It’s unrealistic to think that, once hitched to someone else’s cart, you are a bad person for considering all the other chariots around you. But that’s just it. THINKING about it is different that ACTING on those impulses.

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for just over a year, and we’ll BOTH tell you that we have had naughty thoughts about other people. Granted, they usually end in ‘but I like mine better’, but it’s a harmless fantasy (it’s why the Divine created eye candy! Pretty to look at, but no touchy!).

Now, if you find it to be distracting when you’re with your partner, when you start wishing he were someone else, then you have a problem, but again that doesn’t make you a slut.

Which brings me to my next thought: What is your definition of ‘slut’? Do you view it as just the negative connotation associated with women who openly enjoy sex with the same casualness that men are allowed to without the same stigma? Is the idea that a woman can have crazy (and hopefully safe) sex with a bevy of partners distasteful for you? Because there is a difference between a woman with enough self-respect to chose her partners and a woman who is screwing the masses to somehow buttress her self-image (which, btw, never works).

*steps off her soapbox*

I hope you find your way through this.