Dear Sister,

It’s unfortunate that your brother acts the way he does. And it’s even worse that with Capricorn in your third house (siblings), you are feel responsible for him. Considering you are both in your fifties, I think it’s time you took a day off so I’m going to try to give you one.

Now I don’t doubt your brother has problems, but fact is that he is adept at manipulating you. He’s threatening suicide from another country as if there is something you can do about it! What a great way to make your sister feel powerless. What a way to jack her up! And I think its bullshit. There comes a point where you’ve just got to cut the rope and if you ask me, you’re there.

I don’t mean you have to cut off contact with your brother, though I wouldn’t blame you if you did. But you must detach. And you must steel your heart.

Read your post up there. You know his pattern. You’ve watched it play your whole life. What are the odds he is going to change? Virtually nil, I’d say. And this is sad. So how about you accept this? Your brother’s limitations, I mean. And mourn them.

While you’re at it, accept the fact he may kill himself. He may. And he does, it will not be your fault. And you know this, don’t you? Of course you do.

What I think you need most is permission to let go of the responsibility for your brother, a burden you have carried far too long. So here it is: your brother is not your job. He never was. Set it down and walk away. Be free… and understand you’ve earned this in spades.

Good luck.

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