Dear Intense Man,

I see Venus square Saturn in your chart and I think you are being hard on yourself. It’s as if you think there is something inherently wrong with you. I believe this is the core of your problem, rather than your intensity and I’ll elaborate for clarity.

Venus is related to attractiveness, and Saturn is related to restriction and insecurity. Put these planets together in a chart, and insecurity about one’s desirability is inevitable. And if you doubt this, re-read your post. You’re afraid you scare girls, you call yourself a coward, you say you are “failing miserably”, you have wounds, and you fear becoming a hermit! And all because of why – because you aren’t fluff?

Well, obviously you know that plenty of people have no interest in the superficial, so you can see right there this makes no sense. It is YOU rejecting you. It is you giving yourself a hard time.

How? By showing up at these bars, when you know it’s not your style. Or at least not the way you’re operating when you’re out there. In other words, you are playing another man’s game.

Try this, Mr. Scorpio Moon: next time you’re out, shut your mouth! You should also go alone, and stand on the periphery like the rest of the Scorpios. Back to the wall! Now scan. Scan the room for the woman that interests you and stay sober, why don’t you? So you can be effective.

When you see her, the one whose energy you like, put your tractor beam on and pull her towards you. Make her come to you. Know why? Because you need all the help you can get. And if she comes to you, she’s interested, yes?

And you know you probe, so what did I say? Shut up! Less talking, more listening. You’ll learn more than you ever did with the questions and she’ll be all fascinated with you – a man willing to listen to her, which believe me, is as rare as hen’s teeth.

Good luck.

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