Dear Confused,

I think you should move on and I think you should do this immediately. Never mind if you are the right one for him. He is not the right one for you.

Look, he doesn’t want what you want. Whatever he might have said at one time, he’s not saying it now. What he’s saying up there is, “I want to be able to call you if I get lonely or horny but don’t expect shit from me in return because I am confused, non committal, not that into you, in love with my ex-girlfriend, etc.”

I’m sorry. I say, cut your losses. Because a year is a long time to spend with someone to no end. That’s a large investment to be holding nothing and this what I think you have with this man. Nothing. He’s not your man and to be very candid, I don’t even think he’s your friend. Because friends don’t use each other like this.

I’m sorry. Cry your tears, then fish another line. Good luck.
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pictured – Edgar Degas. Melancholy. c. 1874. Oil on canvas. Phillips Collection, Washington, DC, USA.