Dear Disturbed,

No, I don’t think you’re making a mountain out of a molehill. But on the other hand, yes I do.

It’s obvious you don’t want to live in chaos. You have a Capricorn Moon (home) and want a controlled environment. You want some dammed ORDER. You need some order and I think you’re entitled to some.

However, you are living with two other adults and they have rights as well. Bottom line, you share a home. And you’re not a dictator. Are you? If not, then compromise is what is called for – because you will never get these two to care the way you do about cleaning up and putting away. Ever.

So yeah. You can move, or you can find a less drastic solution. I would suggest you try the latter first. How big is your house? Can you declare a room YOURS and keep it clear? That would be a start. Create a sanctuary and keep the pigs out!!

If this is not possible, you get my drift. Trying to control these two… well, trying to control anyone is a tendency of Capricorn. It’s almost always fruitless. You are not going to be able to make these people see things the way you do. It’s your responsibility to figure out how you’re going to (or not going to) live amongst them.

Good luck.

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Dear Miss,

Do you know you have your Sun, rising, Venus, Mercury, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune and your north node in Capricorn? Well you do.

And boy I’m impressed with you. No one reading this would guess you’re fourteen years old! Talk about taking responsibility! There are people three times your age who couldn’t write a piece like this. Know why? Because they’re still blaming others. You are one stout chick and don’t you forget it!

Now I’ll try to help you with your problem. It’s like this: you have Mars in Taurus. Mars rules anger and Taurus is famous for patience and stubbornness. So you see, you know yourself excellently well. Taurus is a Venus sign. It moves slowly and likes pleasantness. You see what you’re doing here? You’re keeping the peace until you blow…

And you do blow! And Pluto is involved too, so the plot thickens. You pack a punch, babe. And when you do, it freaks your Taurus out because there is anything but peace when you’re through. It freaks out your Capricorn too, because of the loss of control…and last, it freaks out your very sensitive Moon in Pisces.

So what to do? Well you need a channel and here’s my idea. I think it’s a good one, but it’s the principle here I want you to grasp.

Taurus & Venus = Art. I would like you to study dance. It’s very hard work, which suits your Capricorn. It’s physical which suits Mars. If you’re good at it (and you will be), it is a powerful (Pluto) expression of artistic (Taurus) physical prowess (Mars).

Further, it works for your Pisces which is all about illusion. See, I’m thinking ballet for you, because it’s one hell of a trick to make the dancing look easy. It’s an illusion. And I can tell you for a fact that the Capricorn body (and I am sure you have one) is well suited to ballet. That’s because Capricorn has CONTROL.

So what do you think about this? I think you may be poor and dance training costs money. But you can get books and get started. If it’s meant to be, it will happen. Your Pisces understands this, yes? But mostly I want you to imagine yourself with this kind of command. Can you see how you would have much less need to act out? Because your energy, your power, your Pluto-side… it would be focused on creating art.

Good luck.

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Dear Nervous,

At the moment, your whole chart is one big fat Pluto transit, so I imagine what you’re feeling is POWER. Good for you! You deserve it.

It seems you’re a naturally high-minded, somewhat conservative, responsible do-gooder person. And now the universe is pumping you full of steroids. Will it last? Well, yeah.

For the next year, you are going to be supercharged like this as Pluto crosses your ascendant and Mars. The ascendant is where everything starts and you can equate this to being (re)born. Excited about that? Sounds like you are.

So come 2007, when this process completes, you are going to be vital and present in this life in a more empowered way than ever before.

My advice? You’re like Popeye who has just eaten a can of spinach. You know how his muscles pop out and he gets all badass? That’s you. So don’t waste your prowess. Use it.

Good luck.

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Dear Mind,

Well, crap. You’re in the middle of an enormous Neptune transit and I don’t think you are going to see any relief short term. I’m very sorry, because you have planets in Capricorn and I know it’s very important you achieve and be real.

This part of your nature is in direct conflict with the diffuse and disabling Neptune energy that currently pervades your life. With a stellium in Scorpio and the Capricorn to back it up, you are normally very focused and controlled and now look? It’s like someone breathes and all the sudden you’re overwhelmed. And I am terrifically sorry, but this is not going to go away in the short term.

I realize this is devastating news, but that same Capricorn (fearful as it may be) will save you. Because Capricorn is a long distance runner. And Capricorn can accept and deal with reality far easier than any other sign.

So here’s your deal. You’re going to be “erasing” like this throughout 2006. That’s a long time, but it’s not forever, and you can make it. You can fake it it you have to, and you’ll have to.

But the quality of person you are is still there. Even on the days you can’t see it, you will just have to have faith. Which is the point of all this, by the way. Neptune transits teach faith. And the only thing you can do to ease this process is to give in to it. Find the rhythm of the tide (it’s there!) and align it.

In non-metaphysical language: on the days your can think clearly, do it. On the days your acute mind is less accessible, take it easy on yourself. And trust your capabilities will come back in time. Or better yet, at the right time… because they will.

Good luck.

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Dear Caring,

Actually, he can’t trust you. You had a bad day, you took it out on him and it doesn’t seem he liked it too much.

Here’s what I think: being a single parent is hard as hell. I don’t have to tell you, because you know. It takes a tremendous amount of energy to even begin to do a decent job. Anyone who has been at it for any length of time learns they don’t have time or energy to waste on people or things who generate grief and hardship.

So I imagine getting reamed out by you fell into this category for him. And he reacted in a way that is self-protective… which as a Cancer, I’m sure you can understand. Now you are clinging and he’s panicking….

I don’t think you are doomed. But if you want another chance with this guy, you’re going to have to make a very sincere apology, number one, and beyond that you are going to have to respect his situation.

That is… he is a single parent. He’s overwrought, this goes without saying. He’s tired, and he’s lonely and he’s horny just like you. He needs a friend a hell of a lot more than he needs a girlfriend… and the last thing he needs is to be punished for something that has nothing to do with him.

Can you do that? If so, call him up and let him know.

Good luck.

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Dear Dog,

There is more to life than wolves and sheep and sheep dogs. For example, there are butterflies, crocodiles, waterfalls and me – an individual.

You are an individual as well. A jaded one at the moment, but that can change – and easier than you think.

I see four planets in Virgo in your chart. And a Pisces Moon for chrissakes. These are mutable signs. That means “changeable”. People with emphasis on the mutable signs are in constant flux. So what’s up with this fixed perspective of yours?

Hmm…

Admit it. Just reading those few paragraphs, moved you, didn’t they? You and every other mutable person out there.

The fixed signs (Taurus, Scorpio, Leo, & Aquarius) don’t know what the hell I’m talking about. But that’s okay – they can come back and read tomorrow’s blog! This one is for you.

So look. I have this idea you work in a prison. Your chart would support that. So let’s just say you deal with criminals all day. And you have to be tough. Fine. But please tell me what makes you think this is your lot in life…. the whole live long day? Please tell me why you would leave the armor on, once you leave work?

Because frankly, with this much mutability… well it seems it would be far more natural for you to have several hats and several roles. Try this, okay? When you get off work, disarm yourself.

And the people that say you can’t, and that “You must keep your guard up at all times”? Well, they’re wrong. That might be true for them, but it’s not for you. You are like me and it works like this:

I am a single mother, and a good one. However, when I go out with my man, I leave that crap at home. Every shred of it. I don’t wear “mom jeans”. No one could guess I even have children. Sure, I can do the PTA. I can talk to the principal of the school, but guess what? It’s not my full time gig!

Get it? I’m mutable and so are you! We are not one-trick ponies, so please. Do yourself a favor and knock it off with the narrow label. Get busy morphing several times a day, the way nature intends and I think you’ll see your problem solve itself.

Good luck.

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Dear Uncomfortable,

It sounds to me like you’re growing up. You met this man when you were a teenager. Young girls tend to take a traditional role in relationship, not really understanding how incredibly individual they are. You’ve probably developed a fairly fixed way of relating to your man, and it sounds like it’s good, even very good, however now you crave the freedom to experiment.

And with an Aquarius Moon, involved in a T-square between Mars and Venus, I don’t think these urges are going to go away, because they are part of the authentic you. So do you leave the guy? Not so fast.

Good sex with someone you like / love / get along with is one hell of ticket to toss away. So I’m wondering, have you shared any of this with him? Can you experiment with him / within the relationship? Or does he want you to stay your sweet little teenaged self? This is what you need to find out.

Because you will evolve, this is a given. And if he’s got a problem with that, the relationship will ultimately fail. But make sure he’s limited in this way, okay? Because you may find out otherwise and in whichever case, armed with this information, things should clarify.

Good luck.

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