I don’t remember where I read it (maybe in ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’) but if somebody doesn’t know why they’re doing what they’re doing it’s a bad sign. It means he’s operating somewhat unconsciously. Does he now want you to make his decision for him? Just curious.

What a very interesting thing it is, wondering about another human’s motives. Interesting and exhausting…especially if the human in question is behaving like a complete nut-job.

Scorpio has a need to merge that is very strong and at the same time, in my own experience, there’s the whole issue of control and, by implication, freedom. He wants the new relationship and is making a commitment and at the same time, that commitment confines him, so he cheats with his ex as a way to maintain some semblance of freedom from his own commitment… kind of a whacked out way for him from flying too close to the flame.

That’s how I’d wrap my head around it.

Hi there everyone,

Thanks for the responses.

T-carat, I think he’d already made his decision, but after making his decision, he then fled back to the safe and familiar ex girlfriend until I was a 100% certainty and we were under the same roof.

Perhaps I’m wrong.

He was also using the drug ice recreationally with his ex girlfriend – which he has stopped completely now. Not sure if that contributed or not. It’s always so easy to blame anything but your own nature.

Peek at yourself first before moving on with a new partner.
There are many voices within you pulling in different directions.

One voice focuses on relationships with your Sun in the 7th, North node in Leo in the 8th (mostly sexual-romantic) (merge our stuff lessons, but through the Leo first phase of relationship, which is the romantic stage)add to that the drive for playful (5th) sensuality (Taurus) with your Mars in the 5th (first stage of relationship in Taurus physicality). I won’t even touch the projected Neptune in the 11th. (Friends (11th) with illegal (in Scorpio) drugs (Nep))

It’s only the “voice” of your Mercury in Gemini in the 6th (6th is the Nesting part of a relationship), that gets the VERBAL commitment, not necessary more, “like, let’s live together” without really thinking it through, Gemini, tends to be perceptive but doesn’t think things through to the end. So the deal looks good on paper or in words, but that is well, just talk.

And another driving force is your Sun in Cancer, and we all know how much Cancer wants the security (keyword) of a partner, but most Cancer’s have partners that are the equivalent of furniture (they haven’t really looked into if this person is a really compatible partner as long as he goes with the rest of the furniture in the house.

So you have to see these drives, and not let all these voices make decisions for you.

The first thing in your chart though that made an impression on me was your Aquarian Moon and how it wants to really be free and independent. and usually unconsciously atttracts potentially unavailable partners.

The key is to have to own your identity and “own” your need for independence instead of attracting it unconsciously through a disappearing erratic behaviour partner.

This same moon projects your own Venus in Leo in the 8th (or sex/merge/controlling assests of others/sharing etc) The Other, may become either your Moon for you or that Don Juan, romantic, flirtatious Venus in Leo, and in the 8th it just adds more sexy spice to the mix. Either you are this femme fatale or the cool “just move on,there are others, I don’t give a @#$” Aquarius moon or someone elses plays this out for you.

These are parts of you.

And with so much see-saw (oppositions though wide) in your chart…projection is part of your “story”.

Saturn now on your Pluto in the 9th, may make you aware of your need to “share your space “Virgo-nest-like” with someone who shares more of your True (9th) Moral (Virgo) values. More of a partner who can “walk the path” (9th)with you, and less of the gamey, usey, flirty, Venus in the 8th, and less of the “I could just cut out in a sec.. ice cold” Aquarian Moon…

Some people are just going to get as much sex as they can possibly squeeze out of anyone.