On the surface mine is settled, but that’s not the reality so I picked “unsettled and I don’t like it”. I have Venus in Scorpio in the 8th widely conjunct Uranus. The stability problem, I’m slowly realizing, comes within me. I try to control and am a worrywart but am trying to avoid becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I personally wish my Venus was more secure, I don’t mind the wild or the crazy, but wish it didn’t scare me so much.

Do you ever think the excitement is what you think you want until it actually happens? If so, maybe there’s another outlet for it, rather than your love life.

I guess it depends on what you consider settled. I don’t think anything is ever fully “settled”…there’s constant evolution, even in marriage if you allow it.

I think it’s silly, actually, when people consider marriage boring. To me, flouncing around from person to person seems really yucky and unfulfilling to me. To me, part of why life is exciting and fulfilling is connected to another person in a lasting and deep way. You’d be surprised the interesting things that happen over the years…

Venus in Aquarius, 2nd house (can’t remember aspects)

XO

I know what she means..with moon, jupiter, uranus & pluto in 7th and venus opp uranus I have had an endless supply of offers. But what i’ve always craved is that deep ongoing growing connection that Uncle Hannah speaks of. I thought i had it with my ex but we were fooling ourselves and realised after 12 years that we’d reached the end of our road. Amicable and still great friends (we had lunch just y’day) it was the right thing to do or resentment would’ve built up on both sides. I’m with someone now and theres lots of sparks, good & bad which can drive me crazy at times but it keeps me awake at least. Whether it’ll turn into that great merging i crave (nept in 8th) only time will tell. But i dont regret the break, even though it was one of the most emotionally exhausting periods of my life. You cant live a lie.