The soldier and I were talking about an old love of mine…

“I have been thinking about him lately and wondering what he came up with. Do you suppose he’s told himself a story about how awful I am? Or do you think he sees it in another light?”

“He’s probably told himself a story,” he said.

“Yeah, I think he might have. I think he may have a whole story constructed by now and then if becomes reality even if it’s not real. Why do people do that?”

“It’s a defense.”

“Against what?”
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The soldier was going through his mail and handed me his Social Security Statement. “Look at this, P,” he said. “This is all the money I have ever made in my life.”

I looked at the figures trying to think what I was supposed to say or glean from them.

“Look there,” he said pointing to the first year he reported income. “I was 15 when I started working. I made $414 working on a farm,’ he said with a snort. “And look at what I made when I met you. I made $5500 that year, almost $5600.”

“This is unbelievable,” I said as the figures on the page started to mean something.

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Getting beat up in many ways by Saturn’s opposition to Venus in Pisces however I can see how some things are getting straightened out. Now I have Venus in aspect to Neptune which would indicate tastes that morph and the relationship I am in has a lot to say about the direction. I have changed relationships in the last year or so but my wardrobe has not caught up. Venus Neptune is notorious for confusion and under the current sky I feel pressured to focus on this and figure it out (Saturn in Virgo).

“Well I have no need to look that good anymore. I was walking around like I belonged in a painting all the time and while I am glad I learned to do that, I just don’t have the need anymore.”

“I understand.”

I was talking about my days with the AMF who was a painter. He really taught me how to put clothes together.

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satori caught this one. I was talking to her about shopping today, I caught a glimpse of myself in very harsh light and egads! I have degraded!

Not to say I feel bad because I don’t. I feel okay about aging, it was just that saw I saw it all at once and I was telling satori it was just as well. You want to find this stuff out before you buy new clothes rather than after so you can make adjustments.

“Yeah, you just have to be very careful what you wear when you’re old. You can still look good (Venus in Pisces) but you really have to scrutinize everything you put on (Virgo) and remember your age (Saturn).

“Is there something in the sky?” she asked. “Because I had this same conversation with someone else today…”

So yeah, there is something in the sky. Saturn in Virgo says mind your age if you want to look good (Venus)!

It was also a good day to see my age because with Venus in Pisces, transcendence is easy to achieve.

The soldier came home this weekend, I was dizzy with glee and he looked at me dumbfounded.

“What?”

“I’m just not used to someone being glad to see me. The only person ever glad to see me is the dog.”

I stared. I just have no idea what to say to something like that.

“The dog and that turkey who thought I was it’s mother one time,” he added. “Those are the only people glad to see me.”

“Oh for Godsakes, that’s so hard to believe,” I said feeling disturbed. “Well, whatever. That’s all changed now. That is no longer the reality, you freak. A turkey,” I said with a smirk and a head shake. “What luck you have, I don’t know what else to say.”

Venus Saturn gets love late in life, it’s a textbook case.

“Oh, it’s terrible,” I said, “Vidroid got rejected by a girl at school today. A girl he likes.”

The soldier groaned.

“Yeah, it was bad. Apparently his friend was trying to fix him up. He said, hey. Vidroid likes you. Do you like him? And the girl stood there. Er… no.”

“Gah.”

“Yeah, he really felt bad. He was decimated. He feels like shit… he feels horrible.”

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Dear Gemini,

No I never feel like I am failing my chart and I don’t think you are failing yours. You have chart ruler Venus in Aries (the sign of its detriment) square Saturn, so it’s no great surprise you encounter strife and struggle in relationships. This aspect would also make you prone to feeling you are failing, so there you go - your chart is working just fine.

The Venus Saturn also explains your weary feelings along with your Moon Neptune in Scorpio which is going to see the tide go out from time to time regardless of what you do. So the real problem here is the horoscopes you are reading.

First, not everyone who says they can read a chart can… and secondly you can’t just apply these bits you read here and there and think they ought to apply, because there are just too many things to take into consideration and I can equate this to hair.

A lot of people have black hair but it is all the same? It’s not. Black hair is long, short, kinky, straight, fine, coarse, etc. Some people have a head full; others have just one hair left, others have Mohawks and so on and on. Now if you read on the web that all black haired people are going to (or should) part their hair on the left and comb it over, is this going to be accurate? It’s not. It is going to be ridiculous.

I say if you are going to use astrology, get it right and get something out of it. In this case you are using astrology to feel bad about yourself which is a lousy application. It could easily be supporting you but which tack you take is entirely up to you.

Good luck.

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Dear Sixteen,

I feel terrible for you. I am so sorry this guy pulled out like that and broke your heart in the process. It’s very important you don’t blame yourself for his behavior. The fact is no one deserves to be left in this manner and only a coward pulls this kind of stunt - so my advice is that you think in one direction as opposed to another.

Think about how this man is someone who can drop out like this, knowing full well you are going to twist and ache about it. Think about the quality of person who could act in this manner and re-think the idea he is amazing. Because is this an amazing thing to do? It’s not.

Once you’re done thinking about that, think about how you are never going to do something like this to another a person, knowing how badly it injures them and if you follow this path you will be living your chart which with Venus in aspect to Saturn, shows a person who can be responsible in love.

What you don’t want to do is live the negative expression of that same aspect… that is to dog yourself, feel there is something wrong with you or you are flawed in some way because this is not the case! Do you see how dicey this is? You are going one way or the other. Chose reality over your fear, okay?

Reality - this guy is a jerk, regardless of what you thought or how you felt
Fear - He is terrific and no one will love you ever.

Much love and good luck.

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The soldier’s Venus in aspect to Saturn (thinks he’s no good) clashes with my Mars Mercury conjunction (hotted up all the time, sex talk) and blah, blah, blah, the beat goes on.

“I’m getting a frame for your picture today,” I said. “Your military picture when you were a kid.”

“You have one of those?”

“I do. You gave it to me when we were young. I kept it all these years.”

“Why didn’t you throw that away? I met you shortly after that picture was taken. You came in the room and I stood up right away and said, you can sit here, ma’am. I said it just like that. I called you ma’am hoping you’d like me.”

“Yeah, that crap worked.”

“Is that a face only a mother could love? It is isn’t it? Why do you want such an ugly picture? Is that picture so ugly it makes your eyes stand out from your head? Do your eyes bug out when you look at it?”

“No!”

I said something filthy and he responded by being responsible.

“I was going to call you if we were going to get hit by a nuclear weapon back then. I’d have called you, P.”

“I know.”

“You are the only one who ever put a picture of me in a frame besides my mother.”

“Oh? That’s very strange. Well you are framed now and…” More filthy talk…

“Oh, P, you talk to me like you’re my girlfriend. I like your girlfriend kind of talk. I don’t have to eat spinach, just listen to you to be energized.”

Dear Aries,

I hate to tell you this but I think he is still carrying a torch. Not to say he doesn’t love you. With Venus in Gemini (two loves) conjunct Saturn, I would say this is most likely the case and go on to say if he was with her, he would miss you and vice versa. In other words this guy is not likely to be all that satisfied regardless and there is another wrinkle.

His Venus Saturn conjunction is in aspect to Uranus so he constantly wants free of all this anyway. He wants space so let’s see how he gets it: first, he falls in love with a married woman and now he uses her to maintain space in his relationship with you. Are you getting this? I hope so.

On your end, you have a stellium in Aries so you’re going to like the fight. You naturally rise to the challenge to best this woman, that is. But unfortunately you also have Venus in Capricorn, etc which shows that underlying all this is a deep fear you don’t deserve any better.

I imagine you fear you are not worthy of a man who would love you and only you and this is the part that needs the work. Because as is, you are settling… when in your own words, you state that you will never be happy settling.

Good luck.

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