Venus in 5th house Sag. Trine 9th house Mars. Opposed by 11th house Jupiter. Squared by the Nodes in 2nd and 8th houses. 3 broken marriages, my fault because I should have known better.

Ahh, I can’t choose! It would depend on my partner and what they wanted. Marriage was never a big deal to me until I really started thinking about the person I want to be with, and can’t see myself without. But a piece of paper does not make the commitment.

Venus in Scorpio in the 8th square jupiter in 5th and sextile saturn in 6th, it’s my least aspected planet.

I would love to be married and have a wild and crazy life while in that tome. I’m optimistic but reality is am also mid thirties, single fem, etc, etc..so maybe not. he.he.he. Oh, have gem/2nd house moon & saturn conjunct gem/3rd house venus — all opp jupiter in sag/9th. Whatever and however it all manifests I’m still a leo stellium. kisses.

Well, I have Virgo Uranus and Pluto conjunct my Ascendant opposing my Pisces Venus and Chiron. I got married once, divorced him 3 years later and I’ve remained unmarried ever since. Variety IS the spice of life

I’m 43 year old female – never married. Plenty of serial monogomy over the years. No romantic interludes for the last 3 years, MY choice. I’m an artist (digital) with highly aspected Venus.
Taurus Asc. (venus rules the chart?).
Asc trine Venus in Capricorn (9th H)
Venus trine Uranus conjuct Pluto in Virgo (5th H)
Venus square Jupiter in Aries(12th H)
Venus conjunct South Node opp. North Node
Venus sextile Chiron in Pisces (11th H.)

My romantic self would like to runaway for a dirty weekend in some exotic and expensive location with a gorgeous, silver-haired gentleman, get hitched in private, and return with a ring on my finger, a wicked hangover and whisker rash. hee hee.

Jamie,
Your phone number story reminded me of a night in a bar with a friend. A man was seriously hitting on her–she’s like: I’m married. He says: Me too! Here’s my number anyway.

So we get outside of the bar, open the paper up, and the paper is BLANK! Can you explain that, Elsa?

On another note, both my honey and I are in the great fortune of having Saturn in the 7th house, which apparently means death for people who desire marriage. Ha! Incidentally, he is 17 years older than me (classic for this Saturn placement, I have just learned).

Good thing we both don’t want it! The only time he asked me was when he was half dead int he hospital. I said “Don’t worry, sweetie, I’m not going anywhere. Ask me when the morphine wears off.” He didn’t. Ha ha!

As for the Venus, it’s in the 3rd house, conjunct Mars, opposite Pluto, squared the Moon, and trined to Neptune, Saturn, and Jupiter.

Last words: Marriage for me is a ridiculous symbol of a beginning. I have a feeling I’m going to get married when I am old and the relationship is old, too.

The timing of this is incredible, literally while turning on my computer I was wondering about all my parallel realtionships. I’m a Scorp with Virgo ascendant, my Venus is in Libra, and I’ve been divorced twice. Don’t know about all the aspect stuff. I do know that I am leaky too, and devoted to all of my men. I have a great relationship with both ex husbands and ties with others that will never break. All of them know about my involvement with the others, but it’s basically serial monogamy, and I just keep them in the place in my heart that’s theirs, I don’t feel the need to cast them out. I feel like with each one we’re connected on a soul level that is unique to us and so there is no need to exclude anyone, there’s no such thing as competition. I have enough love for everyone, and maybe it is only through not being married that I can fully express that without betraying anyone’s expectations.
For now, single works for me. I get to sprinkle a lot of pixie dust this way!!

I forgot to post my Venus placement and aspects. Venus Retrograde in Scorpio, first house, conjunct Neptune (leaky, leaky, leaky) conjunct Moon, Square Mars and Saturn, trine Jupiter and sextile Pluto.
I’ve got a lot of male issues. My Venus has an intense desire to refine it’s love nature and she is in the process of reconstruction:)

the pisces thing… well, I would say that pisces is about faith, belief, fluidity, and what does that have to do with contracts?

I have moon square venus so my needs and wants don’t co-exist too happily.

Hmmm…this is interesting. I have Venus in Aquarius and really hate being comitted sometimes but perhaps (and I”m learning astrology slowly) my Cancer moon and Capricorn sun really LOVE being married? I’m loyal to the point of utter stupidity for example. BUT I find myself being two people–’nurturing co-dependant parent’ and ‘leave me the fuck alone a-hole’. My husband gets to discover which one is present when he wakes up in the morning….

And what this means, I don’t know. I’ll research.
Venus Sextile Jupiter
Venus Quincunx Uranus

I’m married, but no kids and I don’t really feel like it means anything. If we split up for good I probably wouldn’t bother going to the trouble of getting divorced as why bother doing this again?

When I was 30, I bought the package. It seemed almost biological in nature. NOW all I wanna do is be able to support myself in a decent way. I relate to what Satori said– health insurance for example! I think it would be better to be single, but it was utter hell being single. Forget it. I’ll just see what happens. I’m beyond wishy-washy, I’ll let life decide.

I put that I’m co-dependant, because with all this stupid libra I think I am fairly inclined that way. But I have Venus in sagg, in the 9th house, so I do like to travel and do stuff with my partner. I couldn’t just sit still and build a comfortable life in a boring neighbourhood. I always thought it would just be nice to have someone to be with, experience and share life with. I thought I would find that person and they’d be my lover as well. But it’s not shaping up like that so I have to redefine what I need from who, and make best with that.

p.s. I think the Uranus in Libra and Pluto in Libra generation’s coming of age is of significance with these statistics. We were the first generation of children dealing with widespread divorce. Both my partner and I went through it as kids.

“I’m a Pisces and none of this matters anyway”

That made me laugh out loud because it’s so true. Pisces Sun with Venus in Pisces conjunct Chiron, 9th house. Cancer rising. When I was 15 an astrologer told me, with my chart and Cancer rising and all, I’d have a lot of marriages and divorces in my life. Like Liz Taylor. I’ve never been married and probably never will.

Committment matters a great deal to me. Marriage? Not so much. Honoring the love, respecting the committment – highly important – but “I do’s” and weddings? Waste of time and money. My longest term relationships (7+ years, twice) are LIKE marriage, and we lived together, but without the formalities. Or the expense. It works (worked) for me – and them.

However… the whole dust up two years ago over gay marriage – when it was a huge issue? Sent me off to become a Unitarian Minister just so I could perform marriages. I’ve done two so far. I’ll marry anyone, I don’t care who or if they’re same-sex or not as long as they are of age. Moon, Mars, Uranus, Pluto in Virgo opposed by Sun, Venus, Chiron and Saturn in Pisces – the whole issue just made me mad. No one has the right to define marriage, in my opinion. It’s a private matter between two people (possibly more, but I’m still pondering that one) and it shouldn’t govern if someone gets health insurance or death benefits or where they can live or whom they can live with.

I like being married. More accurately, I like him being married to me. I like seeing the gold band on his finger that says I “own” him. I’d tattoo my name to his forehead if he’d let me. Venus conjunct IC in Virgo.

It’s early marriage and weird ass choices at an early age that bothers me. In Russia they have and still marry at around 21, my mom reached 25 to her 30s and her friends considered her their unmarried friend. A girl who studied abroad in St. Petersburg last year (making her 21) fell in love with a man back there who seems to keep trying to get her to marry him, only in milder terms than that. She is of course crazy in love as is the daughter of my mom’s best friend in Russia who might marry any minute now. Having the problems of marriage foisted on you at such an early age scares me. I say live together a little. It’s the love that makes you think I want to spend the rest of my life with this person, why not make it formal that drives you to these choices. I think the guy who is trying to marry the girl that studied abroad is somewhat of a charlatan, though of course he isn’t, only in my wary point of view that ascribes her being ready to move to economically unstable St. Petersburg to live with someone that who knows how long she’ll love to the craziness of love. It is an American thing, I guess, to be so slow in marrying, but marriage has so much of that western Christian and economic stigma (i.e. St. Augustine talking about marrying in order to curb temptation and cheating) so that’s a factor too. Freaking oppression of women or whatever, it’s real, as skeptical of women’s studies as I am. And being tied. But hey, I’m a Gemini. Who’s never been crazy in love to boot.

I once dated a pisces. He said he’d fall in love with any woman he slept with. He’s still friends with all of his ex-es.

Me venus in pisces opposite pluto, moon. square saturn, mars.

I would very much like to get married. However, there is something about giving up my privacy and space that would have to be negotiated before marriage would work for me. I’m very loyal and see marriage just as a legal formality and having nothing to do with the “real marriage” which has to do with you, your partner, and the community you live in recognizing your commitment to each other.

But then again – I agree with Molly’s observation about our generations coming of age and what we grew up with. We’re trying to write a different story than what we saw. I wouldn’t agree that it’s avoidance or attraction to what our parents had or didn’t have. We saw that either of the main choices that generation had didn’t work. It wasn’t negotiated properly. People didn’t understand what they were undertaking or who they were or how they would change and grow together. The uranus and pluto libra generations are trying to find a “different” solution to partnerships. I think that Elsa is asking us some smart smart smart questions to get us to examine how we get to what we really want. “better living through Elsa” as it were

Also, interesting points on your folks’ marriages. My husband’s parents were married for YEARS until his father died and were very very happy. He never saw them have a cross-word. Whereas my home was a daily battleground (don’t ever remember having peace) and my parents divorced when I was 18. So I am cynical as hell sometimes, and he is all romantic. I start off being romantic but it seems to wear off so quickly me. The too good to be true thing….

Yeah, see, what Krista said about the romance being gone I see a lot in movies. All of the bad marriages. For some reason, I can’t access what I think about it now, but whenever I see a couple and the girl has cut her hair or put on a fancy outfit, I always think whether the man saw her doing it. Somehow that’s a big deal to me, seems to take a lot of mystery away in the relationship.

I like being married, and I like being a mom. Being both together (esp. when the people involved are not related) is very difficult.