I was in the same position as ‘Single Mother’. If you are already aching and having a nagging feeling it will only grow. When you start seeing someone and he tells you he wants to date other people take it at face value!!! Please!!!He might change his mind eventually and he might not, it’s up to you to recognize your limits and give yourself an emotional deadline and respect you pain threshold of waiting for someone to commit. Woody Allen said: Relationships are like sharks if they don’t move they die.” So if in two months he still doesn’t want to be with you: goodbye!

Gee – why would you put your life on hold and stop dating others when he hasn’t had the “exclusiveness” talk with you? Why would you continue to have sex (make love) with him? That’s just gonna be more bonding on your part. Why does only seeing one man have to have anything to do with “being your style”? There’s a reason why styles are always changing.

Hi there.. I’m the one that wrote in this original question about 3 weeks ago. Again, things seem to be moving steadily forward. I don’t want to press the issue just yet, we’re very happy and having fun. I really am good with where things are at – FOR NOW.
I decided that as long as I see progress between us that I would give it until summer’s end before I broached the topic of exclusivity.

In the meantime, he has begun making comments about us as a couple, we’ve planned trips for this month and he has openly told me he is not seeing anyone else.
He has made reference to various events using us in a “couple” reference… as in “Even if I wasn’t with you I still wouldn’t have wanted to date that girl… ” etc.

I think we’re doing okay – I’d still like to hear anyone’s thoughts though.

Thank you.