and you know what? That is a lot more interesting than saying, “I am… whatever society wants hear.”

Anyone else?

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