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Who attracts what, when and why and how? Check Venus in the horoscope…

Accidental Research Regarding A Man and His Mars

“There is no way I will ever be in that club,” the soldier said regarding the club my ex-boyfriends have and they do have one. “I don’t care what happens between me and you, I will not join that club.”

I stared. “I know that.”

“I may go to one meeting,” he said, shocking me.

“You’re going to go to a meeting with them?” I was stupefied. He knows how I feel about my club. I have no idea why these men decide they are going to best friends with each other when they break up with me but it happens and it happens routinely. “You’re going to a meeting with them?”

Continue reading The Ex-Boyfriend’s Club And The Little Match Girl - Are You Confused Yet?

“I don’t want to fight about money,” the soldier said over the weekend. I opened my mouth to say something and he shushed me. “Couples always wind up fighting about money, you know they do and I don’t want to do that. I hate to fight about money.”

“Well I don’t think we will,” I said. “For one thing, I am old and I have never fought about money with anyone in my life. I don’t care what you’ve done with other people, that is my history and I don’t imagine I am going to all the sudden change all that much.”

He just looked at me.

Continue reading Astrology, Venus And Your Experience And Attitude Towards Money In Relationship

I have Venus (values) square Neptune (ethereal) and Pisces (more Neptune) on the 2nd house (values) and so it plays in this way…

“Yes, I understand your position on this,” I told the soldier. “It’s just that my position is different. I am telling you, I get it. In your case a Christmas present that is some sort of tangible goods is appropriate. It’s useful and has value to you but in my case it doesn’t work like that. In fact, it makes no sense at all.”

“It makes sense to me,” he said. Continue reading Astrology and Currency: Venus, Love and Money - What Do You Want For Christmas?

Dina writes on the Love Tips blog:

“I would say the complementing is a lot of verbiage. There are more physical/tender ways to show things. Even physical proximity when watching a movie or something.”

Dina - that’s interesting. People with Venus in Gemini are probably going to love you with verbiage. I have Venus in Leo, so grand displays of affection - here they come. What about you?

How do you love? Where is your Venus and how is it aspected?

The soldier over the weekend:

“Did he love you?” he asked.

“No, I don’t think he did,” I said regarding a man in my past. “I don’t see how he could have loved me and treated me the way he did. But it’s okay. I didn’t take it personally because I don’t think he loves anyone or probably ever has. I don’t think he knows how. He just has… he has other concerns I guess.”

“I know I can love,” he said.

“I know I can love too. And I’m glad and grateful because I think there are people out there with no capacity or ability to love another person at all. I would die if that were me. I just don’t see how I would live but I really think this. That there are people like that, I mean. Do you agree?’

“Yeah, I think there are a lot of people out there like that. They don’t love anyone, no one at all and I don’t know how they do it either. I have to love. I have to love or I’d go crazy.”

“Ditto.”

Do you have to love? Where is your Venus?

The soldier and I on the phone…

“Well yeah, we didn’t have much money at all but we always seemed to have what we wanted.” he said. “Of course neither of us wanted much. What did we want?”

“I don’t know? Have a good time?”

“Yeah. And we didn’t need much money for that did we, P? As long as we were together we were happy as hell. Didn’t make any difference where we were at or what we were doing. Do you remember this?” Continue reading Astrology, Love And Money: Venus in the Natal Chart

Perhaps I am old, or perhaps it’s just a matter of taste but try as I might, I just don’t like the music my daughter is listening to these days. And this is difficult because I thought I could and should love whatever (and whoever) my kids loved but turns out I can’t manage and the truth comes out instead.

“What don’t you like about him?” she asked. She has a spectacular crush on the band’s lead singer.

“Well honey I’m sorry. I’m sorry but I just think he’s tiresome.”

“Tiresome? You think he’s tiresome?” She was shocked but curious. Your basic Plutonian Gemini.

“Yes, he bores me. And I am sorry to say that. I mean to like him and I try to like him but instead I am just bored by him.”

“Why bored?”

“Well what’s he do? All he does is go on and on about how bad his parents are and I don’t know,” I said with a chuckle. “I just think that’s boring. It does not interest me after a point. I want to know what you’re going to do. I want to know who you are. I don’t want to hear yet another dramatic way to say, I am mad at my parents. Good God.Song after song after song. Blah, blah. Can you see how that could be boring? I am bored to tears with that.”

“I could talk about that subject all day and all night,” she said.

“How bad your parents are?”

“Yeah.”

“Well go ahead. There are others out there who want to do the same thing but I’m not one of them. In fact I’d rather do anything but.”

“We have different tastes?”

“We have different tastes. And I am sorry. I will try to like your next crush, okay? I swear I will. And I wish I liked this one but I do not. However, I understand you do and I understand why and it’s fine with me. I got you the black makeup didn’t I? Rock on, babe. Do what you want; I am glad you are moved by the music.”

She has Venus/Pluto I have Venus/Neptune. No wonder…

Is there music that bores you? Where is your Venus?

pictured - Sleeping Venus, c. 1510, Giorgione b. 1477, Castelfranco, d. 1510, Venezia, Oil on canvas

Dear Torn,

You’re not really torn. You clearly prefer the first man, in spite of reporting experiencing bliss with the Sagittarian. Because bliss is bliss and I know bliss! And when you are blissfully in love with a man, you are not bugged out and obsessed with the man you had prior. The one you attempted to replace in what did you say? Two days! ::Laughs::

Look. It is very easy to find a lover. It’s much harder to find someone you love. Sounds like you have a lover with the Sagittarian. And there is nothing wrong with that.

And if you think I am going to say I think you’re in love with the Aquarian, well I’m not. I don’t think you love him, either. Sorry! Want him fiercely? Yes. But why?

Well you have a lot of Leo in your chart and I think you want him like a prize. And you have a packed 7th house, so you sure as hell don’t want be alone. But I suspect the real reason you are obsessed with the Aquarian is that he had the audacity to leave you. To leave the Queen. So here is my advice:

Come down to earth. Seriously, man. You’re a Virgo! And further, Saturn is in Leo, BAM on your Venus (love). Not only that, it’s headed for 7th house (relationships) and believe me you are not going to be able to keep cruising like this. You’re going to hit a wall and in fact you are hitting it now.

Because when a relationship ends, it takes more than two days to process it. Sorry, but this is REALITY. And when you lose someone you want, it hurts. And getting yourself some passing-by Sagittarian may stave off the pain short term but as you can see it’s not going to hold.

What’s happened here, is you’ve been rejected. That’s a Saturn thing. And if you want to grow and get anywhere, you are going to have to slow down, feel your feelings and figure out why. And I can give you a clue.

The Aquarian basically told you that you were too high maintenance, which makes sense for a gal with a lot of Leo in her chart. But rather than look at that, you find fault (Virgo) with his story and with a Saturn transit underway, you are not going get away with this.

See, it’s not the Sagittarius you are unhappy with. It’s you that you are unhappy and all this inflation and drama around your relationships is merely a diversion from that.

And I am not trying to be mean. I am just trying to get you on deck, here. Because the way your chart is set up, learning to be a grownup in relationships… learning humility is going to be your number one job for the rest of this decade. And the longer you try to postpone facing these issues, the more it’s going to hurt.

Good luck.

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