Thanks everyone for your good wishes.  We appreciate it!  We’re both happy as hell and I’ll tell you more as soon as we’re settled down.

I know most would be curious as to why I am writing on my blog the day after I got married and it’s simple. The soldier has to leave tomorrow (or Monday it we are extra lucky) and he has some things to do that require complete attention before he goes so he’s doing that and I am doing this and he’s done we’ll go back to hibernating until he has to leave.
Continue reading Thanks and On The Venus Pluto Front… Filling The Void With A Scorpio Love (?) Story

It was my ex and mega-Scorpio, the AMF who made me aware of “happy people” in the world. He is quite astute and pointed out that I was a happy person as were various people we’d run across. A waitress with a wide grin for example. Just random people we’d see - He’d always notice the happy ones because he just couldn’t figure them out.

With his Venus in Scorpio conjunct Saturn in the 8th, he’d wonder, “Now why in the world is that guy happy? What’s he got to be happy about..?”

It was very queer for us because we spent a lot of time together, one of us always grinning the other one wondering why.

The AMF vacillated between envying “happy people” and thinking us something akin to brain-damaged but in whatever case we were both amused and talked about this a lot.

Now obviously people have a predisposition towards happiness that is shown vividly in a chart but here’s the question:

Can a (basically) unhappy person learn to be happy?

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R.E.M. - Shiny Happy People

Dear Ungrounded,

I know you have been reading my stuff for five years, you know my style so I feel I can be blunt and in fact you’ll appreciate it. In whatever case, I am willing to take this chance and tell you that reading this I wonder if you really want to solve your problem. Because you seem to enjoy this sort of poetic masturbation immensely, sort of like being endlessly fascinated with what may be inside a broken VCR rather than cracking the case and finding out. So if this is the case, I’d say carry on. You are your own unsolvable riddle. But if you want practical steps to change your reality here’s the outline… an actual flow chart!

First, accept you have needs. Then you ask your partner to meet them. In this case, “I feel insecure and would like you to tell in words what I mean to you.”

If he meets your needs and you find yourself shored up - End
If he ignores you, decide if you can live without reassurance.

If you can’t? End
If you can live without - Continue

Decide how much bother it is to live with the insecurity.

Not so much - End
Can’t live with it - Therapy

Tell the therapist you are fixed on this, and they will help you discover if the problem is due some complex based on your upbringing or otherwise offer you medication to quell your fears and/or obsessions. Because you have this problem precisely defined and it’s clear the problem comes from within.

You have an 8th house Venus in exact opposition to Pluto, so there is not going to be some flippy trick to stop this. If it were me, I would crack the case of the VCR, dig in and discover the problem so I could fix it and not be plagued. But I have the feeling you would rather ponder why there is a VCR in the room in the first place… if in fact there is a VCR there and the thing you see is not a figment. And I don’t think there is anything wrong with this. I just don’t think you’re going to solve anything less you want to get dirty.

Good luck.

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