Dear Feelings,

I’m not sure I agree everything would or could be fine between you and this man if only you could better communicate your feelings. The fact is we are constantly communicating to others on all levels all the time in ways we are not necessarily conscious of. To illustrate, I’ll tell you some of what was communicated to me in your post.

You feel there is something wrong with you (you don’t express your feelings well).
You feel there is something wrong with him (he lives wrong)
You feel you are harsh.
You feel he is harsh.
You are hurt and disappointed the relationship is not manifesting the way you’d like…
You get the idea.

So if this is what you can convey in three short paragraphs, imagine what he must know about you after three years! And to think otherwise is insulting to him.

See, he gets to perceive life and his experiences and relationships with others through his own lens. And it seems his lens is very different than yours. But it’s not that different than mine. Because I get the same read on you that he does.

“I met him, didn’t like him, then I did like him, then I loved him…”

Now that may be exactly what happened. And another man might respond to that. But it sounds like this guy is looking for something very different. Like this:

“I saw her, she saw me and EUREKA!! An hour later we were… well it just took off like a rocket. I am so freakin’ happy!”

See, if he is the kind of person who responds to a more dramatic approach, then your more ethereal Neptunian approach is just not going to register. It is not going to seem real. And I’m sorry, but I think he’s right. You are not the one for him. But don’t feel too bad. It happens to all of us and I’ll give you an example.

I was dating a Capricorn once and I liked him quite a bit. But he had Venus in Aquarius. And my best friend was a double Aquarius.

So I introduced them. And though their ages were different and neither would have betrayed me, my friend was ultra-eccentric and quirky and I could see my date was enchanted with her. It was no fault of anyone’s, but he was completely charmed. So crap, right? I’m not an Aquarian!

I quit seeing him shortly after that, because I figured every quirky chick who crossed our path would turn his head. And you get the idea. There is nothing wrong with you. I just don’t think you are the droid this man is looking for.

Good luck.

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