Michael Lutin on this week’s eclipse

They’re talkin’ here as well.

Dear Girlfriend,

The obvious answer is to marry him. He is telling you he will do this if it is important to you, and you state it’s important to you – so done deal.

But I did look at the charts and what I found was very sweet. Sweeter than you probably imagine. See, he may be a triple Gemini, which indicates a fairly flighty character. But he has Venus (love) conjunct Saturn (responsibility) and he wants to do the right thing. The conjunction is in Taurus, by the way, so love is very important to him.

So then I looked at your chart. And you have Venus in Capricorn, which is the same exchange. Venus with Saturn that is, and look at this mail. You want to do the right thing too! How sweet is that?

Do you know the O’ Henry’s story, “The Gift of the Magi?” It is about two lovers who are very poor. Christmas comes and they are desperate to buy each other something special. But they are so poor!

He wants a pocket watch. She sells her hair to get the money to buy it for him. Meanwhile, he is out buying a comb for her beautiful hair. When the holiday comes and they discover this, it’s very moving. So do you see? I don’t think it matters one way or the other. You have a real love.

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Various links…

Astrologer Jeffrey Kishner on Howard Hughes

Astrologer and pal, cf Perez on Osama Bin Laden

And astrologer and ElsaElsa commenter, isthmus nekoi on Virgo

Dear Conflicted,

When I first read your post I thought, “Uh oh. Another doormat Pisces, trying to quit…” And this is valid on the surface. Pisces do tend to sacrifice themselves which is surely what you are doing when you screw a man who loves another woman.

But then I put your chart up and it’s a far more complex problem. Because if we were talking “straight Pisces”, then any man who was unavailable and inattentive would do. You know. He could be playing baseball with the boys all day. He could be smoking crack.

But in your case, you are repeatedly setting up triangles that involve other women and these situations can virtually always be traced to your relationship with your parents. Your Venus in the tenth house supports my theory and I doubt you’ll be able to break this pattern without coming to understand just exactly what is driving you. And I can tell you where to look.

Spend some time thinking about the relationship between your parents. For example, did your mother lose your father to another woman… and now you’re in essence recreating her experience, so you can better understand it? Or alternatively, were your parent so close… so enmeshed and in love they had no time for you and this is the scene you are setting up?

You get the idea. Untangle this and you’ll be on your way. Good luck, hon.

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Dear Money,

Yours is an interesting case. Did you know that you and your gal pal are both Capricorns with Scorpio Moons and Venus in Aquarius? That’s a lot to have in common, so my first thought it “viva la difference!” But you’re calling this a problem, and I do know people break up over stuff like this all the time. So here’s a more serious analysis:

You’re both about fifty years old and let’s face it. No one is going to be telling either one of you what to do. Think you’re going to be able control a Capricorn? Think again!

Further with Venus in Aquarius, you are both trying to “revolutionize” the other’s feelings about money, but what does Aquarius do? It rebels! It resists anything that wants it to conform, so can you see how hopeless this is in both directions? There is no way for either of you to win, so the only sensible thing to do is give up. Give up trying to reform each other and you may be very surprised at what happens “organically”.

That is: if you don’t harp on her and you just live, she will almost indubitably start to see the merit in your methods and vice versa! So this is my advice: Abort all missions meant to control each other and just live as you are, letting the problem solve itself over time.

Good luck.

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When Ben was a boy…early teens I guess, he was keeping a journal. He was writing, drawing, or both. I don’t really know because he didn’t elaborate. And his parents were trying to have him “fixed” and stuff, remember? They were hell bent on fixing his homosexuality and then they came across his journal.

First the read it, and that is horror enough, but they didn’t stop there. They took it a psychiatrist to have it analyzed and they didn’t stop there either. They made COPIES and took it to SEVERAL psychiatrists. Apparently they were looking for one who would tell them what they wanted to hear.

And maybe some air sign doesn’t think this is a big deal. But to Scorpio…well to Ben, it was like he’d been stabbed in the chest, had the knife twisted only to be rolled over and stabbed in the back. This invasion and betrayal sent him reeling and feeling intense and immense pain at a core level and bottom line, he did not make it through it alive.

The experience killed a piece of him because here it was thirty years later and he still…he still refused to write anything down. He doesn’t draw, either. He swore “never again” and I’ll tell you something. When a Scorpio amputates, they don’t go back and try to resurrect the dead thing.

And my point in telling this story is to warn parents who may be less sensitive than their Scorpio child, to hopefully spare some kid. Because there is a loss here that is immeasurable.

My friend is a musician and a teacher who garners standing ovations for both his talent and his character. He is the teacher who walks into the gym during an assembly to have the kids stand and cheer. Yeah. And when he talks, I listen and I wonder.

I really wonder what he had to say that will not be written. Did he draw well? We are never going to know because this part of him died the day he learned that his parents took this intimate piece of himself and shopped it around. So grave the pain, well this is the reason not to betray your Scorpio child. You’ll kill them. Is that a good enough reason?

Scorpio will be betrayed at some point in their life. A wound like this is unavoidable. But as a parent you can make sure you’re not the one who inflicts it. And I have permission to tell this story, of course.

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“Can I write that?” I asked. “I would like to write this for parents of children like you. I know it’s personal, but someone might read it. Your story is stark and some kid could be spared.”

“Some kid could be spared? Write it. I’ve already told you can write anything you want about me. And if it helps some kid? Write! Write, write, write, little Elsa. Write until your heart is content.”

And so I have.

The End

Astrologers have nabbed the birth data of the Trump baby and they’re talking here, here and here.

Thanks to mega-Scorpio and wedding guru, Weddingbee in New York, for the link the to the NY Daily News.

Also thanks to astrologers, John and Susan Townley for the last link lifted from “Astrology In The News“, updated daily on their site Astrococktail.

I am going to write about these biracial artists for awhile. Because I happen to know and love four of them and their stories all intertwine. Come to think of it, my mother is a biracial artist so I guess that explains a lot, huh? ::smiles::

Anyway, I have a lot of stories about my friend, Ben and this is one of them. I’ve known Ben for about twenty years. He’s a Scorpio with an Aquarius rising. He’s a cellist and an extraordinary man. He’s enormously talented and has transformed the lives of many hundreds of children over many years in a “Mr. Holland’s Opus” kind of way but he is much better than the movie. He is more talented, more fascinating, more powerful, more charismatic and more magnetic than Mr. Holland, and he is been teaching cello long enough to have his student play alongside him in the symphony orchestra. Very simply, he’s doing a bang up job with his life and I don’t think they make any finer.

Ben is a gay man who has never known a closet. Both he and his family were aware of his homosexuality at a pre-teen age. He was caught with another boy actually, and his parents had a fit, characteristic of the era and probably too often still true today. They shamed him terribly and tried various methods of changing what was his essence, which were all fruitless of course.
Ben forgives his parents the past. He forgives them because he’s intellectually sophisticated. He allows people to hold their own views. He has thought his way out of this. If you don’t like gay people, he’s not concerned about it.

It’s very similar to how I feel about astrology. It’s a waste of time to chase validation or approval from people for who you are. ClichÆ’

Getting Scotty Out Of Houses…

I pulled up outside Scott’s current hovel. I saw his Volkswagen parked in front and there were no other cars around, so I was pretty sure he was alone. If not, I’d just leave, but considering there was no other car…

Well I was pretty sure I was the only person who would ride in his, and I was sure hoping I wouldn’t have to. It was fun when I was fifteen, but I was twenty two now, and very sophisticated.

I’d still get in his car, but only to be polite because I have that wee bit of Libra.

I knocked on the door. Loud, the way I do. Bam! Bam! Bam!

“WHO IS IT!” I heard him yell out. “Whaddya ya want?”

He sounded angry.

“Scotty! Hey Scotty. It’s me. It’s Elsa. Are you gonna let me in?”

His voice changed. “Elsie? The Elsiebabe? Is it you? Are you really out there?’

“Yes! Are you going to open the door or what? I’m standing out here.”

“Yes! Yes of course. I was just making sure it was you. I can’t believe you’ve come to see me.”

“Oh for chrissakes. What do you mean? Open the door, Scott.”

“I’m coming,” he yelled out. “Don’t go anywhere. I’m just trying to straighten up. Uh…it’s a mess in here. I wasn’t expecting you. Well, I was expecting you sometime, but not today!”

I laughed. “I know. I know, okay? Just open the fuckin’ door, would you? I’m sick of standing here. I feel like an idiot standing out here! I don’t care if it’s a mess. Just open the damned door!”

I had the urge to kick, but heard locks turning. Okay! The door opened and Scott peeked out.

“Elsie! It is you. It’s you! I was just thinking about you.”

I roared. “I know. I know you’re thinking of me. Can I come in? Am I coming in or what? Invite me for godsakes!” I started to laugh.

“Uh, yes. Yes of course. But it really is a mess…”

He stepped back so I could come inside. Ack! It was a cyclone situation. Crazy bastard.

“Uh…sorry. I didn’t know you were coming. If I did, I’d have cleaned the place up.”

I shook my head. “How are you, Scotty?”

“Better! Especially since you’ve stopped by. Are we going to get back together? Recently I’ve been wondering if I would see you again and now here you are.”

“Yeah. Well I wanted to see you.”

“You did? I’m ecstatic! And here I am, baby! How do I look?”

I shook my head. “You look like Scott. Of course you look good. Just move something so I can sit down, would you? I was going to screw you but I don’t see how that’s possible in here.” I looked around with a smirk. “Do you want to go to lunch, instead? How about it? And we can take my car, okay?”

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And I realized as I’ve been posting these, that it’s twenty years later and nothing has changed. Today, we live in different states, but I call him:

Briiinnnng! Briiiiiiiinnnng!

“Hello?”

“Scott! What are you doing? I’m calling you. How’s your mother? Is she down the street?”

He laughs. “I’m meeting her for lunch later…and then I’m coming to Denver to see you, baby!”

I roar laughing. “You aren’t coming to Denver. Your mother will never allow it! Your leash isn’t long enough. Tell her hi though, would you?” I laugh, because she hates my guts.

“She’s getting worried, that I’m talking to you,” he says just to set me off. “She says you’re emotionally dependent on me,” he adds, like throwing gas on a fire.

“Oh for crying out tears! That’s ridiculous. She’s the one who goes insane, every time her boy is more than three blocks away. She is the one who has kept custody of her son, for his whole life. But never mind all that. How are you anyway? Are you good?”

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and this…

“I told my mother I was going to put you in my will. I’m leaving you everything, baby.”

I laughed. “I bet she loved that shit. What did she say?”

“She said, over my dead body.”

I laughed so hard, tears came. “Well you tell her I am sorry. Sorry I have jacked up her son for all his life and everything. Jeez. You just told her that to piss her off.”

“No I didn’t. Well, maybe I did.”

We both laugh.

“I don’t know why she hates you so much,” he said. “I don’t know why she has such a problem with you.”

“Yes you do! I tried to take her man. I walked in her bar and got a job when I was fifteen and that was that. She’s been made to suffer ever since. Anyway, never mind. That’s all I have. I was just calling to say hi. See you, Scott.”

“See you, Elsie. Take care.”

Dear Life,

If you want clarity, just read your post up there. Because you plainly delineate your core problem: you are plagued with insecurities which lead you to thwart yourself. So consequently, if you want to affect a change in your life, you are going to need to focus your attention on the problem which is common to everything.

Because a writer can sing and a singer can take pictures. A photographer can write and so can a singer, and furthermore whether a singer, a writer of a photographer, you must be a businessperson if you want to successful. So that’s not the problem, is it? The problem is your fear.

The tendency to feel insecure about your value as an artist is shown clearly by the Venus Saturn aspect in your chart – as is your fears (Saturn) about money (Venus). Compare this to someone who produces some sort of art and automatically assumes people will not only like it, but pay handsomely for it. That’s not you! Furthermore, that’s never going to be you. So you are going to have to work with your fear (of both success and failure) or nothing is going to change. But how?

Well, I won’t lie to you. It’s a long tedious haul! You’re a goat at the bottom of a mountain and you’re expected to climb it. On your spindley legs no less! And you may want to punch me right now, and I’m sorry about that, but this is how it is.

There is a child’s book out there, “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Susan Jeffers. Read it if you want, but the title is enough, you know? This is the main point I am trying to make: the fact you are talented, and have a brilliant intellect is undisputed. It is undisputed by you and by me, and by your chart. But with Venus Saturn the way they are… if you are waiting for some magic door to open, or someone to airlift you up that hill, you will wait in vain.

On the other hand, if you’ll just get climbing and keep your eye on the goal… and if you will persevere even when you’re scared to death, I think you will be very surprised how high you can climb. Good luck.

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