Astro-Twins: The Soldier and The Salesman – Commenting On The Comments
Marly writes regarding the Salesman:
“…the reason he struck me as creepy, Elsa, is that he refuses to listen to what you plainly told him: That you are not available right now.
I don’t get it, frankly. When women write you letters about their obsessions with men who are unavailable, you read them the riot act. Then this guy is doing the same thing and you talk about how you understand because of the astrology. Who’s to say that these women who write to you are not similarly compelled by the astrology? And even if they and this salesman are compelled by the astrology, doesn’t there come a point when they all have to say, “You know what, it ain’t going to happen for whatever reason. This person is not available to me right now, let me move on”?
Marly, the women who write me are in pain. They have a complaint. This guy is not asking my advice, or even having a problem. In fact, he’s enjoying himself immensely and perhaps even having the time of his life.
As for his disrespecting my boundaries, I would say that cost him bad. Because the chemistry is there. And if he’d acted in a way that was respectful several months ago, we’d probably be dating right now. But he didn’t! So this is the turn the relationship has taken.
And he’s running his life and I’m running mine. And I don’t know what all he’s doing, but I am studying him. And I am trying to figure out God’s joke, to put this guy on a crosstrainer next to me in the first place, because this is what I do.
And what I don’t do is tell people how I feel they should run their life when my opinion has not been solicited!
So considering that, I think this situation is fine the way it is. And as a matter of fact, it benefits me because I get a better workout when he’s in the vicinity. His chart energizes my Mars, yes? It does. So I am exhilarated by his energy and channel this into my workout… and I am sure he does same. So this is something I was going to write about.
These two men have similar energy but it does not mean they use it in similar ways. The soldier respects boundaries without fail though he’s certainly capable of muscling his way into to anything, anytime, anywhere. And this is the whole point of this thread. To look at two people with like energy and note the similarities (and differences) of how they act (interact) with a control… that is, me!
And it just happens the interaction is very powerful, which is good. Because do we want something limp? Of course not! We’re trying to learn astrology here!
So these men have the same energy, but they are not the same people. They are not interchangeable! One of them is all about integrity and the other… not! But this is irrelevant to the fact I am energized by either of them while they find me compelling. And it is at this point, free will comes into the equation!
skip to Conjunctions to the N. Node in Synastry…

5 Responses to “Astro-Twins: The Soldier and The Salesman – Commenting On The Comments”
So, Salesdude isn’t a slow learner- he’s still sniffing around because you *like* it, and he knows he might be getting somewhere
That makes more sense than if you were just completely blowing him off! “If at first we don’t succeed…”
Okay, Elsa, I get it now.
Elsa this free will quality that you mention is intriguing – the more integrated a woman is with her power – her will ( mars, sun, and pluto) the free will choice seems to become more available to her in relationships. the less integrated around her power – the more likely there is to be an addictive quality to relating that is connected to the visceral heat ( mars) that a guy puts out in pursuit of his projections. you seem to be saying that you can take – or leave – any aspect of this saleman’s energy as you so choose – and i would assume that is because your mars is active, engaged and that you are also conscious and discriminating about this dynamic.
am i reading this correctly ?
guys are stuck ( addicted) on the other side of the equation – the less integrated they are with the lunar/feminine facets of their charts – connecting in general, the moon/moon nodes and venus – the more they project those things and chase after them in relationships. but i am finding that all of what i was chasing actually seems to be available to me as something that i already posess….and that there is a parallel quality of free will that has evolved into my relating as a result.
Don, that sounds right though I could never have stated it so eloquently.
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