It hasn´t happened that much in my life, even if I have a Neptune Venus aspect. I tend to keep my small circle of friends over a long time. But I recall this one time where I met this very engaging guy I really liked, I did not get involved with him intimately because in my view he needed to make some major changes in his life. He was quite successful and I would say a bit too sure of himself. We were still friends and when I told him real nicely “I think you better change xyz in your life”, he just laughed and said he was strong as a bull. Then a few events happened and I got sold cheaply. But the story did not end there. A year and a half later he was dead, he got a serious illness and that was it. He contacted me and tried to make those changes, but it was too late.I think he got his chance but didn´t have the courage at the time to deal with his own shadow. I would agree with you that people don´t do this intentionally. I´m sure there are many variations in the emotional patterns that play themselves out in these situations, and with all the Scorpion influence in my chart I can just say, I wish sometimes I wouldn´t see all the lies that people hold in their space. So the accusation that Scorpions get about stirring up trouble might often be more related to their keen sense of seeing the distortions and being able to bring them to the surface so that they can be eliminated and that is anything but comfortable. I´m having a discussion with “God” about this right now, ha ha, because I don´t want to deal with having to point to peoples crap any longer. So yes, you say you erase everything, I like staying in my neutrality about it all.

THANK YOU ELSA. I have Venus/Neptune too and always feel guilty about erasing people who f**k me over. It happens.
Usually I erase, so well that in a year or two I forget, then start to feel guilty for being harsh. I’m dealing with that right now. Was this person so bad? Well, yes. They were. The people who’ve screwed me have done it WELL.
I hate grudges, though, and sometimes I feel as trapped by my ‘erasing’ as I have by staying somewhere painful.
I worry how this erasing jives with my principles of kindness.

Hiya,

Your post really resonated with me, Elsa, so i looked at my natal chart and BAM, there it is, Venus conj. Neptune in the 11th house.

I’m an awesome friend. Balanced, fair, kind and loyal to a fault. I’m a Scorpio (duh)

I find that people tend to take my kindness and patience for granted………as in, good ol’ C, she’ll understand. Well, I do have an enormous capacity for b.s. but it gets to a point and when it does; the drawbridge gets pulled up and that’s it! You’re outta my life. Dead to me.

Now i sort of understand why I do this. Thanks

I get this too, in a much milder way (Venus sextile Neptune), but I *know* I give off vibes of “I don’t need you, anyway, so go away and let me be.” So they get the vibe and leave me be. Venus is conjunct Pluto and Uranus. NO surprise there.

Ya know, I’ve always attributed the “clean sweep” to my Aquarius moon but I’ve got Neptune sextile Venus as well. I tend to ignore sextiles because I don’t understand them very well yet, but I’ll be paying closer attention to this one. *nodnod*