Dear Petrified,

Oh the irony! Here you are in a position of authority, and you’re afraid you’re not good enough! How do you think the people who come to you for a loan feel?

Now I’m going to be blunt, but I’m not trying to be mean. I’m trying to help you, or to put more succinctly – help you to help yourself. The best way to beat your fear is this: grow up.

Tell yourself that you are in a position of authority and act accordingly. It doesn’t matter if you are scared or not. You have a job to do! You can expect that putting this sort of demand on yourself will save you.

Want something to equate this to? This is like having a baby. Before you have a baby, you can screw off in all kinds of directions. Once you have the baby, guess what? You have to clutch it up. You have to show up, day and night and in the middle of the night for that matter. You have responsibility, and it’s hard!

However, what happens to the person who fails to do this? What happens to the person who leaves their their responsibility for others to take care of? Now that, my dear, is a failure. That is a dismal human being.

If you want something to be afraid of, be afraid of that. Showing up as a parent or authority figure is something to be proud of and something you can do. It’s easy. When the fears surface, tell yourself to shut the fuck up and go to work. People are counting on you. You are counting on you.

Grown-ups have good jobs, and this is what you want, yes? Of course it is.

Good luck.

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Dear Sally,

Honestly, I don’t understand your passivity. I count one, two, three, four planets in Aries. And a Leo Moon to boot. That’s a lot of FIRE, girl! You say this man is your friend of nine years? Then how about you straight out ask him what he’s up to. What’s he doing having an anniversary with you, when he has a girlfriend!

I’ll be very candid with you. I don’t think you’re going to be happy with this sort of man I look at your Venus and Mars in Aries and think you’re going to want someone who can make things happen. You’re going to want someone with some Fight in them. Some sort of power and not this passive-aggressive bullshit.

And pity? The last thing you want is a pitiful man. You want someone ultra virile who can handle your heat. And if you don’t know you’re hot, then let this be a heads up.

Good luck!

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Dear Stuck,

You’ll get out the minute you decide to get out. Yours is a problem of indecision – the Libra curse! You can’t decide whether to be in, or to get out. I can’t decide for you, but perhaps I can tweak your perspective enough to help you find your way.

See, you think you’re caught between two poles. Do you stay, or do you go? But really, there are three places to be. You can also be in the middle, which is where you are now. How do you like it? Because you can stay right where you are. Forever!

This reminds me of an old Gary Larson cartoon. There’s a picture of a guy in a boat in the middle of an otherwise deserted lake. He’s sitting there looking completely perplexed.

“Fish? Or cut bait? Fish? Or cut bait? Fish? Or cut bait?”

So how about that? Is that guy going to spend his whole life asking that question or is he going to pick a side? And what about you?

Because it’s perfectly acceptable to be an indecisive person. Can you embrace this as a lifestyle? Can you watch the people around you choose left or choose right, while you stay in that boat with your question?

If so, you should do it. If not – then pick a side! Stay or go and rest assured, whichever you choose, your indecision will reconstitute. Because this is your nature. “Should I have gone, or should I have stayed?”

Point is, it’s your Libra nature to struggle with decisions. But I don’t think you have to let it disable you.

Good luck.

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Dear Searching,

This is a great question and I hope I can help. You want something definitive, but personally I feel that faith by its nature cannot be defined. It ebbs and flows and comes and goes. Even the most fervently religious people are likely to suffer a crisis of faith at some point.

You know. Something awful happens – some unfathomable tragedy and next thing you know, it’s “how could you do this to me, God?” And they feel like that for a day or a year or even for just a minute, before something shifts and they’re able to transcend things. For reason non-specific, their faith is restored and they are able to see things in a more universal way.

Now with a chart like yours, these sorts of rhythms dominate your life. Regardless of what you call it, God, Spirits, Nature, the Universe… the tide is the best analogy I know of to describe how faith works.

The tide goes out and comes back in, reliably, but it’s out of your control. Sometimes it goes out, leaving various treasures on the beach. Other times, the water recedes and you’re left with some ragged old boot, or other junk you don’t want. And that’s it! That’s all you have to work with until the tide comes back in, bringing relief and restoring your faith.

And higher power? Well who thinks they’re a higher power than the tide? So if you think of “higher power” in terms of the tide, you will understand it is always there. It’s always happening, even when you’re left holding that boot.

But you asked when you would trust. Well, once you’ve seen the tide come in a few hundred times, you’ll have no problem at all believing.

Good luck.

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Dear Girlfriend,

I don’t think you’re going to have any problem at all. Now I’m going to tell you something you already know.

Getting a diagnosis like this is entirely positive. Putting a name on an illness does not exacerbate it. It makes it possible to get proper treatment and see improvement, which is exactly what I think is going to happen.

Your worry is just classic Virgo stuff. It’s what Virgos do, when their minds are bored. So let me give you something else to think about – maybe some astrology, since I favor the stuff!

Your boyfriend is a double Capricorn, which means he’s ruled by Saturn. Saturn means he’s supposed to be responsible! And guess what? He has a Saturn transit to his Mercury mind coming up here pretty quick. Saturn transits force you to take responsibility – they’re all about control and boundaries. Getting this? He needs to clutch it up and take responsibility for his MIND.

This is all unfolding right on schedule. He’s going to be fine and so are you. You want to help? I know you do – you’re a Virgo. Then understand he’s scared. He’s scared to death. Anything you can do to alleviate this will be enormously appreciated. The best thing you can do for a Capricorn is make them laugh.

Good luck

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