These are blasts from the Elsa Blog Past:

Astrology and the Midheaven – How Do People See You When You’re Out In The World? – 48 people respond.

The Astrology of a Person’s Energy in a Room – 27 people respond

The Astrology of a Person’s Energy in a Room – Redux Sun Signs vs Rising Signs – 24 people weigh in

What Words Are Overused By The Various Signs? 18 people contribute

I never dreamed I’d be soaking cloves of garlic in soy sauce… marinating, I guess you’d say, with jalapeÆ’

Dear Virgo,

You’re happy and I think you should try to stay that way. It sounds as if your husband has problems that are profound and pervasive and I don’t think there is anything you can do to help him with them, except maybe stay away.

I think it’s great your husband says he wants to work on his issues… but talk and do are two different things. If he wants you back, let him make a significant investment in his recovery. Not just his addiction and his anger, but what’s up with these mood swings, hmm?

It’s fairly apparent that your husband has multiple problems that are deeply rooted… perhaps they are organic, and your being in the picture only serves to confuse and complicate it. So I would recommend you stay on the path you’re on. You’re happy, right!! Stay that way. This is best for you, best for your baby and ultimately it is best for him.

And if he goes six months or a year without his porn, his blaming, his anger, his whatever… then maybe you can think about re-attaching. But to be honest, I really doubt you’ll want to. Because father of your child or not, what’s this guy got to offer anyway? Not much. I think you’ll have a much better life without him and in fact this is already happening.

Good luck,
Elsa

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So that picture shocked me and several years have passed. In the meantime the soldier has sent me many pictures. I have about 30 pictures of him at all ages, including baby pictures which I specially requested.

And he’s sent them here and there, to illustrate something or to make a point, so basically they’re scattered all over my hard drive, but I had this idea one day to see if I could fit them all together.

I wanted to see if I could find a way to merge the pictures into one man who I knew. So I took that Special Forces picture because it’s a head shot, and because it’s such an acute picture and it’s by far the most remote from my memories of him. I put on my desktop. Continue reading Mercury in Aries vs Mercury in Libra: The Box – Merging Past and Present

Dear Sixteen,

Friends are very important. I think they’re critical if you want to be happy in this life so I definitely think you should try to get your friend back. And it does sound as if you are primarily responsible for the demise of the relationship, although she obviously has play too. But if you’re smart, you’ll forget about what she did or did not do wrong, and just make up for what you did wrong. Because it’s friendship, see? It’s not a contest you can score. And you said yourself you were at fault. You were a prying Scorpio…

So apparently whatever you did, you hurt your friend in the process. She responded by shutting down. And at that point you might have become more sensitive, but instead you insisted she talk to you, confide in you, etc. In essence, you were asking her to take care of you. Can you see that? Your friend is hurt, you’re the reason and now you’re telling her to trust you… and if you stop and feel this out, you’ll see it misguided. And from there it deteriorated further when you decided to insult her by calling her “stubborn” and whatever else you did. Getting the picture here? If you did this to me, I wouldn’t be talking to you either! But that said, you can probably get your friend back.

Just let her know you understand what you did, and how it made her feel. Tell her you are sorry and you will try to be more sensitive in the future… and then do it! You will probably get your friend back, but even more important you will be a better person yourself. This action will lead you to be a more sensitive in the future, and this would be Scorpio at its best.

Good luck.

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On the lousy relationship bead, and in the interest of Jupiter in Sagittarius (different perspectives) here is a man’s voice…

I was on the crosstrainer next to a man I’ve been casually chatting with for several years. I’d decided to ask him about his personal life since I’ve been discussing mine, lately. This is new territory for us and we have no chemistry by the way. Our affinity is purely intellectual.

“So what about you?” I asked. “What is your personal situation?” Continue reading Jupiter In Sagittarius: Speaking of Leaving Bad Relationships – What’s a Man Got To Say?

It took me several weeks to watch the next cd. He’d warned me to be careful and my other friends said similar things. “You don’t want to see that stuff now. At the very least, wait until after Christmas…”

This sounded reasonable to me. And it was more a chance to let what I’d already seen become fully absorbed and assimilated than it was dread of what I’d see next. Because whatever it was, I was going to see it and that was that.

And I was going to have to find a way to wrap my head around it, otherwise what? Well there is no “otherwise” so there you go. And in the meantime, I did some other things to try to merge way too much information. Continue reading Mercury in Aries vs Mercury in Libra: The Box – Post Transformation

Dear Abandoned,

Can you find something to call yourself besides “scary”? Please? Because if you’re scary, then I’m probably scary and I don’t want to be scary. I want to be Elsa. And yes, this relates to your question.

There is nothing you can do about what your girlfriend or your friends think in the moment, except know that whatever they’re thinking now is going to change. And meantime you have needs.

With all the Aries in your chart, you have a need to act independently and be heroic for one thing. So while they’re all doing what they’re doing, what are you going to do? How are you going to direct your energy?

Aries is a soldier. And soldiers need a challenge. They need something to fight for. So if I were you, I would think along these lines. What are you going to DO! Aries need to act. What’s scary, is when Aries gives up. So please. For the love of God, go find a butt to kick. How about your own?

Get back in your power, why don’t you? Lift some weights. Take kickboxing. Go run! Do something (that you were born to do) and I bet you see these problems will solve themselves.

And don’t you dare flee! Since when do Super-heroes flee? Gah.

Much love and good luck.

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Check out the Top Ten Sources for Astrology News. I am so proud to be featured here. This is one slick-looking site and I am always so moved when I am included in something like this. I don’t know what to say. It just makes me happy.

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“You watched that stuff yet?”

“No. Too scared,” I said.

“Oh come on. Just put that one cd in. The gold one. Just look at it for one second.”

“What? One second. A second? Why would I do that?”

“Because the first thing you’ll see is me. My face. Come on, E. Just put it in, look at me and then you can stop it. One second.”

“Why?” I asked, cagily.

“Why? Why she asks! Oh man. I just want you to see what I look like!”

“I know what you look like.”

“Arrrrrrgh.” Continue reading Mercury in Aries vs Mercury in Libra: The Box – 8th House Scorpio Moon Conjunct Neptune