I am the typical Aquarian woman and my husband the typical Aries. We have been together 5 years but only got married this year. We love each other very much and I can’t imagine myself being with anybody else. But alas, we have a problem that I just can’t seem to fix.
In the beginning of our relationship our sex life was great. Then one day he just could not perform. Me being the typical Aquarian couldn’t care much, but I know that it must have hurt his pride deeply. Later we would try to do it but he would not be able to and we would end up with him crying and with me trying to support him and also crying because I love him and don’t want to see him like that.
It got worse – we had a lot of financial worries and other problems and everything seemed to just get worse. It went on for about a year with us not having sex and I even asked if it was me turning him off, maybe I was too fat (you know how woman are) and if he was seeing someone else. I just couldn’t believe he didn’t want to have sex anymore or even try to make things better.
Then one night I came home and found him with another woman in our house. You don’t even want to know how I felt. Here I was supporting him, worrying about him doing all I can and in the mean time he was doing someone else. I couldn’t understand how he could be so selfish, so arrogant, so irresponsible. How could he have sex with her, but he couldn’t even get it to work with me. To make a long story short. I forgave him, for many reasons I don’t care to go into.
It has been 3 years since then. We moved to another country and financially things are going fine. Our bedroom life has improved, but not to what I want. We still don’t have sex. I can count the times we’ve had sex on my one hand, even though we have oral sex often. I don’t even talk about it with him. Sometimes I feel like if I mention the word sex he tenses up. Lately I have tried reverse psychology but that also doesn’t seem to do wonders.
I am fed up with him not wanting to have sex. I don’t know what to do anymore. And I am tired of feeding his ego and getting nothing. What am I suppose to do, just wait around and hope for him to one day feel like it again? Aren’t Aries suppose to have high sex drives.
Please give me some advice, I’m really frustrated with this situation.
Your question is enormously interesting because while it seems on the surface this problem is due to your husband, the situation you describe shows up in your chart very distinctly… which means if you leave him you are very likely to find yourself in a similar circumstance one way or the other. Not that there isn’t hope. There is always hope but there is little hope that waiting on him to resolve is going to produce results. Not when it’s in your chart, see.
So here’s the astrology:
You have Mars (sex) in Aquarius (detached, unusual) opposed by Saturn (restriction). And with the opposition it appears it is the fault of the other person but it will always be the fault of the other person. What I mean is that this will set up for you over and over and over until you take responsibility (Saturn) for your sexual health and happiness. And in this case, since he either can’t or won’t get an erection, you be best served to get yourself a dildo and take it to bed with you, with or without him.
Since you can’t see yourself without him, I would say take it to bed with him and tell him, “this is what we’re going to do.” And if this sounds shocking to you, that’s good. If you are afraid to do this, that is also good because it is your authentic energy.
Aquarius shocks and Saturn is scared. Anecdote is to face your fear. The anecdote is to expand rather than restrict. So just think about this with your Aquarian intellect. You show up in bed with a replacement dick… taking responsibility for the lack and what’s he going to do? Something different, right?
I know you’re scared but Mars is a hero, see. So as long as you do nothing you are going to suffer but if you will do something brave and heroic I really don’t think you can go wrong.
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