Mercury in Aries vs Mercury in Libra: Who’s To Say?
Astrology in Real Life
The opposition between my Mercury in Libra and the soldier’s Mercury in Aries in full swing here.
‘Well P, I think we should have gotten married. I regret that to this day and I always will.”
“Well I guess you shouldn’t have left me,” I said.
“Left you?” He was incredulous. ‘You dumped me!”
“Oh, I did not. I did not dump you. You left me and that was that. You were gone.”
“P, I left you because you dumped me.”
“You left.”
“You dumped! I’d have never… I’d have never left you if you wouldn’t have dumped you like you did.”
“I don’t know what you’re talking about. There’s no way I dumped you.”
“No! You didn’t dump me, you just called me a cock! A cock! That’s what you called me.”
I laughed. “Yes, well. I already told you I am sorry for that, even though I am secretly proud.”
“Proud?”
“How can you be proud of calling me a cock? And you were smiling when you said it, too.”
“Oh, I don’t know. I guess I think it’s kind of funny, don’t you?”
“It’s funny that you called me a cock? I don’t believe this. You’re nothing but a cock, she says! What am I supposed to do?’
“To do? I have no idea. You did what you did. And I called you a cock which I do think is pretty funny.”
“Why is that funny? What do you think is funny about calling me a cock?”
“Oh, I don’t know. I was 19. And that is a hell of thing for a girl to call a man, especially in the era. And you were a cock in many ways. You were a cocky man, that’s for sure. I think that was a pretty good thing to call you. It was an appropriate name and I am surprised it bothered you like it did. I think a lot of men wouldn’t mind being called that.”
“Yeah, well you’re probably right about that. But you were mean when you said it. You weren’t joking around. You were being mean to me, P. Mean! You were a mean person that day.”
“Well if I was mean, I’m sorry. And it cost me big time, I’ll say that. Because then you left me.”
“Because you dumped me,” he said.
“Whatever. You keep saying that but I can’t imagine it. I don’t see how I could or would ever dump you.”
“Well I sure as hell didn’t leave you. I can’t imagine that! How in the hell could I leave you? Why? would I leave you? I left you because you dumped me. What am I supposed to do? What does a person do when someone they love dumps them and tells them they’re a cock? A cock, P! After all we’d been through, you have to go and call me a cock and then dump me.”
“Okay, well that was an obvious mistake, calling you a name and I’m sorry. But I never dumped you. That part of your story is insane. Cock or no cock, I had to cry a lot of tears when you left and don’t you forget it. I think I am the one who wound up devastated and guess why that is?”
“Why?”
“Because you were so cocky!” I said, with a chuckle.
“I was not cocky!”
“You were. You don’t need no, P. You left me and you did what? You got married in like… one minute.”
“I did not get married in one minute! And I only didn’t that because you wouldn’t marry me. I tried to get you to marry me. I tried! I would have loved to have married to you. You know that.”
“Well, no. I couldn’t tell. How could I tell, considering you married someone else a minute after you left.”
“Not one minute.”
“Okay, five. Maybe it took you five minutes to find someone else and marry her. But that’s what you did.”
“Five minutes? Okay, I’ll agree with that. I did go out and marry someone else five minutes after you and I separated. But I only did it because you dumped me!”
I just laughed. I have no idea what happened. Only that this did, in concert with the 1100 other things that happened back then. ::sigh::
Is there someone in your past who disputes history as you recall it? How does it make you feel?

4 Responses to “Mercury in Aries vs Mercury in Libra: Who’s To Say?”
Jem – thanks, I actually wrote about that movie here:
I know this man very well and consider him an exemplary human being. He married on the rebound (5 minutes is an exaggeration)… he was 21 years old.
I also did dump him… pretty much once a week. What can I say? We were kids! And refuse to marry him, etc. etc.
This is one blog about a relationship that spans close to 30 years and he has never, ever, ever hurt me. I don’t worry about his psychology at all. I couldn’t have a better friend.
I think its a lesson that the narrative we tell ourselves of what is going on is not the same story others are living by. The same events can be experienced by different people in many different ways. In very real ways we’re all living in remarkably different worlds.
I guess I decontextualized your blog entry here, not intentionally, but because I didn’t know the whole story, just what you said about the lying and rewriting history. Yes, it definitely did hit a nerve for me personally. I’ve had this happen with people I’ve known and it scared me to think you were experiencing the same thing with someone for whom you obviously care. I’m relieved to hear that the man is not at all as I perceived him to be.
Now that I understand the context….that you were kids and just learning about life and love, etc., the whole situation takes on a new meaning. As to memory, I suppose we all have our own versions of history. That’s only natural, just like we all have our own interpretations and reactions/connections to literature.
In Peace,
Jem
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Hi, Elsa,
I hope you don’t mind me being blunt about what I’m hearing here. It sounds to me as if this man is incredibly narcissistic. Yes, I’ve had the experience with a number of people I’ve known rewriting history, past or present, in order to suit themselves, for whatever purpose. There’s another term for that…it’s called gaslighting. Have you seen the old film with Charles Boyer and Ingrid Bergman? That’s an extreme case, but either way it’s crazymaking behavior…to lie like that. And the idea that he discarded you so quickly and replaced you with another woman shows a complete lack of conscience to me. I don’t know this man or the attraction, but your description makes him sound dangerous to be around for any length of time, even as a friend. Friends don’t lie. Friends don’t project blame onto everyone else. This is the sign of a very damaged person in my opinion.
Be safe and well,
Jem