Dear Man,

This is a great question and while I can’t make a decision for you, I am happy to offer my opinion – and in my opinion you should definitely go back. Go back because you love him and he loves you and this is not all that easy to find.

As to whether you are asking for too much, well you are not. But you asking him to give you something that does not come easy for him and making yourself miserable in the process. In other words you are focusing on the lack, which while it may be real becomes insignificant if you opt to refocus.

The idea of refocusing on the positive goes without saying but you can go much further if you like. You can opt to raise the bar on yourself around what kind of lover you are – and rather than looking to how he can improve, make yourself better than ever.

Make yourself better than ever by being the kind of lover who does not ride their partner’s ass all the time and you will be in demand and loved like never before. And oddly enough, when your partner perceives your higher value, he is very like to start hitting up those birthdays which he knows damned well are important to you… before someone else decides to do it for him. So this is my advice:

Get off his ass, get on your own, watch the result and marvel. And the astrology?

You have hard aspects from Saturn which does give a tendency towards seeing the glass as half-empty. Thing is you can turn this around with work and I promise that if you do, you will see everything in your life improve.

Good luck.

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