Dear Reader,

You’re twenty-three, and have lost all faith and patience?! I’m sorry, but this is not allowed!! You are not allowed to give up at twenty-three and furthermore, you make no sense! And I mean that in the nicest way, okay? Of course I mean it nice, I have Libra!

Here is your problem: you are trying to set up your life according to some bizarre criteria. You need a “final” decision on love, right now? Right now, this fuckin’ minute? How can you do that to yourself! What if the perfect man for you is not destined to cross your path for another two years… then what?

Do you see my point? You must let your life unfold. You are not going to be able to tack down all the corners, seal the envelope, and be done. This is a LIFE you’re living here! And by its nature, it’s a dynamic thing… so nothing is final! I am not even sure ‘death” is final, you know? Maybe it just ends a chapter of a much longer story. Maybe!

So please. It’s okay, that you don’t have it all figured out in your early twenties. Just be willing to show up and deal with your life as it occurs on a daily basis. And one more thing. Be careful about running around telling people you’ve lost faith. Because I guarantee you… every time you do that, the universe will force you into a position that forces you to have faith!

Seriously. So think about living in this world in a way that is less rigid and more trusting. If you can cultivate a lifestyle like this, you will be far less frustrated and consequently, happier and more productive. Good luck.

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Dear Broken,

I can try to help and I hope I do a better job this time, dang! It sounds like I tried to be subtle last time and since that didn’t work, how about I put it bluntly?

It sounds to me like you’ve been played. This is not some dream boat guy, okay? He’s a liar for one thing. He lied to you and I’m sure he’s lied to the girl after you and the girl after her, and he is probably looking for another girl to lie to, right this moment, while he simultaneously is hoping to reunite with his wife! Get it? He’s a PLAYER.

And I’m sorry. I’m not trying to hurt you. I just don’t want you to hang your life up on this guy for even one more day. You’re making a habit of this, you know? Of pining for some bastard who is merely a bastard!

Now I am sure he has some skills. Maybe he can talk a good game. Maybe he can kiss or he’s good in bed. But love? This is not where this guy’s head is at. And as for not having it ‘this way” again, well you should hope like hell that you’re right! Because this guy did not give you anything. He took from you.

As for being friends, it’s obvious this is not a good choice – just look how you feel! So here’s the bottom line: Saturn is transiting your Moon (your mood) and I think you’re a little depressed. You are definitely bogged down here and you need to start tossing some things over board. Baggage! And that’s what this guy is. And I’ll tell you exactly why you’re holding on.

It’s because when you do walk away, this guy is not going to bat an eye. And that’s going to hurt like hell, so there. It’s been said, so now it’s out in the open. I say, cut the line on this loser fish and toss another.

Good luck.

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Dear Unsure,

I wish I had an easy solution for you, but I don’t. All I can do is read your chart, and throw some light on the situation. From there, it’ll be up to you to figure out how you’re going to get through this keyhole. But here are the nuts and bolts – the essence of you, when it comes to your profession.

Number one: with all this Capricorn and a packed 10th house, you have a tremendous desire to be successful. You are profoundly ambitious and if you don’t know this, you need to look again.

Number two: I imagine you have trouble keeping a job because you want and need to be your own boss. You don’t want anyone telling you what to do. And I don’t mean that in a critical way. It’s just uncomfortable for you to have people bossing you, because nature intends you be the boss. So as a generic employee…well it’s like square peg, round hole.

Number three: with a 10th house Uranus, you want to innovate in your profession. And if you don’t do this by design, it will express as rebellion against authority figures… causing you problems with the boss, obviously.

So I don’t know how you’re going to solve this exactly. If you are having problems paying your bills, it’s not very helpful to say, “go start your own business”. That would be ideal of course. And I would not be surprised if it happened at some point, when you’re older. But in the meantime, I can describe some scenarios where you could thrive, because guess what? I have the “lite” version of your dilemma.

When I was in my teens, I was a bartender and I worked alone. No one cared how I ran my shift as long as the money found its way into the cash register. If I wanted to call the radio station and talk a bunch of shit to get on the news (and people in my bar)… well go right ahead! And although I had a boss, I never saw her. I had keys to the place – I opened the place, made the deposits, and you get the idea. I ran that bar like it was mine.

After that, I was a Frito Girl. I went to the country and drove a route truck. This was innovative, because it was a man’s job at the time, and pretty much still is. And with my boss in the city, I was free to do whatever I wanted as long as I sold lots of potato chips. Let’s see. I could work in shorts, and a tank top. I could peel off clothes at the end of the day, load my truck in a bathing suit so I could get a tan…whatever.

And you can see in these situations, I was still beholden to a boss. But my sales were so good – well, basically I worked hard, for my freedom. And now I am doing it on this blog!! I can write whatever I want as long as it isn’t dick, dick, dick, fuck… and my editor will let it fly. .

And this is what you need to do to resolve your problem. You need to understand and accept your nature, then find a way to live authentically. Can you do this? Of course you can. You were born for it.

Good luck.

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Dear Capricornicopia,

So you’ve got yourself a Virgo slob, huh? Well I think that’s as funny as you do, considering Virgo is supposed to be a neat freak. And hell no, he’s not going to change… much! And this is probably good because you seem to like him quite a bit. You sound pretty happy with the problems you’re having, which does not surprise me, considering they’re custom made for you.

Look, the fact you are roughly thirteen years older than this man does not escape me. Capricorn has a terrific need to parent and to teach responsibility, so just look at the set up here.

But it’s not all work and no play, is it? For one thing he’s a great lover, isn’t he? Boy oh boy, he just breaks the Virgo stereotype left and right, and you know you love that. You’ve got an exotic animal here and you can’t help but see its value.

So there you go. I say, just keep doing what you’re doing. Keep trying to control him. With his Sun conjunct Pluto and his Moon in Taurus, I am sure he will continue to stubbornly refuse to bow down. And this is just as well, because I don’t really think you want a man who will let you run his life. Where’s the fun in that?

Carry on.

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Dear Sad,

What you have here is a broken heart. Your first broken heart. And you can ask anyone out there, and they will tell you that nothing hurts quite the same. See, it’s not just the boy who is gone. It’s the ideal you had attached to him. It’s the loss of your dreams. However…

Lemme tell you the odds. For perspective, okay? If you look around out there, you will find maybe one in many thousands who wind up happily ever after married with their first love. And there is a good reason for that. It’s because it takes time for people to unfold. It takes time for people to develop themselves, and experiences like the one you’re having now facilitate this. They just do.

But I’m not saying I don’t feel for you. And I’m not minimizing what you are going through. I remember like yesterday my first broken heart. I remember eating aspirin in a futile attempt to stop the pain. I thought I’d die. So I know. And I also know there is really very little anyone can say or do to help you with this, save pointing out that you don’t know the rest of this movie. The movie of your life, that is.

Because eventually, your tears will dry. And the future will come. And you’ll start to look around. And you’ll see another boy. And he’ll see you. And the next thing you know, you’ll have a date.

And you’ll have learned something extremely important. That is, that it’s okay to love. You will know that you can love with all your heart, because even if it goes south, you know you’ll survive. And then ten years from now?

If you’re lucky, you’ll figure out that all love is good. All the love you get and all the love you give is good. And the fact that some relationships end, does not change this.

Hang in there, hon. He’s your first man, not your last.

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