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I went out with Kathy the boy-girl last night and she is starting to see that she really is like a man. From my perspective this is! And with her third house (Gemini) packed with Sagittarius, what could possibly be more “interesting” than a different perspective?

So anyway, all that Sadge is yang, as is the 3rd house. But she also has a Leo Moon (yang) in the 11th house (yang). So you can see she is over the top on this front and in contrast to me – A super yin type, save my Mars Mercury conjunction which will definitely cuss you out and perhaps beat up your car with a bat, if sufficiently provoked.

Now I don’t think either of us would act so near our respective poles with other people. For example, if Kathy was with someone with more of a yang nature, you would probably see more of her yin side and vice versa with me. But as it is, when you put us together…well it’s just extreme. And she doesn’t see it, though she’s beginning to. Mostly because she constantly shocks me with her raging hard-on behavior and I simply have to comment. The first time I mentioned this was a couple weeks ago. We were on the phone.

“You’re such a man, Kathy. Jesus.”

She roared. “Oh Elsie, what do you mean? I’m not a man,” she said.

Being yin, I let it drop. But three minutes later, we were discussing the message board where I posted, which led her to my blog, which led her to contact me for a consultation. And it turns out she was in contact with another woman from that board…

“Yeah!” she said. “She’s jealous!”

“Jealous?”

“Yeah! Because we’re friends,” she said boastfully. “Because I live here and she doesn’t! I’m hanging out with you. We’re hanging out!”

I didn’t answer. I was just amazed.

“And I told her, that’s right! She’s mine!” she said all aggressively. She was shouting. “Elsie’s mine! I got her! I got her and you didn’t! So there!”

I snorted. Got me? What am I? Kathy’s conquest? Here I am, a notch on Kathy’s belt and who knew?

I laughed but I didn’t say why. Figured I’d clue her in later.

To be continued…

And what about you? Yin or Yang or both?

~ skip to part two

Dear Empty.

Obviously I don’t know why this guy slipped out like a snake. And neither do you. And believe it or not, this is in your best interest. Because eventually, when you come to accept the fact that you don’t know and you won’t know, there will be just one thing left to do. Focus on the fact you feel empty, that is – and this is what you need to fix.

So let me try to turn your thinking to something more productive, okay? Here’s my version of your story. You’re married and you meet this dashing guy. He engages you and you him. You email for some months, and share some phone calls… at which point he drops off the planet.

“Hmm,” you think. “What the hell was that? What did that mean? What was the purpose?”

See the difference? He’s not the focus. He is an instrument of the universe… meant to get you thinking. But not thinking about him, for godsakes! Think about yourself.

“Why do I feel so empty? Why is their a hole in me and how might I fill it?”

Because it’s your hole! He doesn’t have anything to do with the hole in you. And if you want to know the difference, check this: if you were “complete”, this would not hit you this way. The guy might leave a void, but it would be a void in your life, not a void in you. Do you get the distinction?

I’ll make it more clear. I recently had a very, very close friend pull away from me. This was someone I talked to pretty much daily for several years. And it was not because the friendship failed. She still loves me. It was for something else. But the point is, when she pulled out (not permanently) I was left with an enormous void. And I missed her like coming off a drug. I was so used to talking to her…

But I was still me. I was still whole. So I just strung one day to the next day to the next, until the universe filled the void. And the universe did exactly that. A new person (people, actually) to talk to every day, came into my life. But do you see my point?

You want to find a way to fill the hole in you, so the people in your life can come and go as they please. And if you can do this, you will be happy, contented, and powerful beyond your imagination today. And at that point, you can look back and say, “Boy am I glad I met that bastard. He made me see how empty I was, but those days are gone..”

Good luck

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It’s happened again! Kathy, who is looking for a (permanent) job was talking to the gal at one of her agencies yesterday.

“How would you like to work for Frito Lay?” she asked. Kathy laughed. This stuff is uncanny.

I’m reading this book, Unveiled: The Hidden Lives of Nuns. How’s that for Pluto (hidden) in Sagittarius (religion)? It’s excellent. Very calming for some reason.












On the same subject, this image came to mind the other day. I posted it on my old blog a few years ago as an image of Pluto in Sadge. I mean, come on. There’s a horse (Sagittarius) in a sink hole (Pluto), being pulled down (Pluto) against his will, obviously. I thought it was funny.




But when I heard about Barbaro, going down, I didn’t think it was funny at all. In fact, it made me sick to my stomach. Posting this anyway, though. With wishes he comes through this, “a happy walking horse”.

Dear Tortured.

Yow! You’re obsessing. And this tendency shows up very clearly with your chart with your Mercury (mind) square Pluto (obsession).

So here’s the bottom line: your tendency to obsess is hard-wired. So waiting for this to stop (or end or shut off) will be fruitless. You will obsess, but what you obsess over is within your control.

So at the moment, you tend to focus on your relationships to the detriment of all involved. And why do that, when there is a whole world out there?

The square involves your 9th house (international… all things big and positive, education) and the 6th house (service). So how about you take your mind off all this crap, and apply the energy to something positive and high minded? Go study something really damned hard, for example. Or think late into the night about how you can serve in this world on a large scale. Read a book (Mercury) about the Black Death. Think about that all night!

The point is, the energy is there. What you do with it, is up to you. Good luck.

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pictured: Illustration of the Black Death from the Toggenburg Bible (1411)

Dear Girlfriend,

There are all kinds of lies, and all kinds of liars. There are cases when a person is lied to… out and out deception. And there are other cases when a person lies to themselves, ignoring obvious cues and clues… and then projects the nasty behavior on the partner when the veil drops. I could go on with the various scenarios and combinations but you get the idea. This is not a narrow question.

See, Neptune / Pisces has a reputation for deceiving, where Gemini can tell almost constant tiny fibs. The fire signs exaggerate and Scorpio will lie like a rug about anything they don’t happen to want you to know. But really just about everyone lies at one time or the other, to one degree or the other, consciously, semi-consciously, sub-consciously, accidentally, unknowingly… you get the idea.

So I don’t think you are going to be able to nail down some kind of marker in a chart and say “that’s the chart of a liar!” I think that at best, people tell truth “most of the time” so I actually kind of like your term, “fluid truth”.

Now specific to your problem, there are signs of “gullibility” in your chart. Neptune square your Moon for one. But get this. The confusion goes both ways.

For example, with Neptune square your Moon, you will be confused at times about how you actually feel. But let’s say you’re married, or you’ve got some man, and you are in an established relationship. He says “I love you,” and you answer him on auto-pilot, “I love you too.” You say this, even though sometimes you wonder. You say this because although the tide goes out, you’ve seen it come back in enough times that you say “I love you” on faith. But fact is, in the moment, you just wish he’d shut up. Or maybe you wish you were on a beach in Tahiti or something. So did you just lie to him?

I say this to open you to the idea that you yourself are probably not expressly honest. Like that guy up there, your hypothetical husband. You yourself may be entirely capable of saying “I love you” a year beyond the time you stopped, out of sheer compassion! You don’t want to hurt him, do you? But then you fille for a divorce.

So I would think along these lines. Because I suspect if you become more aware of your own ability and capacity to deceive, you will see the pattern change… along with your reaction to it.

Good luck.

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Dear Baffled,

This is very simple, which a Taurus like you can appreciate. I think you need some new friends. Uranus (change, revolution) is transiting your 11th house (friends), and consequently you can see everything is tossed into the air.

And check this: You say, “They expect things to be the same,” about one situation, but you are refusing to accept change in the other situation – although it’s obviously occurred. Er… your friend has taken a path with that boy and that’s it. She is going to the future not the past, and this is what you must do as well.

I am not saying you will not hook up with her further down the road. You may. But this type of fast change and to and fro in the realm of friendships is a given during this transit… which is going to last six years!

So what you can so is align yourself. And I understand this is a challenge for Taurus, a very FIXED sign who loathes change. But regardless of how much you dislike it, what will help is to accept and embrace the conditions. And in this case, that means developing a more detached attitude when it comes to friends, i.e. they come and they go and sometimes they come back. The idea is to offer your friends the freedom to experiment while enjoying the same freedom yourself.

Good luck.

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Marly asked: “Are there any aspects in a chart that make you leery that the native might use his powers for ill?”

I don’t think so. The chart shows a person’s energy and energy is neutral, until directed. You can think in terms of electricity. Electricity is energy, right? You can electrocute a human being with it, or alternately you light up a Christmas tree!

Money is energy. You can hire a hit man with your cash…have someone killed, or you can put a kid through college.

So no. As far as I am concerned, you cannot look at a chart and have the expectation a person is going to be a nasty piece of work…and examples abound. There are lots of very good people, with very bad charts, that is. And vice versa.