Dear Worrying,

This is so wrong. It’s wrong, but easy to fix. However, I will have to slap you, so look out.

You are worried because you’re a Virgo and this is what Virgos do. But could you possibly be worried about something stupider than this? I don’t think so! If there was some crap in your chart that made you feel authentically unworthy, then this would make sense. But there isn’t, not even close! Which means you are wasting your time along with everyone else’s and I’ll explain.

Your Virgo Sun is sandwiched between Jupiter and Saturn. Translation: you are a Teacher, a Preacher and a Do-Gooder. You are privileged to have been tapped for this role and what are you doing? You are squandering your talent – which does not stop there, by the way.

You also have a stellium in Scorpio – the power, depth and instinct, so here’s the thing. Go ahead and worry… but find a worthy cause, okay? A real cause. Then go to WORK!

Work (Saturn) for what you believe in (Jupiter) and you will shine. (Sun).

As compared to – Increase (Jupiter) your insecurity (Saturn) and be a dullard. Your choice and it’s an easy one, huh?

Good luck.

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Dear Shunned,

I don’t know the status of this relationship, but I do know a few things. Number one: with Saturn square your Sun, Mercury and Mars in Virgo, you are very prone to worry, and about your “value” in particular. So based on this, I think it’s very possible you have taken this event and come up with the worst possible scenario, which is probably not accurate.

Let me tell you about this last Christmas. It was a train wreck! The sky was so jacked up, it wasn’t even funny. Consequently many people were in various types of crisis and because of that, some of these people let some of the balls drop! Which was smart by the way. You can only do so much!

So here’s my best guess: you are a Virgo, so you pulled off Christmas as usual, regardless of how you were feeling or what was going on. Your boss, on the other hand, failed to do this and I would not assume it was personal. They could have run out of time… money, you name it.

So here’s what I would do. Nothing! Well, not exactly nothing. I would have integrity. By that I mean, when a birthday comes around…if I felt like buying a gift, I would do it. If I did not… I wouldn’t. But if I decided to buy a gift, I would not be looking for the other person to reciprocate, because that’s not giving, is it? That’s a contract.

So what do you want? If you want to give, the give. If you want a contract, they’ve broken their end of bargain so it’s null and void now. But take this personally? I don’t think you should. I think this is coming from your own insecurity and you should give yourself a break.

Good luck.

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Dear Enchanted,

To be very candid, I don’t think it matters one way or the other. I think you’ve been seduced by a cad who has used you for the last seven months. And that you fell for this at 40 years old is just plain painful.

Is he going to care if you profess your undying love on his way out of town? He’s not. Either way, he’s going to go home and no doubt as soon as he gets there, he’s going to screw his wife, and then go trolling for his next piece of ass on the side.

So you see, it makes no difference what you do. You are going to feel like crap very soon irregardless. As soon as reality hits, and if you want to fix that, you’re going to have to take a hard look at why you involved yourself in this in the first place. For insight into that, I would look to all this Capricorn and Saturn tied up with Venus.

Could it be you’re trying to please Daddy? And steal him from Mommy? I say, time to get real.

Good luck.

Dear Leo,

Well you really showed him, didn’t you? Your dad, I mean. And your parents in general. Fuck them! Fuck what they say. With your moon in Aquarius, you are going to do what you are going to and to hell with authority!

But now you see, this hasn’t served you. You’re growing up. And you’re right, it’s a Saturn transit. First to your Aquarius Moon, and then eventually to your Sun, Mercury in Leo and ultimately, your natal Saturn in Virgo.

So here’s the deal. For the next three years, you’re going to get your shit together. Because to quote another Aquarius Moon I know – “You’re not the only genius in the world,” okay?

And this is what stage one of your Saturn transit is about. It’s about being humbled. And made to conform. And held to a standard. It’s about turning in your goddamn homework when you’re supposed to… with the rest of the lemmings, even when you think you’re special.

It is also about curbing your tendency to rebel after growing up enough to see when it is destructive. There are times when you should rebel, when you must rebel. But there are other times where you need to clutch it up. Pick your revolutions, okay? Because rebelling for the sake of rebelling is rather silly.

So there you go. And I am not trying to be a mean bitch. I am just giving you exactly what you asked for. A reality check. Reality = Saturn. And you may as well get used to it, because you aren’t getting out from under this thumb for three years. Thank goodness. Because three years from now, you’ll have your degree and without this transit?

Well, I hope you like filing those papers for the professionals you work for…

Good luck.

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Dear Lover,

I feel very sorry for you. You “met” him when you were fourteen? And nine years have passed? Please listen to me.

You need to get away from this man who has hijacked your life. What you are is a hostage… who is sympathetic with the very person oppressing them. Ever heard of the Stockholm Syndrome?
Read about it.

Fourteen years old is a baby. Seriously. And this guy managed to get a hook into you and keep it there for nearly half your life! Well I’ll tell you what. He is a bullshit hologram and here’s what I think you should do:

Cut off all contact. Go completely underground. Imagine a noose around your neck. You’re going to slip out, okay? In the night, while he is sleeping. Slip out and once clear, run and don’t look back.

Where are you running to? Well, anywhere is better than where you are. It does not get worse than this.

I’d also encourage you to find some support. You need all the support you can get, because you have been mind-fucked beyond belief. And that’s okay. Because I don’t think you are weak. You are very strong and I know you can find your way out of this.

Get a therapist if there is anyway possible. Call and beg for help if you have to. Because as far as I am concerned, your life is at stake here, as is your soul.

Good luck.

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Dear Love,

Ouuuuuuuuuuuuch.

I understand that you don’t want to lose him, and that you’re enormously invested.

I am sorry, but I am not sure I can help. You are not going to be able to keep a relationship together when it wants to come apart. It’s like a plane in the sky that runs out of fuel. There is no way to keep it in the air. The best you can do is try to land with some grace.

So I am not sure you can help him do anything. All you can do is be yourself. And understand that if your relationship is meant to move forward, it will. And nothing will stop it. On the other hand, if it destined to die… then this will happen and nothing will stop that either.

If you do lose this man, it will hurt. It already hurts, doesn’t it? But you have Venus conjunct Pluto in Scorpio and I promise you this: if this relationship burns to the ground, you will evenutally be back up from the ashes, stronger and more powerful than ever.

Good luck and much love.

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pictured: Venus and Mars, Antonio Canova, 1816-22, Marble, Courtauld Institute Gallery, London

Dear Stuck,

I think you should hang in there. Your friends are looking to help you, but they don’t understand that this is your destiny. With Aquarius rising and your Sun conjunct Uranus in the 10th house (career), you were born to stage a revolution at work! You want to go in there and disrupt the status quo for your humanitarian reasons. This is what makes you feel vitally alive!

As for the undertow in this, you love that too! With Mercury and the Moon in Scorpio, you love digging up the sordid past. You love the power struggles, so don’t lie to me! Don’t lie to yourself! Don’t lie to your friends.

So that’s my advice. Come to terms with who you are, and what you are here for. Then live it out, loud and proud. That, and ‘splain this shit to your friends, okay? So they don’t have to worry about you. Because, come on. You know damned well that no one has to worry about you.

Good luck.

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Dear Plutonian,

First, you should be congratulated for making an effort to look at your patterns in relationship. I think it’s heroic, especially when you’re only in your mid-twenties. You are rare! I feel the best I can do is encourage you to continue on this path, and try to support you with a bit of information.

I appreciate you may be motivated to tear into his chart – see what makes him tick, figure out how to “approach him”. But can you see how this is manipulative?

You need to focus on yourself and here’s the astrology: you have Pluto (intensity, psychology, etc.) in the 7th house (relationships) square Venus in Cancer (dependent). People tend to project whatever is in their 7th house, and you are no exception. Read your post up there. You claim the “other” (7th house) is manipulating you… little you, little baby girl with Venus in Cancer…

Can you see that? So this is the battle. Forget about how you’re going to work him. He will run his own life. He will do what he wants to do. And if you are smart (and you are), you will continue to delve into your own psychology. “Watch your side of the street” as recovering alcoholics say – and if you want motivation to continue on this challenging path, here it is:

If you don’t dig in there and do this work, you can expect nothing but uber-pain in relationships for the rest of your life. On the other hand, if you can unravel your complexes, you will become able to form powerful alliances with others – which I know is what you want. So there you go.

Good luck.

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Dear Wrecked,

I don’t believe you are going to be able to contain this. Something is going to blow and considering your current Pluto transit, I’m betting it’s you.

But you have some choices. If you continue to try to stuff this down, you are running the risk of the intense energy being released when you murder this son of a bitch. Much better to go for a “controlled burn”.

In other words, call your family together and y’all puke it up. Get it out in the open and talk it through. Imagine a boil teeming with toxic putrid pus. Should you leave it? No! Lance that fucker. Cut it open, and let it drain so it can heal. I really don’t see a choice.

Good luck.

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pictured – Detail of Pluto in a quadriga from the painted decoration on the throne from the Tomb of Eurydike, circa 340 BC, Vergina, Tomb of Eurydike.

Dear Almost,

Saturn (lessons, impediment) is transiting your Mars (effort), and you are going to have to try harder. Read your post up there. You state in plain language that you are not trying hard enough… and your results reflect this, yes?

And I’m not trying to make you feel bad about yourself. I just want you to get the most out of this transit, which is all about putting your shoulder to the wheel and keeping it there. You simply have to persevere. And when you do, results will follow and you will have learned something of enormous import and value. Basically, that winners never quit.

Good luck.

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