Dear Lonely Mom,

The answer is an emphatic YES. I don’t mean to minimize whatever it was you went through, but there comes a time when your must choose to have a future, rather than re-hash the past.

Your chart is very dynamic and you know what? It doesn’t have anything to do with this guy. It’s your energy, your gifts and talents. You are choosing to focus it on events of ten years ago, when you could be using them to manifest a completely new life for yourself and your daughter.

Now I’ll tell you something. My father beat me. He beat the living hell out of me and I didn’t like it one bit. So you know what? I was seventeen when I decided no man would ever hit me again. EVER. I made this decision because I looked around, and you know what I saw?

I saw people who were not victims. They seemed to be living pretty well, so I decided to be one of them.

You can do same. Fix your hair. Put on some lipstick. Get your ass out there, and get yourself a good man. A real man. I promise you, if you steel yourself the way I did, the perp types will cut a wide swath around you, the way they do me.

And it’s not just for you, but for your daughter. What a gift, to model a healthy relationship for her. You can do this. You’ve already paid your dues. You only need to choose.

Good luck