Comments on: Her Pisces Lover Left Her Pregnant: Capricorn Woman With a Virgo Moon

By: Yvonne Blassingame

Yvonne Blassingame — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 03:54:36 +0000

I know what you all are going through. I have a seven year old son now. Seven years ago my ex left my child and I. It was so hard to go through and some times I often think of him and how he is doing? I never ever went after child support, I thought at the time he did not want to have any thing to do with my child and it still holds true. The pain would just kill my son, his Father not wanting to be a part of his life.
Their is some advice I can give you! And that is, Think of you child the baby you are going to be giving birth to. It is a life , it did not ask to brought into this world. If the situation is bad for now and the man will not work with you, how is he going to to treat the baby. It is not your body either, It is your baby body for nine months. All I am saying is think of your baby. Ever thing you do now will hurt your child in the future trust me. All they want is love.

By: Venus Zuniga

Venus Zuniga — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 18:30:15 +0000

I feel u. My bf just broke up w me yesterday and i’m almost 5 months pregnant. Just all because of an argument on the phone. This month is my appt. to find out what the sex of the baby is and he acted like he was excited to find out. Although he is much younger than me, he had me beleiving he cared and would be here. Right now i’m in shock, never thought he’d leave me at this time. Now all i can do is try to deal w/ it the best i can. I don’t think i will hear from again. Im very sad.

By: anonymous

anonymous — Fri, 21 Dec 2007 00:11:04 +0000

hello adrift! i dont know if u read my reply or not, but i had to say that iam a pisces in a relationship with a cappy. If your pisces lover left you alone, let him go………..YES!! i know u might be thinking that this is stupid,but believe me this is the only solution to ur problem. Its going to be tough for you but this is the right thing 2 do for a pisces. I suggest you to remain calm and forget him because he dint love you and dont ever cry for those who dont deserve your tears, who deserve ur tears dont let you cry!

By: Madeline

Madeline — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 00:32:42 +0000

Elsa, aside from being a professional astrologer I am also a Women’s Health Care Nurse Practitioner.I have to say, your advice to this mom to be is so absolutely stellar and right on and caring and practical and cut- the- bullshit, I want to send many many grins your way! From an astrological point of view I,too, believe this Capricorn gal has what it takes to be a super parent and this life event will change her for the better. The cut- your -losses advice is about what i would say too– she has options, you hit them all on the head and I know with this kind of support this gal will be a fine Mom!!!!! Blessings to all of you!!

By: seekingzen

seekingzen — Wed, 08 Nov 2006 08:04:35 +0000

I agree completely. Welcome to single motherhood! It’s not a glamorous job, but someone’s gotta do it, and the rewards are enormous… Sue the bastard for child support if you want and/or need it, but don’t bother trying to force him to be a daddy. It can’t be done. However, there are a number of awesome guys out there who will be able to pick up his slack, should you decide that’s what you want.

I’m sorry he’s an ass, hon… But better that he flake out now than when the child is old enough to remember that, once upon a time, s/he had a dad. I’ve got a friend whose father left when he was 3 years old, and he’s never quite gotten over it.

*hugs*

By: satori

satori — Wed, 08 Nov 2006 02:45:32 +0000

I did it alone for a few years before I met someone else and got married… YOU CAN DO IT!

I never sought support. money always comes with strings. I didn’t want any strings.

and hey, Congratulations on your pregnancy! it’s going to change your life in so many wonderful ways.

By: Christine

Christine — Wed, 08 Nov 2006 01:25:08 +0000

Great advice, Elsa. I only wish you’d touched on the fact that Adrift lost her valuable support network after being assaulted. The support network she has told us brought her back from the brink of emotional collapse.

Here’s some love and good vibes coming your way.

By: Korellyn

Korellyn — Tue, 07 Nov 2006 18:14:53 +0000

*standing ovation for Elsa*

By: Krista

Krista — Tue, 07 Nov 2006 13:07:37 +0000

Good advice as always from Elsa.

To put what I am going to say into some kind of context, I have no children and no maternal feelings and tend to see things the way men do more often.

How do YOU feel about this pregnancy? You don’t say anything which tells me if you are happy about it or not. If you are, I apologise, as I only have a short letter to go on.

What you don’t want to do is to have a child hoping it will cement a relationship. I’ve seen women do that – they were happy to have the baby when they thought the guy would be theirs and then go off the kid when the relationship broke up. The child needs to be wanted by his mother AT A MINIMUM no matter what her lovelife’s like. If he gets the love of a good father as well, even better. (I am not saying any of this applies to you, I am just kicking around ideas and thoughts. A short letter can’t give us all the info).

It could be he’s in shock and will come round.

But if you are having this baby with or without him, you will have many many plans to work out before it’s born. You won’t have too much time to waste worrying about how his mind works.

Maybe he enjoyed playing saviour when you went through the assault but that’s a whole different thing to being committed to being a father for the next 18 years.

Men don’t have the advantage of pregnancy hormones to make them feel warm and fuzzy. It’s still just an “idea” – not tangible to him. Men generally don’t melt and coo over babies as most women will but can feel that way about their own. I hope I am making sense.

Maybe he needs time to come to terms with seeing himself as a father. Maybe he’s frightened he won’t be good enough. He sounds like he has a very definite sensitive streak (as shown from his support earlier) so he may surprise you in the end after all.

This is of course all speculation. The only definite thing you know is that there is a baby on the way and you don’t think his father will be in the picture. That is the only thing you have to deal with in the here and now.

Best wishes to you and your baby. If the baby has least one parent who loves and cherishes him, he’ll be fine.