I ran across Carolyn Steven’s tribute to astrologer and author, Grant Lewi, who is famous for predicting his own death. Lewi’s astrology books are classics and he has the very odd distinction of being the most usurped astrological writer of all time.

By that, I mean that I have heard his ideas and arguments come out of the mouths of so many people it’s a joke. People repeat what they have read in his book, nearly verbatim at times acting as if these ideas are their own! And this has fascinated me for years. Do they think they are the only one who has read “Astrology For The Millions”? Because this is the book most transgressed.

In “Astrology For The Millions”, Lewi writes about people who “believe in astrology”. And he says it makes no sense to believe in astrology and he goes on to write the most elegant essay you could possibly imagine. These paragraphs are so finely wrought, reading them, you are forever tattooed. His view on this is so distilled and real, it’s impossible to forget what you’ve read. And what happens is a good percentage of people who are exposed, adopt his philosophy on the spot. And next thing you know, they’re out in the world spilling his words from their mouths as if they came up with them organically.

And I don’t know Grant Lewi so I have no idea how he might feel about this. He might be flattered or he might be pissed. And he’s dead, so I can’t ask him. But consider his title. “Astrology For The Millions”.

What kind of title is that? It’s not “Astrology for You and I” is it? It’s astrology for the millions and this is the irony. Lewi is so often plagiarized, I am pretty sure he has reached his million people many times over. And perhaps when he titled his book he knew this would come to pass, just like he knew on which day he would die.

In whatever case, Carolyn Stevens is calling him the “Father of Modern Astrology”. Some astrologers may argue that, but I feel comfortable with it and this is why. So next time you hear someone arguing passionately about whether astrology is something a person can believe in, smile and think of Grant Lewi. A great astrologer, a great writer, a great man with a great book, “Astrology For The Millions”.

Dear Single Mother,

No, of course it’s not going to last. And the separation from friends when you have your first baby is so common, it may be universal. Having a baby is all consuming and when the baby is born, you’re so busy and tired and obsessed with your child it makes it very difficult to relate to your old single, child-free friends.

And it’s easy to see why! They’re going out. You’re wondering when you’re going to be able to sleep through the night. They’re playing around. Your baby is vomiting and you’re scared to death, overwhelmed and not sure you’re equipped to take care of this little human being.

And if you stand back and look at this, you can see that friends who can make this kind of transition with you would be so exceedingly rare, they may not exist. So I hope this gives you some perspective. The old you died to give birth to this baby, but now it’s time for you to resurrect yourself. It’s time for you to rise from the ashes and can you do this? Of course you can!! You have a Scorpio Moon!

So on the guy… call him up if you can. I mean, I don’t know the situation. If he’s married or something, then forget about it. But if you think he’s out there floating around and he’s someone you could connect with, reach out because you’ve got to start somewhere. You’re an Aquarian with Venus in Sagittarius and you know how to be friend with old lovers. And if that won’t work, take another tack. But you do need to get out there in some form.

As for meeting people, if you’ve been isolated it can sometime be daunting but you can start online. Look for message boards. Hang out on the Elsa blog! Because you have energy and if you put it out there, eventually you will be spotted. What you say will resonate with someone and this is how relationships begin.

As for dating, you need to do that too. Do you have a baby-sitter? You need one. If you are loathe to leave your baby alone… well, as new parents we all go through that. You’ve just got to sit through dinner with your heart pounding in your chest the first few times, but it gets better, I promise. Just get out of the house. And be ready to offer your phone number to anyone you might meet who seems appealing. You get the idea. Wake up and venture out. It’s time.

Good luck.

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CK writes on the previous blog about abuse, torture and alchemy:

“Good Luck getting me in the box, to get out if necessary I’ll chew one or all my limbs off (?!)”

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When I read this comment I was thrilled because it was completely unexpected and just of left field from my perspective. My first thought was that everyone will go through a “dark night of the soul” at some point, like it or not. We all have a Pluto transit eventually. But as the day and the week went on I continued to think about this.

And CK apparently represents the other end of the spectrum from my friend who is looking for the absolute edge of the edge when he signs on for torture school, never mind, goes on one mission after another after another, after another where his being killed is the most likely outcome. And both ways of being seem completely valid to me.

Where are you on this continuum when it comes to seeking (or not seeking) intense transformative experience? 1 = CK, 10, the Special Forces soldier.

And what’s the Pluto / Scorpio situation in your chart?

As reported on John and Susan’s Astro*News on AstroCocktail, according to a study by an insurance company…

“Female drivers born under the starsign Libra are more likely to impact upon their women’s car insurance premiums by having motoring convictions, research has shown…”

On the other end of the spectrum, Virgos fare best when it comes to traffic citations.

A study some months ago came up with different results, “The Best/Worst Drivers in the Zodiac“, though this study apparently includes men and does not cite the criteria the drivers were rated by.

Are you a good driver?

Dear Pining,

I don’t think your problem has anything to do with being a lesbian and I mention this to help your confusion. Your history and all that clouds the issue which is essentially this: Are you going to live this life or no?

And I’m not trying to be nasty to you. I want to help you and I’m just saying, you are almost 30 years old and you’ll be 40 faster than you can spin. You’ve already lost a number of years suppressing yourself. Do you really want to spend any more time on the sidelines? Why?

Your passive sacrificing Pisces Moon square Neptune aside, when I see Venus and Mars in ARIES (raw male energy) in a chart and the person is unable to act, I am very afraid. Somewhere in you lurks a total huntress and you need to go get this woman you have your eye on. The time to be passive and pining is after you’ve been laid, not before. Get it? ::smiles::

But you asked for a sign, so here it is:

You have Venus and Mars conjunct in Aries, she has Venus and Mars conjunct in Libra. This is ungodly sexual chemistry. She also has 4 planets in Leo so she does not like feeling old. In other words there is nothing she’d like better than to play with a young thing like you.

Good luck.

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Virgology

And for astrology...

The gal who lost her Capricorn boyfriend of 9 years surfaced to ask people if they thought there was any hope she could get him back.

If you want to weigh in on that, please do.

Stephanie wrote regarding women hunting other women:

“…Women’s jealousy/insecurity/egoism and various attributes that bring out the dark side of them often appears to have little basis in achieving a particular goal other than to feel superior or elevate themselves in some way, falsely I’d say. I believe the only way to elevate yourself in any form is to empower others regardless of your feelings for or about them. You do not have to remain bound in any way to those you empower; however, it is the act of doing this for other women that keeps you in constant growth as an individual. Recognizing we all have a shadow side is key. The desire to do good with it opens doors for everyone.”

I am freakishly proud she’s a friend of mine… and it’s her birthday today, so Happy Birthday, Stevie!

And when I read her comment it made me think of Henry, the original iconoclastic man in my life who exposed me to this quote by Thomas Paine, which I have lived by since I was about 10.

“Independence is my happiness, and I view things as they are, without regard to place or person; my country is the world, and my religion is to do good.”

Do you have a quote or some quintessential concept you live by?

Dear Confused,

Yes, your chart reflects this. You have your Sun, Moon, Mercury and Mars in Aquarius, in the Aquarius ruled 11th house. That’s a lot of Aquarius!!!! Further, you have aspects from Uranus (the planet that rules Aquarius) to your planets in Aquarius so that settles it. When it comes to Aquarius, you take the cake, the grand prize the gold star and the blue ribbon!

And this explains your independence and your ability to be detached, your network of friends, etc. These are all Aquarian traits and all is fine until you factor in Saturn…

You have Saturn in hard aspect to your Moon. And as light and free as you are, you have a niggling feeling there is something wrong with you. And Saturn is hanging out near your descendant, being all ouchy, which is where the tie to relationships comes in. So how to fix?

Awareness can help. When you have such an emphasis on one sign and one house like this, there is a tendency to deny the rest of you. But this won’t work obviously. You see how it comes up to dog you. And what will help is to own this side of yourself. Because as independent and unfettered as you may be, you do have feelings of insecurity that need to be accepted and incorporated into your life. And like happens so often on this blog, you are well on your way by writing me.

See, I imagine you with your friends: chit, chit, chat. And I am sure you are brilliant. So this side of you gets all the air. But when you wrote this blog, you gave Saturn some air. Saturn being your negative feelings and your fear. And this is the path that will bring relief.

Because the fact is, you probably will go insane if cooped up in a relationship. It’s just too restrictive. But if you can acknowledge the reality (Saturn) that your lack of relationship concerns you (Saturn) in spite of being A-OK in all other ways… and if you talk to your friends about this, then it can become just another quirk in personality of which I am sure there are plenty. Get it? You were already weird, and now you are a little weirder and I think you can live with that.

One more tip:

You may need another friend. One you can call when the black mood strikes. The point being that this new wrinkle of yourself that you are owning expands you, not otherwise.

Good luck.

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Dear Scared,

Yep, you’re on to it. Part of you wants to be in a relationship and part of you wants out! And you’re right. It has nothing to do with the man. You’re a commitment-phobic who craves relationships and this is hard-wired.

As for the astrology, anyone with their Moon in the 7th house is going to have an emotional need to be partnered. PERIOD.

But you’re an Aquarius rising. And you have Uranus in hard aspect to your Sun. And you have Jupiter conjunct your Mars and square your Venus. And all of this shrieks “Don’t fence me in!” And if you want evidence of this, just check your email address…

Your email address is how you identify yourself, right? And yours is the equivalent of FreeSpirit@blahblah.net. So how is that person going to be married, huh? ::smiles:: You’ll be jacked up from day 1!

So I don’t know what you’re going to do about this. How you resolve it will be very personal, but I can tell you it can be done because I am just like you and I’ve done it. There is a way to be both partnered and free. So you’re on the right track with your consciousness of this. And hopefully the clarity will help to kick you to the next level.

Bottom line, you need to make your own rules when it comes to relationships. Anything traditional will fail. And this may sound bad to you today, but it is what it is and understanding yourself is the key.

Good luck.

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