Bereft,

When it comes to Saturn transits, there is a process and I will outline it for you. In your case, Venus (love) is conjunct Saturn in your natal chart, so the whole transit will focus on relationships and you see the set up here. Your man is gone and he is gone because of you. And when you move through the pain and begin to accept reality, a humbling takes place.

“Okay, maybe I am not a hotshot. Maybe I’m a mere human being and maybe I need to try not to suck! Maybe I need to get my ass in gear and keep it there. Maybe I need to take responsibility…”

And this is the beginning of healing. When you decide to face reality, define the problem and commit to a plan of action, things ease. Not a lot, but it’s noticeable. It’s the difference between lying under the covers wishing to die, and sitting on the edge of the bed, knowing you’re going to live and deciding to have some say about how the rest of your life is going to go.

And once you get here, it is generally very obvious what you need to do. The path is there! You know you’ve got the right path if it seems completely daunting. Sorry, but this is how it is.

And I don’t know what you need to do. It’s not for me to decide. You are the one who is laying the foundation for the next thirty years of your life, so what is it that you want to build? I can’t decide for you, but I have some suggestions.

The best buildings have integrity. And the foundations are sunk into the ground. Which means you may have to go back (dig in) before you can go forward (build). So what about this guy? Are you clear there? Have you apologized? Have you taken responsibility for what you put him through?

If not, I would. With this done, you’ll be at ground zero. You will be no one with nothing, but you’ll have your integrity. And some class, although I doubt you’ll feel that. But you will be a person who does right by others even if you haven’t in the past, and it’s right here that you’re positioned to promise that you will never compromise yourself again.

Part three

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