“I’ve been writing about what I have had to realize and come to terms with as far as being with you goes,” I told the soldier last week.

“Like what.”

“Well for example, when we were kids we were going to get married but then you decided you wanted to go into Special Forces. So you are going to be an assassin, essentially. I mean, does that offend you?” I asked. “Even if it does, this is how it was seen at the time at least in the desert. No one knew what Special Forces was. Believe me they didn’t because I was asking all over the place. I asked everybody on the planet to talk to me and I guess it may be different in the South where you train and people have some exposure and knowledge but where we were at no one knew anything. I was told that Special Forces were trained assassins and that was about it. That was all anyone had to say about it other than Apocalypse Now came out which… well it did not refute that,” I said.

“Nope.”

Continue reading Mercury in Aries vs Mercury in Libra (With Mars Involved): “Why Do You Want To Marry An Assassin?”

And intense piece for the current Mars Pluto opposition..

Following up on the video about finding the love your soul is looking for, I do think the more conscious you are the better your odds. For example some people deny the idea they want or need love so they should not be surprised if it does not find them. To be conscious of yourself or at least willing to become so also seems very important to me. For example someone who constantly projects is going to have a hard time finding love because they reflect it. They literally bounce everything that comes to them back at the other person and then wonder why they are bereft.

Continue reading Why Can’t I Find Love? Denial, Projection And Various Other Sundries Like Violence

Eva writes on the Must You Fight To Have Peace blog:

“Even when you are being attacked, it’s not really you being attacked - you are the receptacle of another persons’ projections and dramas and fantasies; you are interpreting actions, words and phenomena to be an attack. What’s really going on is you are putting your stuff out there and deciding what conditions qualify as an attack - and then you have to identify an enemy, and then you have to vanquish the enemy, thus proving to yourself that you’re competent, or strong, or brave. Who knows if this is true - what is true is that you somehow need this interaction with yourself and the world to prove that you are right about reality.

Continue reading Must You Fight To Have Peace? Mars Reacting To A Violent Situation

I wanted to come back on the Triple Pisces. I rejected that woman, hard and I wanted to explain what drove me mostly because although the story stands alone, things are far more interesting when you’ve privy to more of the root.

I try to expose the roots when time permits which is why I think I so many Scorpios read here. It makes a nice meal. It makes things more satisfying but anyway, I went to see Double Aquarius, Angela Davis speak.

You can read her rich history but I saw her about 15 years ago in the early 90’s which was post her history, history when hers was a household name circa, 1970-72. In whatever case someone invited me to hear her speak (about rape) and having nothing better to do that evening, I showed up and was completely taken with her. Continue reading Rape And The Triple Pisces - Standing On Principles, It’s All Due The Double Aquarius, Angela Davis

satori writes:

I’ve never understood violence and humiliation as humour. Today I watched a video on the nets where a woman was humiliated. Comments on the video were overwhelmingly of the flavour that while they’d be mad as hell if it happened to them they had laughed their asses off. I also don’t get the whole Three Stooges I-hit-him-in-the-head-with-a-hammer school of funny.

I think it speaks to a lack of compassion for others. I think it’s pretty pervasive in our society, and I’d bet there’s a marker for it in individual charts. Suppose there are markers for everything: isn’t that what reading a natal chart is all about? Markers, for compassion, lack of compassion, maybe markers for killing.

When you have non-compassion with a marker for killing, well maybe you get the potential for a puppy-torturing serial killer, a monster. You mix the marker for compassion with the one for killing and you get The Soldier. It’s not the killing that makes one a monster; it’s the lack of compassion. Good men can kill, and yet there are many monsters who never lift a hand in violence.

I read the comments of those without compassion and felt sickened. They didn’t directly hurt anyone but I don’t get the impression they would care if they did. I’ve met so many people who think they’re compassionate when clearly they are not. I guess it’s like how everyone thinks they have a great sense of humour…

Do you have compassion? Could you kill? What if there were a marker in your chart that contradicted your answer?

I have Mars conjunct Mercury in my chart and I am going to have violent thoughts…period. Mercury is also a trickster and with Mars involved, hotted up.

A friend of mine has been betrayed, yet again.

“I don’t feel so good,” she said.

“Well yeah. It’s a double stabbing,” I said. “Stabbed in the back not once, but twice.”

“I am going to do this and this,” she said. It was all very passive, covert stuff.

“Oh yeah? I think I’d be going in there with a chainsaw, if it were me,” I said with a snort.

She laughed slightly and explained why she wasn’t going to do that.

“Yeah, I know. Well you’re not me. And I wouldn’t do that anyway, but I would sure have the impulse.”

Later more of the story unfolded…

“Okay, never mind the chainsaw. I don’t think I would want to get that close to these people. How about we just firebomb them from afar?”

I snorted and she laughed.

“Or you could just kill yourself,” I said to be a distraction. She counts on me for this, it’s why she calls. Comic relief. “Point is, I would be doing whatever I had to do to get these people out of my life. I’m going crazy just hearing about them. Good thing I’m not a Pisces because that’s exactly what I’d do if the things that happen to you, happened to me. I would just have to escape. I’m sorry, that’s all. Sorry this happens to you and glad you have a way to cope because I don’t think I could. My skin crawls off my body just standing next to people that stupid. I think you’re a hero with your tolerance and transcendence. It’s mindboggling how you can do it and you can do it.”

“Yeah.”

If you find yourself in the midst of a hornet’s nest, how do you escape?

Dear Love,

I am very sorry for how the way you are hurting and I do not think that because you are young (almost 18) that you do not know anything about love. It is clear you are a sensitive young woman with an open heart and that is all it takes to feel love. That said, you’ve got a real problem with your Dad.

Now it’s not clear if he is typically violent. I don’t know if he beats you, if he beats others, or if he went off on some kind of crazed attack in a misguided attempt to protect his daughter. What is clear is you are not going to be able to date with your father around, unless some changes are made.

If you have some semblance of a relationship with your father - which is sounds like you might - then please try to reason with him. Try to get him to see that you are growing up and he must step aside and allow you to develop. Perhaps this is possible. Does he have remorse what he has done? If he does, then you probably have a chance to reason with him.

On the other hand, if he is beating you and if he is just an incorrigible controlling tyrant, then I am afraid you are going to have to plot your way out of there so that you can conduct your life and have a boyfriend without fearing violent attack.

There is a third scenario. It is possible this boy broke the rules of your culture by seeing you without first securing your father’s permission. If this is the case, your father obviously overreacted but it is worth noting.

As for the boy… people may not like it but I am disappointed in him for abandoning you. I acknowledge it is possible he did it to protect you. You did not tell us if your father beat you or not, see. But let me answer your direct question:

Is there a chance the boy will come around? There is a chance. If you are meant to be with him he most certainly will, but his not answering your calls suggests he is not as serious about you as you are about him. And let’s not forget this boy reported having troubled relationships in the past. He seemed to be telling you in advance there was going to be a problem.

Will he forgive you and your father? You are not responsible for your father’s violent act so you do not need to be forgiven, you’ve done nothing wrong. As to how he feels about your father, it does not appear he wants to negotiate this, but rather he would like to escape the situation, leaving you holding the bag.

You sound like a very nice, very loving young woman and your chart is grand. I say figure out how you’re going to manage your father if this is possible, or otherwise how you are going to get out of that house and have a life.

And if this is cultural… well the next boy you meet, please tell him what he’s got to do to garner your father’s permission to date you. And if he won’t do it, you will know he’s the wrong boy.

Good luck and again I am very sorry for your pain.

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Busted asks on the Christopher Walken, Rambo and the Ballet blog: What sign is the soldier’s Mars in? And if someone who has Mars opposite Saturn who “mastered (Saturn) their fighting skills (Mars)” what are the negative manifestations of that aspect, you think?

Busted the soldier’s Mars is debilitated on Cancer, in mutual reception with his debilitated Moon in Scorpio. I am not sure I get the question about mastery. I guess if someone is skilled they can use their skills for good or ill but if they use them for good then I see no downside.

Problem with Mars / Saturn is it’s violent and some people operate with idea violence can be eradicated from the planet which I think is ludicrous.

So if you accept violence as part of life, it becomes obvious we are in need of people willing to meet violence with violence. Because as any of the people who have been beaten to death by a violent person could tell you, asking the person who is beating and killing them to please stop was completely ineffective.

So I think this energy is like any other energy. It exists in nature and is neutral until it’s directed.

Do you think violence is something that will always crop up in nature?