Dear Caught,

Yes, I can. There is very little you can do, besides talk to your husband. This is not because your kid is perfect, by a long shot. In fact, I bet he’s a perfect pain in the ass. However, it’s your husband who has the power here.

See, your kid is a rebel and nobody is going to stop this. His chart makes me think of that movie, “Billy Elliot”. That kid is going to dance, regardless. It doesn’t matter what you or I thinks or says or does… that boy is going to dance!

So this is glorious. It makes for a good movie, but it’s a train wreck if you think in terms of “obedience”. That’s what I suspect your husband does and that right there is your problem.

The solution lies in your husband understanding that your son will never be “controlled”, and consequently it’s in his best interest to take another tack. Frankly if he won’t, you’re going to be screwed. Everything that is happening will just keep happening.

And I’m not advocating children running amok. I just think your husband holds the cards, and that harmony is completely and utterly achievable in this situation – if he will learn a new game.

In short, he needs to use his natural authority to support your son as an individual. And your husband’s Scorpio? Quit the seething. Instead he can use the energy to empower the child. See? It’s a mere redirection of energy, because there is absolute potential for compatibility between your two men.

Good luck.

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