People have been remarking and in some cases complaining about my crooked lipstick for about 20 years which is about how long I have been wearing lipstick. I thought I had this resolved for the most part a few years back. The AMF said I was cured for example and I should no longer be mentioning it on my (other) blog so I thought that was that. But apparently not. Apparently I am still askew because last night the soldier mentioned this.

The soldier this is, who has not got a fashion conscious bone in his body. The soldier who states he has been wearing the same clothes since he was 12 years old and says that he sees no problem with this.

“Yeah, I see you like that sometimes and I laugh about it on my way to work. That’s my, P!” he said brightly.
Continue reading Popularity, Football, Lipstick And The Venus Uranus Quirk Around Here

Okay here’s a problem for y’all. I’ve got a gal trying to break a long-standing pattern of opting to go with Danger Boy. You know the type. He’s got an edge, might be moody, definitely non-committal, intermittently withholding, secretive, etc.

Her problem is pervasive and multifaceted. For example, she has Venus in Aquarius trine a Moon Uranus conjunct in Libra which is clearly going to resist commitment so choosing these boys serves in that fashion.

Beyond that, she has Mars in Aries opposite Pluto in Libra so she drawn to the intense challenge and perhaps the pain as well but here is what she’s asking:

Has anyone out there ever successfully weaned off Danger Boy in his various forms and established a stable partnership?  If so, please us how… and if you’re inclined, what drove you to change your ways?

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“It seems to be working out in Denver,” I said to the soldier.  “I told you once you cleared your birthday it would be a whole other situation. Solar return, have you noticed?”

“I have noticed.”

“Yeah, in 2003 you told me you could never live in Colorado. Never, ever, not in a million years.  I worry about that some. I am sorry you have to be somewhere you don’t want to be.”

“I am where I want to be, P.”

“Oh yeah but you know what I mean.”

Continue reading Mercury in Aries vs Mercury in Libra With Mars Involved: “I’ll Be Mad, Mad, Mad.”

That last bit, the 4th degree Knight and the Decoy Catholic is indicative of several astrological themes in the relationship between the soldier and I. 

For one, I have Uranus (odd) in the 7th house (partner) and the soldier has Uranus in aspect to Venus which is the same exchange.  We are not interested in relationship with no freak factor. Things unexpected have appeal.

Same energy from another angle, it illustrates how we both allow the partner to be an individual. If the soldier wants to show up in church with a sword, well I assume he has his reasons.  If I want to write our conversations on the Internet… well I guess if you don’t like it, he can always run his sword through you. Why?  Because we are friends. And this is the same energy from a third angle (Uranus rules friendship). So while he defends me with his sword I do the same with my keyboard and this brings me back to the topic I started  on and then abandoned - Synastry.

As I mention in the video, one person’s Sun trine the others Moon only goes so far. In fact I would say this other kind of stuff goes a lot further. It’s as if the straight synastry is flat and this other (affinity) is more robust and three dimensional.

That above is part one of my series on synastry. Part two is here: Painting vs Painting By Numbers

Dear Aries,

First I would say if you are attracting someone with Uranus in the 7th house, you are probably somewhat commitment-phobic yourself and sure enough, I see a tight aspect between Venus (7th house) and Uranus. Never mind you are an independent Aries with a detached Aquarius Moon!  But to answer your question, I think it is fine to marry someone with Uranus in the 7th house and you may even be able to stay that way if you give them lots of space.

You will have to deal with their impulses, which becomes possible when you can deal with your own impulses. And these relationships to tend to work best when there is regular separation.

The example that comes to mind is astrologer Stephen Arroyo’s remarks in one of his books.  For a time, he worked near an Army post and had a lot of Army wives as clients. He states he could not help but notice 70% of the women had Uranus in the 7th, so you see how this worked for them: their husbands were not around interfering with their freedoms.

Closer to home, when the soldier and I were together as kids, he went to work for 24 hours and then was home for 48 or some such schedule. This meant I could look forward to his leaving LOL and of course more recently, he has been driving a truck!

What we will do now remains to be seen but we will have to do something because like you, he has Venus in aspect to Uranus himself and the energy is going to play one way or the other.

Bottom line, I would say marriage to a Venus Uranus person should be avoided unless you are highly independent yourself.  But this is no negative reflection on the person with this exchange. You should also not marry someone really horny unless you like to screw, right?

If you like eccentrics who are unpredictable in love, if you do not wish to be bored and you can provide your own sense of security, then Venus Uranus is probably your ticket.

Good luck.

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The soldier on the phone…

“I was watching the Godfather last night and it came to the part when Micheal was in Italy and he sees Appolonia for the first time. They see each other… they just look at each other and he has to wipe the sweat from his forehead just from seeing her.”

I laughed.

“That’s how I felt when I met you. And I still feel like that every time I see you. I have to wipe the sweat from my forehead, P. Anyway he’s just standing there and someone tells him, looks like you’ve been hit by the thunderbolt. I sure know what that’s like…”

The soldier has Venus (love) sextile Uranus (sudden) so prone to sudden attraction and love at first sight. His Uranus is conjunct my Venus so I am going to trigger this tendency big time.

I have Uranus in the Venus-ruled 7th house so am prone to same and in fact, if I am not attracted to you in the first seconds I can tell you for sure I never will be. What about you?

Is there a Venus Uranus exchange in your chart?

For the Moon in Cancer… a house story:

It was February, 2007 and I was wearing the ugly pants I’d worn to fly across America and meet the soldier. I hadn’t seen him in more than 25 years and we were sitting in a truck in front of a laundromat. I had the song “Trudy and Dave” playing in my head. Trudy and Dave are John Hiatt’s outlaw couple who shot up a teller machine, took the money for the laundry and drove away clean, but never mind that…

“Well, I’ll tell you what I plan to do,” he said.

“Tell me.” Continue reading Ugly Pants Across America - The Soldier and P At The Laundromat

Neptune = confusion, dissolving.
Uranus = eccentric friendship.
Venus = love and relationship

And this is how relationships go when outer planets are involved…

“Did we ever break up?” he asked. “I don’t think we ever did manage to break up.”

“I don’t know,” I said. It was 2003 and I didn’t remember.

“Well I don’t think we ever did and I’ve always thought this was strange. How come we never got in a fight? A real fight, I mean. A fight where someone says, I don’t want you anymore. I don’t want to see you. I don’t love you and not only that, you can kiss my ass and go to hell!! Do you know we never had a fight like that? Because we never did.”

“Really? But we separated all the time. How?”

“Oh, well 9 times out of 10, or 10 times out of 10, you just threw me out,” he said.

“But that’s not breaking up?”

“I don’t think so. You never said, I don’t want to see you anymore. You never said, don’t come back tomorrow. You just said get out. Or get the hell out, is what you’d say. And when you said that, I’d just go. I didn’t want to be around you when you were like that anyway, so I didn’t care. She doesn’t want me here, I’m gone. I’d just get on the bike and go wherever. I’d call my friends and we’d go out.” Continue reading The Soldier and P - 36: Are You Still My Boyfriend? Venus, Neptune, Uranus in Love and Relationship

Someone wrote me the other day asking if a 7th House Uranus meant they were “doomed”. I have a 7th house Uranus (or 8th depending on which house system you use) and have never felt doomed in any way. I will say my love relationships (7th house) manifest very quickly, and i n the case of the soldier and I… his natal Uranus (fast) is conjunct my Venus (love) so this energy definitely plays and this is how:

“Well we slept together the night we met,” he said.

“We did? I thought it was the next night. Didn’t I kick you out?”

“Yeah, you kicked me out. You kicked me out and I was leaving but then you decided you wanted me to stay and I wanted to stay so I stayed and shortly after that we decided to go to bed together so we did.” Continue reading The Soldier and P - 29: Uranus in the 7th House, Venus Conjunct Uranus in Synastry

I had ten minutes before I had to leave for the airport when I noticed the zipper on my ugly pants was broken. Oh no! What to do?

My mind scrambled. Surely this must be a sign, but a sign of what?

A sign I needed some safety pins! Yes! So I pinned my pants on and off I went!

Later in the airport I was talking to HQ:

“Well here’s what I learned,” I said. “If you wear ugly pants, you can do anything. You can say anything to anyone. I was going on in the airport shuttle. It was okay though. People were laughing.”

“I don’t understand,” he said. “You need ugly pants to do this? Since when…”

I interrupted him. “Well, I’m just saying I feel very liberated (Uranus) in these pants. Because…”

All the sudden I understood what he was saying. I was talking pretty freely about murder and mayhem when I was visiting him in New York. That lady in the coffee shop had to leave.

“Um… I’m really happy,” I said. “That’s what I’m trying to tell you. If you wear pants like this, you can clearly get away with anything. And the fact they are pinned on is a bonus. If they break anymore, I’m going to get some duct tape, I guess.”

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