Thanks everyone for your good wishes.  We appreciate it!  We’re both happy as hell and I’ll tell you more as soon as we’re settled down.

I know most would be curious as to why I am writing on my blog the day after I got married and it’s simple. The soldier has to leave tomorrow (or Monday it we are extra lucky) and he has some things to do that require complete attention before he goes so he’s doing that and I am doing this and he’s done we’ll go back to hibernating until he has to leave.
Continue reading Thanks and On The Venus Pluto Front… Filling The Void With A Scorpio Love (?) Story

“You’re going to be a decent person, when?”

I recorded this in 2008. With Saturn going into Libra it is newly relevant. Does the manner in which you leave one relationship impact the next? Does the trail of bodies behind you mean anything?

“Hey Elsa, All else being equal, how would you feel about marrying someone with Saturn in the Seventh?”

Boy, that’s a good question. For people new to astrology, traditional interpretation of Saturn in the 7th house (or any other Venus Saturn exchange) is burden in relationship. There are other manifestations of course. People marry older partners, controlling partners, the marriage is a business deal and I could go on and on. Fact is whatever the case, some restriction is given.

Now before you go swearing off anyone with a Venus Saturn exchange in their chart (or stabbing yourself if it’s you with Saturn in the 7th) just consider the alternative. How would you like a partner with no restrictions, hmm? How about he or she runs amok all over the land? Sound any better? I didn’t think so.
Continue reading Open Question: Saturn In The 7th House… Would You Marry Them? How Popular Is Real Love Anyway?

The soldier and I were talking about a young couple we know, concerned they might break up.

“You think they might? Don’t you think they love each other? Really love each other?”

“Yeah, I do. I think they do love each other but love is not enough.”

I stared.

“P, we loved each other. You couldn’t find two kids more in love than we were and it didn’t do any good. Love was not enough. You’ve got to have some maturity. People aren’t that smart when they’re young, they won’t listen to anyone and they’ve no idea what they are throwing away.”
Continue reading Here Is Something Sobering: “Love Is Not Enough”

Full Moon, Lunar Eclipse aside, with Venus (in it’s detriment) conjunct Saturn and Mercury in Virgo, I am getting nothing but news of people getting reality (Saturn) shoved down their throats. This is limited, there is not enough of that, you’ve got to work harder, longer and for less… in short, you have got to clutch it up and oh by the way - NO WHINING!

We can hope for some relief via the lunar eclipse but this Virgo situation is serious. I found myself calling the one person I speak to frequently and while she did not pick up, my intention was to either find out she was doing ok (a spot of good news for my inner circle) or alternately to make sure all the bad news was in because I am telling you it is not a good day to have your phone ring!

Continue reading Astrology Right Now: Lunar Eclipse Aside, Endings, Lost Confidence, Disowned, Rejected And Tears!

I was telling the soldier about my grandmother the other night… Henry’s wife. She was only married to him a short time, he just couldn’t hold her. She was much younger than him and he held no ill will towards her even though she left him alone with the baby (my mother), 2 1/2 at the time.

Anyway, you can get a load of her here (Henry’s Wife). The soldier said he knew the feeling (can’t hold on to her) and I admit I am a lot like her even though I only met her once in my life. She moved from the desert to Boston where she sent pictures for decades, every single one of them, pure drama. She’s always be dressed to the nines and posed with her hands in the air on some street corner with a skyscraper backdrop. She had to stage this stuff… the photographer would have to be across the street for example, this was obvious from the pictures. A few days later the soldier was sitting on the bed tying Army knots.
Continue reading Venus Conjunct Saturn: Celebrating Old People Love

Last night I was talking to the soldier about writing his son. “Yeah, I tell him I love you all the time. I tell him allll the time. He probably doesn’t know what to make of it. Some woman loves his dad? How the hell could that happen.”

“Well, P, he probably thinks you’re crazy.”

“Yeah, maybe. Or maybe he thinks you’re the crazy one,” I said.

“Well he probably takes that as a given.”

“Oh.  Well at least we’re colorful. That’s got to be something..?”

“Yeah, we’re colorful all right. Lot of good that’s gonna do him. They’re colorful…” He sneered and I laughed.

I was going to tell him how important I think entertainment is but I changed my mind because I was imagining us both colored with crayons and I was so entertained I forgot.

Dear Elsa,

Curious

Dear Curious, here is your lousy answer: It depends. Some people have a difficult aspect like Saturn square Venus in their chart but they also have the ability to ignore it. Let’s say they have a grand trine for example.

When someone has a grand trine it indicates an easy flow in certain aspects of their life. They just don’t have to worry about whatever these areas are so they may opt to focus on the ease and deny the thing they lack. A good example of this would be a woman who achieves like crazy… really very easily however no one loves her (Venus) really (Saturn). This could be a teen star for example.
Continue reading Open Question Regarding Transits To The Natal Chart (Saturn Square Venus Specifically)

Dear Stuck,

Yes, I see him out of your life… as soon as you put him there! You’re 30-something years old and you get to choose the company you keep, particularly in your primary relationship!

Here’s the astrology: You have Saturn (responsibility) tied up with Venus (love) in your chart. I’m guessing you feel responsible for him. I’m also guessing he reinforces this erroneous idea and in effect, restricts you but it’s not real. In reality, you’re restricting yourself but hopefully not for long because your real responsibility to yourself. So here’s your answer:

Yes, he’ll be out of your life but not because he decides to stop clinging. He’s going to cling and you know it. You have to leave (a Sagittarius forte) but this time once outside, close the door firmly and run like the free horse that you are.

Freedom is that easy. Good luck.

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It was my ex and mega-Scorpio, the AMF who made me aware of “happy people” in the world. He is quite astute and pointed out that I was a happy person as were various people we’d run across. A waitress with a wide grin for example. Just random people we’d see - He’d always notice the happy ones because he just couldn’t figure them out.

With his Venus in Scorpio conjunct Saturn in the 8th, he’d wonder, “Now why in the world is that guy happy? What’s he got to be happy about..?”

It was very queer for us because we spent a lot of time together, one of us always grinning the other one wondering why.

The AMF vacillated between envying “happy people” and thinking us something akin to brain-damaged but in whatever case we were both amused and talked about this a lot.

Now obviously people have a predisposition towards happiness that is shown vividly in a chart but here’s the question:

Can a (basically) unhappy person learn to be happy?

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