Dear Living,

Can you expect things to get better? Yes and no. When things have been hard your whole life, it’s fairly safe to assume that this is just the way it is. Some of these things are just plain hard-wired.

Now you are a double Pisces. Scorpio Sun, but Pisces Moon and rising and you’re not going to get away from that. And Pisces is always a little bit sad. I can’t remember who said that, but I’ve never heard it better put. Pisces can perceive and achieve a state of bliss, at least intermittently. They dream of a world where people are considerate and kind and they want to get there. They yearn to escape to this place they can imagine, when it just doesn’t exist on this plane.

So in this way, I don’t think you can expect improvement. Bad things will continue to happen as long as you walk this earth. But, you can change your perspective about it! You can endeavor to live in this flawed world in a way that is inspired – understanding, like Pisces inherently does, that everything you do affects everything and everyone else.

The bottom line is, YOU can make things better. I was talking to a Pisces pal a couple nights ago. She was feeling pretty low with the stuff going on around her. I told her to rise the boats! Have you ever heard that saying? “All boats rise”.

It refers to the fact that when the tide comes in, ALLLLLLLL the boats rise. The big ones, the small ones, the ugly ones… all of them. So you see what I’m getting at. Lift your boat. The ones around you will benefit, which will lift your boat some more.

I know you get it. Good luck

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Dear Waiting,

Should you trust the universe? Or should you actively pursue adoption? Why can’t you do both? Because I don’t see how you could adopt a child and have it be an error in a universal sense.

I’ll tell you what I think the problem is. The problem is you are not sure of your worthiness. I see Saturn conjunct your Sun and your Moon. You’re afraid. You’re afraid of doing the wrong thing and consequently you are depriving yourself – and your potential children for that matter.

Because you’re a born parent. The Saturn action gives the natural authority, but besides that you’ve a boatload of Cancer. “Nurture” is your middle name.

Apparently, it’s this “window-shopping” thing that’s holding you up and this seems erroneous to me. It’s as if this is something you threw up to act as an impediment, so you wouldn’t have to face your fear.

Face your fear. And you know what? You’ll be fine. You are beyond ready for this.

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pictured – Mother Feeding Child, 1898, Mary Cassatt (American, 1844-1926)
Pastel on wove paper, mounted on canvas; 25 1/2 x 32 in.

Dear Stymied,

Yes, I know exactly how to fix this because I suffer myself, in the exact same fashion. But I’m going to have to go “woo woo” on you, because the answer lies in the ethereal world.

See… Saturn rules fear, and you have Saturn in the twelfth house where things are decidedly unreal. For example, some people could join Toastmasters and overcome this. Others could use a mind trick, like imagining the audience in their underwear. But these would never work for you. To overcome your fear, you’re going to have to access the spiritual world and I can give you a practical example: my own.

I am scared to death… all the time. I am scared to write this blog. I have written many thousands of pages over the last five years. I’ve made them public even though I’m scared to death of everything you mentioned up there – being judged, rejection, etc.

I manage to transcend my fear on a daily basis, because I think my writing is a service. I think it helps people, and I think this is my job. See, the twelfth house is about sacrifice. How can I NOT sacrifice myself if it will empower others?

Ever since I’ve been writing online, people have been telling me I am going to wind up on TV. Know what? The idea of that makes me want to puke on the spot. It makes me want to hide under the bed. It makes my heart pound and it makes me want to cry.

However, if this is what is in the cards… if this is what the universe wants and lies in front of me as a life path… then I will do it. And I suggest you do same. Because you have this talent. Not just the music and the poetry, but you have the ability to transcend your fear. And to not use all your gifts to their fullest expression; to me, that is a crime against the universe.

Good luck.

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Dear Challenged,

Are you sure you have a problem? Or are you are just incapable of committing and maintaining a serious relationship, because you don’t want a serious relationship? Your chart suggests the latter.

Look. People are individuals. Not everyone is cut out to buckle down and work on a relationship. Some people thrive in a safe-ish container like marriage, while other strain under any type of contract. Some people like the thrill of the chase. Others like the dreamy infatuation phase. Others want a deep connection while some others want something much more light fare.

I suggest you lay off the self-judgment. And this guy you are ‘stringing along”?

Well, people are right where they want to be, okay? You’re not running his life. He’s running his life. As far as I’m concerned, you can come and go as many times as you like. If at some point, he doesn’t like it, or he’s had enough, then I guess he’ll tell you to piss off.

Now if you feel you’re misleading him, then you might want to clarify the situation for him. But don’t miss the point here. There’s nothing wrong with what you’re doing. You’re allowed to live in whatever way makes you happy, so carry on.

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Dear Walls,

You want to tear down your walls? Well good. Because living in a fortress is no way to live.

Your man sounds like a good one. He says he loves you and you say he shows up for you. He says he trusts you. This shows that he’s aware of his emotions, and he’s able and willing to communicate. You were friends, then lovers and then friends again – so it’s undeniable that there is a connection. Furthermore, you call him your “Dream Guy”.

He told you he loved you, but he hasn’t said it since. Well come on! Do you blame him? You didn’t respond! How about this for a replay:

“I love you, Walls.”

“Really? You’re my dream guy.”

Where do you think you’d be right now, if you’d have said that?

Look. You can let this unfold, because it will. He wants you and you want him and things will happen. But I’d think hard about giving this thing some gas.

Because I see your Scorpio there. I understand how deeply you feel… especially pain in particular. But do you understand that you cannot thrive without an intimate connection to another person? Because you can’t. And I understand you’re afraid, but you want to know a real horror scenario? How about dying, holding all of your cards unplayed?

Feed this guy and let him feed you. Life is way too short not to share. Especially love.

Good luck!

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Dear Urges,

I’d love to tell you that your urges have peaked, and will now recede to wherever they came from. But this is not the case. In fact, as they say, you ain’t seen nothin’ yet.

You’re heading into a Uranus transit that will completely rearrange your life over the next couple of years. It’s nothing to dread; it’s about getting liberated. You’re going to be free.

Now you’re going to want to experiment, and I expect you will. And you should, because we’re supposed to live fully! And I see your Venus in the eighth house there and the Uranus transit to the same. The eighth house is all about what is forbidden and with Venus there, you’re drawn to what is taboo. Basically you want to look under rocks and see what you can find.

Well, I have an eighth house of my own. I am constantly aware of the depth and the shadow side of everything. I feel rich with this sort of treasure chest to play in. I feel kind of like Canada! I understand the upper third of Canada is rich with various gems and minerals – but relatively unexplored because of the treacherous terrain and cold temperatures. But unlike Canada, I excavate. I get in, get dirty, and get the gold – and this is what you’re going to do.

You’re going to go where people say you shouldn’t, because there’s something there – even just a speck – that you want to possess. So here’s the deal.

Resist if you like, for as long as you can, but change is coming. If your husband wants to go for this ride, that’s fine. But if he wants you the way you were last year, then he’s in for a shock. Because this part of you is real and it will no longer tolerate repression.

Good luck.

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