Dear Wife,

I am sorry for your husband, but I don’t think you need worry about “staying” optimistic. With your Moon in Sagittarius and Jupiter conjunct your Sun you are optimistic. Like having black hair, or a big nose, or a high arch in your foot… this is something about you that just “is”. I know it is challenging to be around a depressed person and I can understand your fear. But being optimistic is inherent to you and if you can grasp this, you can let go the worry over something that will never come to pass.

Further, you can support yourself with this knowledge. He is depressed, however you are not because this propensity is simply not part of your nature. And though this seems simple, you’ve got quite a bit of Piscean energy – which means “separation” in general is a challenge. So I can understand how you could confused about the idea his illness could bleed into you, I am telling you, it can’t. It’s as if your husband has the flu, and you have immunity to the flu!

And this is not to say you’re living in some kind of panacea with your optimism either. Because it’s another kind of hell to live happily (whether you like it or not) in proximity to someone who is depressed. And for that, I have no remedy. So I would say, do what you’re doing. Be yourself. Stand by and hope the meds get under him. But don’t waste your time and energy worrying your plane is going to go down when in reality, it’s crash-proof.

Much love and good luck.

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